Don't you just love...

[Jem_x3]

.. when FOB turns up unexpectedly at your door wanting to talk? Ugh! I was doing so well without him in my life and he comes back to mess my head up once again. I let him control me for so long I'd always told him that the door was open to see his child but he turned his back and told me he wanted nothing to do. And now this. But he doesn't just want to be a "weekend dad" he wants to be a family.. He hurt me so bad and we talked and he was still blaming it all on me.. he's so good at twisting everything. My head is so messed up now Sorry for rant lol

 

[carolyn_s]

didnt want to read and run...



i dont know your background so cant really comment - stay strong. xx

 

[billy2mm]

if he is blaming the break up all on you to me it doenst sound like a good way to start a relationship.

good luck hun and dont be pushed into anything!

 

[teal]

 

[scottishgal89]

hun you know you deserve so much better than him
have you heard from him since?

 

[Jem_x3]

Yeah.. he'd apparently been trying to get hold of me through email for ages cause I changed my number and blocked everything on facebook but I never check my email lol so he eventually decided to turn up.. I gave him my number as I'd always said I wouldn't deny him his daughter and that I'd let him know when she was born.. stupid me though he calls me at silly o clock in the morning wanting to talk to me telling me he doesn't want her bought up in a broken home and he's sorry and he regrets it all.. ugh. I don't know what to do. I told myself I'd never get back with him and right now I do feel happy where I'm at. I had a huge argument with my mum who said she'd kick me out if I got back with him and she's telling me I should of told him to eff off and to get a lawyer and keeps telling me not to let him see her.. and now things are strained with her. But she's trying to tell me what to do and control the situation. She's had 5 kids by 3 men and all those men have walked out and I understand she doesn't want that to happen to me but it's MY daughter, my decision but she won't have any of it. I don't know what I'm supposed to do.. she won't even talk to me. It's all messed up again :'(

 

[scottishgal89]

right now...you need to concentrate on you and bubs ok?
have your baby, let him know.
dont think about you two, if he contacts you, tell him you dont want contact and that you'll contact him when she's here.
after that, you have bigger priorities than you and him. your going to have a gorgeous little girl to run around after.
dont let him push anything on you. i think all guys play the- i dont want lo being brought into a broken home card because they realise what they're missing out on. but at the end of the day. your happier apart and will both love your daughter loads. thats better than being together and unhappy, arguing in front of lo, etc. that will tire you as well. having a baby isnt easy and neither is the weeks after until you adjust and get into a routine.
stay strong hunni. you dont need him and you dont need him laying that crap on you just now. it's too late to start trying to fix your relationship now. keep your mum close. mine has been the biggest support ever

 

[Hollys_Twinny]