Down about something my aunty said..

[bbyno1]

Yesterday i took Aliyah round to my nan and granddads house for new year's day. All my family was there. They have seen Aliyah only a handful of times and my aunty has only seen her the once before yesterday when she was about 6 weeks old.

Anyway obviously everyone wanted a cuddle of her.Every time i passed her to a family member she started really crying. She doesn't really like being passed to anyone in general (even my mum who she lives with) she won't start crying immediately but after 5 minutes she will. I think it may be separation anxiety as she even screams with her daddy!

Anyway i had a really hard day with her yesterday when everyone just wanted a cuddle and couldn't understand why she was screaming at each of them. Even if they went close and spoke to her while i was holding her she screamed and even if they touched her while i was holding her she would cry her eyes out.

I don't fullly understand it myself? But my aunty said 'oh,i think she needs loads of help,take her to the midwife and ask them to give her a physical examination! Everyone in the room went silent and just looked at her,then me and i just said' no she is fine' and she was like 'well i don't know how they can just rule everything out!When obviously she has something wrong with her'

Now..I don't know any baby that does it to the extent Aliyah does but surely it doesn't mean she needs to be physically examined or does she?x

 

[princessellie]

of course she doesnt, what will a physical examination do anyways lol, silly woman, ignore her! naomie is the same, shes fine for a while but then cries for me, even when shes sat on her dad sometimes i have to go and take her and sit her on me instead lol x

 

[bbyno1]

Aliyah is really bad. Someone in the street only has to come near her and say 'oh your cute' (as they do!) and she will hold her breath and scream!
As soon as she see's anyones face near her apart from mine she just bursts in to tears so much that she actually holds her breath for about 8 seconds and goes bright red x

 

[ouchwithNo.2]

Examined for what?!
I expect she was totally overwhelmed by all the faces, familar and unfamilar all giving her attention.
At 5/6mths they do go through a clingy stage and it will go by itself just don't try and play up to it too much - leave the room but talk, don't run back in to the slightest noise etc, it will pass.
My LO is quite happy to be left alone but she is almost 7mths now but I have noticed that she is slightly wary of MIL (good girl....), takes a while to get used to her and she looks for me. I think this is because she doesn't see her often.
Aliyah def doesn't need anyone to examine her!!
xxx

 

[MrsNovBaby]

Logie is the same, I even have to take him out of the room to calm him sometime. Now Christmas is over and our house is not so busy he is a lot happier xx

 

[cupcake23]

How silly!

I wouldn't listen, I don't have this problem, my lo will go to anyone! but If she's content with you and there's loads of people around (who she doesn't know) why would she want to leave you? I would think it was natural that if you spend 24-7 with her she's at her happiest with just you

 

[Dragonfly]

Why cant people understand that at this age and a few months on to babies are like this? it does calm down but people label it as clingy and often make it worse. not saying you are but theres nothing wrong with your child, it will pass you will see. All she needs is her mum or dad, love and cuddles. My son wouldnt go near my mum for over a year! but then she is evil. but with his other gran it took a while, nothing personal to them its a phase. And anyone implying theres something wrong with your child is really annoying, my mum done that as well. said he was slow in mentality and not growing fast enough. He is smarter than her and dosnt have to be fat .

 

[lily123]

I know exactly how you feel hun, Esmee is exactly the same.

When my family see her they treat her like a performing monkey and expect her to be all smiley and happy the whole time, it's really annoying! Everytime anyone else other than Me, my mum, my brother or OH hold her, she goes absolutely berserk! Tbh i think she's just shy, and that sounds pretty normal
Your auntie sounds a bit silly for saying that if i'm honest!

I think Aliyah is just shy hun
xxxx

 

[aliss]

There's actually a good Simpsons episode about this.

Everyone in the family is happy to cuddle Maggie, but then they show it from Maggie's point of view - there's a bunch of disturbing flashes (camera) and monsters (family members) all surrounding her, and she just shudders in fear and is completely overwhelmed.

I think people need to get their own head examined if they don't think something like that can overwhelm and scare a baby.

 

[Tegans Mama]

Hun, there is NOTHING wrong with your baby!!! It's perfectly normal for them to dislike being passed from pillar to post.

 

[venusrockstar]

It's normal for babies to make strange around people they don't know.

She doesn't need to be examined!

 

[hivechild]

I don't understand why people expect babies to be ok with a complete stranger invading their personal space and getting right up in their face but if someone came and stood less than a foot away from them and stuck their face 6 inches away, they'd freak out themselves!

Your aunt sounds like she needs examining, not your LO.

 

[princessellie]

^

 

[hivechild]

Oh and just to add, all the extra excitement and simulation, and quite possibly being overtired with a disrupted nap schedule can turn even the most laid back baby into a wailing, clingy changeling you're hard pressed to recognize as your own sometimes!

 

[louandivy]

How silly, what would a physical examination do? She obviously just loves her mum and wants her to be close all the time!

 

[ttc_lolly]

Grrrr how horrible of her to say such a thing sorry i know she's your suntie but still, what a cow! There is absolutely nothing wrong with Aliyah! She is still quite young and isn't ready to be sociable yet! Don't worry or doubt your daughter at all, Amber is the same (although the way you have said Aliyah screams when someone comes near her, Amber doesn't tend to do that unless she's tired!) but still she just prefers to be with me! She'll sit or be held by someone and then eventually grow bored or start to realise that person isn't her mummy and will cry, so I have to take her back!! And I LOVE it!!! You should to hun because guaranteed when Aliyah's a bit older and more sociable she won't be like it anymore! x

 

[louandivy]

Examined for what?!
I expect she was totally overwhelmed by all the faces, familar and unfamilar all giving her attention.
At 5/6mths they do go through a clingy stage and it will go by itself just don't try and play up to it too much - leave the room but talk, don't run back in to the slightest noise etc, it will pass.
My LO is quite happy to be left alone but she is almost 7mths now but I have noticed that she is slightly wary of MIL (good girl....), takes a while to get used to her and she looks for me. I think this is because she doesn't see her often.
Aliyah def doesn't need anyone to examine her!!
xxx

 

[Odd Socks]

bella's the same.
even i'm overwhelmed when i'm surrounded by lots of people, she's teeny, why would she find it any different?
xx

 

[x-li-x]

Hi hun just ignore that is completely stupid, my little girl is the same she gets to people eventually but it takes a while sometimes few day but then if she doesn't she that person at all for week or so she goes right back to the way she was before with them like she doesn't know them, she even gets like it with her daddy, she's a mummys girl and really clingy, but they all grow out of it when the are ready xx

 

[Lena]

Of course she doesn't need to be examined! Nate doesn't like being handled too much by anyone besides me or DH. His family all want to hold him all the time and he never tolerates more than a few minutes with anyone else besides me or DH before he cries. I think MIL gets annoyed at this because she never really gets to hold him but he screams most when she holds him.

We saw her one weekend at theirs and he screamed and screamed so we left after an hour or two and they came to ours the next weekend and before she came she rang and said to me 'Nathan WILL be in a better mood today then, won't he?'. How the heck am i supposed to know?? hah, probably not! He hates when you hold him!