don't think I can do this :(

[xAngelbaby]

Hey ladies I'm 12 weeks pregnant and going to be a single perent :s. Been with fob for three years and split up before I knew I was pregnant. We did not have the best three years had he used to hit me and me being stupid stayed with him. We split up about three months ago now, we still tex eachother sometimes and he sead he's going to be there for the baby. Today he phoned me and sead that he's lost his job, and I found out a week ago he's moved on and got a new girlfriend! I'm so upset how can he move on? While I'm carring his baby can't stop crying. I just want karma to hit him really hard. Feel like he's got the perfect life and I haven't. I know I'm better off has he hit women and is also on drugs, I'm so scared to be a single mummy

 

[Jade--x]

You can totally do this hun. I was 17 pregnant alone with a screwed up ex. I did it my LO is now almost 4, and I have another LO, and I'm a single mum again. Don't doubt yourself, as soon as your LO is in your arms..You'll wonder what on earth you were worrying about. It's not easy but it's so much easier to do it alone from the beginning than it is to split up once you're used to having them there..As for him moving on..Screw him. Wish them the best (she's gonna need the luck by the sounds of it) and get on with your own life..You're the one with all the best things to look forward to x

 

[lemontree12]

reading your post made me think it was me a year ago. this time last year, i was 3months pregnant by the bloke i spent 4years with and lived with for the last 3, he dumped me a week before xmas leaving me with a home and moved on with another girl (im pretty sure he was cheating on me with) i had no home and no family around. every morning i woke up with dread in my stomach with hating how my life had become, i was so frightened about my future. i truely did not want my baby.and cried everyday of my pregnancy.
the reason why i tell you this is because its a year on, and i live in a lovely home with the most amazing little person i can ever imagine. she is truely my world and i cant even explain the joy she brings me every second. my ex, stood by his decision and refused to meet her which his family also stood by his decision, now we dont talk. it took me time but i excepted this and now im at a stage where im thankful i dont have to share my little girl. im not going to lie, it was the some of the toughest moments of my life, but now id go threw all that and 10times for my daughter.
if you need to talk feel free to message me everything will be ok, this is something i wish i listened to.

 

[fairydust87]

Im telling you, you will be a better mum as a single mum. Its good he wants to be apart of LO life but doesnt mean you have to be and be glad hes moved on and pity that girl lol. Hes not a catch. You will find someone decent in time dont worry about anything lifes to short

 

[Shezza84uk]

Agree with all the responses, you are much better off being a single mom I am sure you would prefer that your child growing up in a stable environment without abuse and violence a daughter or son who won't think that's the way to treat a person! As for his new GF wish her all the luck in the world.. Try to focus on your health and you precious baby xxx

 

[moomin_troll]

U can do this!

His life isn't perfect, he's a woman beating scumbag who will end up doing to this girl exactly what he's done to u.
Concentrate on urself for now, let urself grieve for the relationship uve lost and u will get over it and wonder why the hell u even cared in the first place.

Also don't think of urself as a single mum, we are all just mums who work dam hard to make sure we raise our children the best we can no matter how hard it gets x

 

[xAngelbaby]

Thanks for the advise ladies I started to move on and think I could do this but things have gone worse! He's been texting me saying he loves me and the baby and he's going to change and has been really nice with me! He's been over and everything was fine. Last nite he was suppose to come over and I was texting him and he texted bk and said leave me alone :s I tex him bk and said I don't want him anywere near the baby when he's hear or in the birth. I don't want him near the baby when I'm due in july as he takes drugs and I'm scared he will hurt the baby as well with him temper. Anyways he's told his two sisters what I have said and they have been tex me all day saing there taling me to court! The thing is they can take me to court but I work with booth of them everyday for two ours in a playgroup. Don't need there stess tmorrow if they start being nasty wte should I do? X

 

[moomin_troll]

If they start being nasty I would put in a formal complaint to ur boss.
As for court I very much doubt he'd spend the money :/

 

[teal]

You absolutely can do it. From what you've said you're much better off without him in your life.

I agree that if the messages get nasty/abusive/harassing then make a complaint to your boss. Another option could be to change your number.

 

[Bub2be2013]

Hey ladies I'm 12 weeks pregnant and going to be a single perent :s. Been with fob for three years and split up before I knew I was pregnant. We did not have the best three years had he used to hit me and me being stupid stayed with him. We split up about three months ago now, we still tex eachother sometimes and he sead he's going to be there for the baby. Today he phoned me and sead that he's lost his job, and I found out a week ago he's moved on and got a new girlfriend! I'm so upset how can he move on? While I'm carring his baby can't stop crying. I just want
karma to hit him really hard. Feel
like he's got the perfect life and I haven't. I know I'm better off has he hit women and is also on drugs, I'm so scared to be a single mummy

Hey hun i sent you a private msg hope you read it and reply i was in the same boat as u and leaving an moving on was the best choice i ever made for me and my unborn babe u can do it

 

[Bub2be2013]

Damn it i did send u a msg but according to my msg box i didnt grrrrrr angry now cuz it was a long msg

 

[xAngelbaby]

Got your massage hun and have inbox u back I'm better off without a loser like that and my baby is as well and good luck to his new girlfriend I have heard she's on drugs as well lol. Just need to enjoy this pregnancey now I can do this x

 

[moomin_troll]

We all have our bad days. I still sit there and think "shit I can't do this" then realise I've been doing it for the past 2 yrs so yes I can lol and yes u can do it too x

 

[Bub2be2013]

Got your massage hun and have inbox u back I'm better off without a loser like that and my baby is as well and good luck to his new girlfriend I have heard she's on drugs as well lol. Just need to enjoy this pregnancey now I can do this x

Good work n positive thinkng hun wil help ya thru n glad u got support i replied to yr inbox msg btw xx

 

[justhoping]

Thanks for the advise ladies I started to move on and think I could do this but things have gone worse! He's been texting me saying he loves me and the baby and he's going to change and has been really nice with me! He's been over and everything was fine. Last nite he was suppose to come over and I was texting him and he texted bk and said leave me alone :s I tex him bk and said I don't want him anywere near the baby when he's hear or in the birth. I don't want him near the baby when I'm due in july as he takes drugs and I'm scared he will hurt the baby as well with him temper. Anyways he's told his two sisters what I have said and they have been tex me all day saing there taling me to court! The thing is they can take me to court but I work with booth of them everyday for two ours in a playgroup. Don't need there stess tmorrow if they start being nasty wte should I do? X

show them the texts between you and your x...this way they will see he is the piece of poo not you and tell them (if there stable) and ur ok with it...that its not them u want out of the baby's like its him because (fill in the blank)...i bet you they will probably be more understanding then you know..x