Double barrel surname???

[babynewbie]

We are having a problem with choosing my little mans surname, me and OH are not married so dont know whose surname to go with, i personally want to use his, but theres a lot of pressure particularly from my family to use my own....(its a longg story and goes a long way)

Anyway, were thinking of having it double barrelled, ive never been too keen but im coming round to the idea but am unsure whether it sounds ok all togther..?

 

[Jemma_x]

What is LO's name going to be hun?

 

[babynewbie]

Weve chosen Harry Daniel but i dont know if it sounds good with both surnames, i keep walking around saying it in different tones of voices haha!

 

[angeljewel]

TBH I'm not a fan of double-barrell surnames, it would feel like all three of you would have seperate surnames!

If you want to use your OHs surname then use it, don't listen to what other say!! Is there any way that in the future you and OH would get married? Cos then your little one would have a different surname to you both!!

Its totally up to you, but I can just imagine the poor little thing learning to spell his name at school, what a mouthful lol x

 

[suzanne108]

I've got a double barrel surname and love it!!

 

[polo_princess]

Im not a lover of double barrelled surnames either, it just complicates things, what happens when they grow up and get married, will they have 3 surnames? And their children etc etc

If you personally are comfortable then i would go with OH's surname, that way when you guys get married you will all have the same family name.

 

[Plumfairy]

Layla has a double barreled surname as there was no way I was letting my family name come to an end lol! If we ever get married (Im not keen on the idea so unlikely) then I'd take the double barrel name too! I like em!

 

[myasmumma]

i dont like double barrelled but thats my opinion i just think if you get married you know thats great but if you split and marry someone else baby is not going to have either parents name so it gets confusing

 

[suzanne108]

There have been other threads about this and apparently...

If you give baby your surname you can change it when/if you get married.

If you give baby your OHs surname then you would need his permission to change it to yours IF you ever split up.

Personally...after things that have happened to me this pregnancy I would never give my baby the mans surname unless I was married!

 

[MrsRoughton]

i gave Holly her fathers surname as i believe he is her dad and nothing will ever change that and when we finally get round to tying the knot i will have same surname as both of them. and whether we split or not she will still be his daughter. i may have felt differently if he had not been a wonderful partner/my best friend. we did contemplate having double barrel but he has really long surname and would be to much. but we like my surname as a boys name so maybe i could sneak it in if i ever have a boy!!!!

 

[Amygdala]

Personally I like the idea of double-barreling. Have you thought about doing it the other way round though? Ainge-Pannell flows better I think. Is Pannell your last name or your OHs? I think Ainge would work as another middle name as well if that was an option?
As for the "what if you marry someone else" question: If you go for your own last name or a double-barrel, what's to stop you from making any future husband (your OH or someone else) take your name?

 

[Mork]

Hi there, my two pence worth is :
me and dh are married, i tried his surname for a while but couldn;t get used to it so changed it back by deed poll, thus our baby will have a double barralled surname which will be mine then dh's x

 

[Rebaby]

Oooh i posted my own thread about this a little while ago and had a great response...but am still no nearer to making a decision either way

Our names go well together (and yours do too i think!) so no worries there, but i keep trying out the names we have picked for LO with various middle name and surname combos and i cannot decide at all.

We're not married and not planning to be (although planning to live the rest of our lives together hopefully ) and it is important to my dad's side of the family that my surname "lives on" (although this has only come to light since me being pregnant ) but i had always just assumed i would give our LO OH's name.

There are pros and cons both ways i think, and like i say, we're still not sure. I am errring on the side of going with just OH's name but every now and again i think "nooo, it will be nice to have my name in there too!" so i really am not much help to you at all am i?!

 

[Fliss_floss]

Personally I'm really not a big fan of double barralled names. Although me and my partner are not married i have said from the start that LO will take his surname (even though i really love my surame...it's really unusual)

You have two really lovely surnames to choose from though!
x

 

[Pyrrhic]

Hi there, my two pence worth is :
me and dh are married, i tried his surname for a while but couldn;t get used to it so changed it back by deed poll, thus our baby will have a double barralled surname which will be mine then dh's x

How did you go about doing this? OH and I are considering it.

 

[Pink_Tinks]

im in the same boat... cant decide whos name to take.
Tho cant double barrel as they both end in 'son'
example, our cat is Samson Anderson Ferguson lol he loves it!

the only reason i would take OH's surname is if he proposes to me before baby is born, or if we cant get around child care issues (my mum is a childminder, but i cant use childcare vouchers to pay her as its grandparent looking after, but if i take OH's surname he can get vouchers from his work to pay her...)

such a pickle...