Edit: it's all over. MMC medical management did not work :(

[Kelskiii]

So Monday with a little bit of brown blood I found out baby had stop growing 6+4 I thought I was 10weeks.

I opted for medical management 10am Wednesday morning, cramps/bleeding started at 4pm - 8pm I had a few blood clots but not many and definitely didn't pass sac/foetus. I sat up until 1am and still nothing so I got some sleep & woke up at 5am expecting blood/cramps but nothing.

I was sent to our larger hospital out of town to discuss further action with the doctor. I was given 3 options - 1 Wait it out for 3 weeks & come back for a scan then look at option 2 & 3 if nothing has happened - 2 wait 1 week & go back to do medical management again - 3 operation to remove.

These options were given to me but they prefer me to wait it out but if nothing has happened in a week I think I will go back for medical management again.

Its hard to start trying to grieve when it is still inside of me.

Anyone had a similar experience? thanks

 

[Kelskiii]

It's all over - I kept myself busy today hoping the movement would help and it has.

Passed it this afternoon. We have put it in a little tin & buried it in our garden couldn't face flushing it or putting it in the bin.

Somewhere to remember it by in a place where we have lovely family times.

 

[LKGlove]

First of all, I am sorry for your loss. I am going through my 2nd mmc in a row. This last week i found out at 12 week appointment that it had stopped growing at 8 weeks. I had opted for the medical way this time. I'm glad everything is over for you and you can move on. I am hoping for the same...I wish you all the best and I know we will have our rainbows soon.

 

[Kelskiii]

Thank you LKglove so sorry to hear of your losses too

What is helping me through this is knowing that there was obviously abnormalities with the baby & I am glad it ended without me having to make the decision to end it.

We will get out rainbow babies eventually I have read we are much more fertile over the next few months so fingers crossed x

 

[OnErth&InHvn]

well, you lost a baby, not a piece of paper. i just wanted to say that it can help if you see the baby as your child and do things to help that feel real. Name your baby, bury your baby ( which you did), etc.

I should have been around 10wks or so and Wylders HB stopped at 6w3d. I have him in a Build A Bear bunny.

 

[gemmy]

This is happening to me too . 12 week scan yesterday showed a sac but baby they said looked 5 or 6 weeks so no heartbeat. Such a shock. Have to go back for further scan in 10 days to check but I know it's going to be the same. Best wishes to you all as well x

 

[WhiteLily]

I'm so sorry that happened to you. I wish I could of buried mine at home, I was in the hospital for most of my miscarriage. I did pass a large clot and I could see a embryonic sack but I couldn't look. My mom got it and she said it was part of the baby, she said she would bury it for me. I can't bear to think that I flushed any of it away. Yes it can be helpful to think of it as a natural part of selection due to genetic issues. I told someone something similar in the hospital and she said I hope no one makes you feel any less than what this was, a loss and then she cried. I couldn't cry but she cried for me. Excepting it as a loss has helped me to adjust to what has happened. I wrote a poem, did some artwork and got a necklace with the babies nickname initial.