Down in the Dumps

[mayb_baby]

All my friends are heading for uni now and well looking at their pics quite frankly I'm jealous, don’t get me wrong I love my son but I can’t help that tiny voice in the back of my head saying ‘that should have been you’
Feels like I'm being left behind and there all moving up and on

 

[Jojo-Mummy]

awww hun I feel like this sometimes not about uni but life in general. Im only 23 and feel too young sometimes. Reality hit me hard the other day when I was driving to work, I realised christmas' are never going to be the same again, instead of me having all the pressies its going to be me buying for a little baby. I cried my heart out on my own like a mad woman lol (I know that sounds petty) Its a part of growing up, Its doesnt help when people rub it in, but just remember the little miracle growing inside you, noone can take that away from you.

Sending you

 

[mayb_baby]

Thanks I know it's silly and I am the one who has the best atm i.e. my liver remains intact where if I was away this week it would be getting a while hammering lol
And I will have my beautiful son.

Think its just reality kicking in xxxx

 

[Jojo-Mummy]

yea it happens. I still dont know what im having, so im hoping once I found out in a week I will be able to bond more too.

Just remember what you will have at the end of it, and think of all the debt your friends are getting in being in uni lol

 

[mayb_baby]

haha I also have that to come as Im headed to uni next year but obviously Ill be living with my LO and FOB xxx

 

[Jojo-Mummy]

ooohh sorry lol thought u said in your thread your missing out on the uni part. Oppps lol

 

[furr76]

I understand how you feel, I'm 33 so a bit of a different situation but fell pregnant by accident and even now at 23 weeks still have days when I just wish I could have my old care free life back!

Just got married and bought a house together and was really looking forward to spending a couple of years enjoying each other before having a baby. And however much people say that I'm lucky or just think of what you are getting from it and so on I just feel like turning round to them and shouting but its not what I want right now! I selfishly want to be able to go out whenever I want and where I want, and to get drunk on nights out (although didn't happen that often anyway!!) I'm just not ready to grow up completely yet or to share my life with a baby

Any advice on getting used to being pregnant and life with a baby would be gratefully received!!!

 

[Jojo-Mummy]

For me im trying to think more about the pro's than the con's. there are a few con's but the pro's for me far outweigh the con's if that makes sense. lol

 

[starcrossed]

I went to uni 2 years after all of my friends, and believe me it will be worth the wait, and I'm sure with a more mature head on your shoulders that motherhood and living out of the house will bring you will do SOOOO much better!!!

I didnt have a baby, but I was in a better position when I went later, and i still had an ace time and dont regret going to uni late for a minute.

I have even caught up career wise also, I was head of my own department as a teacher by 26 so was all good!

I know it seems like your missing out now, but your really not, and all your friends working while you are in the last year will be jealous that you are still doing the whole uni thing

Delly xxx

 

[HopefulMi]

Uni also isn't all it's cracked up to be-freshers week and everything seems glamourous but really, it's just everyone getting mortal and being reckless. I went to uni twice, left twice and decided the open uni was for me as my DF and I wanted to try for a baby. I'm only 23 and went to uni 1st at 19 when I should have been getting all the experience but you will enjoy it more probably with the support and love of your FOB and LO and less of the craziness x

 

[Aphrodite]

I was 12 weeks away from being a qualified nurse and have had to put it on hold for a year. I have found it hard watching all my friends get jobs as Ive worked so hard for this. I know it will be worth it though.

Some days I too feel scared at all the changes to come, how life will never be the same again, especially between me and my DH and I do feel a bit sad. But once the baby is here it will almost be like this is what its always been, you know? Id say its a totally natural feeling honey, we are all going thorugh MASSIVE changes its not surprising to feel this way. Im sure once you have ur baby in ur arms ur feelings will change!!

 

[mayb_baby]

Thank you all xxx

 

[Franki83]

most good university's do have a creche where you can put babies from 8 weeks old in. but i know there is a waiting list, so generally when you sign up year in advance, do it for baby too. and you do get that paid in grant too.
i would give it until baby is a year old though.. because then you get to see babies first crawling, steps etc. things that you will love to see and hate missing out on. i was a young mum at uni, and i was not the only one on my course, so it can be done chick xx