Dtd tmi

[proxy bump]

Omgoodness.

I am so embarressed.

Ever since sweet pea was concieved my, very little, sex drive is null and void. In the first trimester it was almost near impossible due to pain now in the second trimester it has been better but I still feel very uncomfortable; mainly because I feel gross.

Today we were dtd and for the first time I actually felt good about the act and SO had been super kind to get me to the...uh, finish line.....and not even a minute later I am full blown water works. I pretty much laugh and cry uncontrollably for three minutes with no answer for him.

I just...I dont even. I feel so bad because obviously that was the end to our special time and I dont even know why.


Please someone tell me im not the only one?

 

[xSamantha]

Hormones are at play. Nothing you can do! LoL.
My only other comment is... what?? Super kind enough to get you to the finish line?? That should be his goal every/any time!

 

[proxy bump]

Hormones are at play. Nothing you can do! LoL.
My only other comment is... what?? Super kind enough to get you to the finish line?? That should be his goal every/any time!

Well yes and no, lol

I do not find the act of sex pleasureable so needless to say in order for me to get there SO has to do some outside work and if I finish first what sex drive I have gathered up goes away and I just tell him to hurry. So usually its a him then me kind of deal. So today he was taking a risk to make me feel super knowing that it cuts down on his fun time.


I just felt so bad crying and silly. He took it in stride though which makes me so happy.

 

[kmac87]

Hormones are at play. Nothing you can do! LoL.
My only other comment is... what?? Super kind enough to get you to the finish line?? That should be his goal every/any time!

Well yes and no, lol

I do not find the act of sex pleasureable so needless to say in order for me to get there SO has to do some outside work and if I finish first what sex drive I have gathered up goes away and I just tell him to hurry. So usually its a him then me kind of deal. So today he was taking a risk to make me feel super knowing that it cuts down on his fun time.


I just felt so bad crying and silly. He took it in stride though which makes me so happy.

I get this as dh and I are the same way. Most of the time I'm like hurry up, but I'd much prefer him come to me than his hand. We had this convo a few nights ago as he said he'd prefer his hand as it feels like he's raping me. I don't mind him doing it with me when I'm not in the mood actually, I just don't want any stimulation most of the time.

 

[amyleigh89]

I feel your pain... I do it nearly every time when pregnant. And actually... Have been known to do it when not.
Poor hubby must feel crappy about it.

I think partly it's a worry when DTD just in case something happens. I dunno... It's normal though! Xx