Effing Fuming

[BrokenfoREVer]

So sperm donor has 2 children. Joshy & another son who is 3.

Regular contact with his 3 yr old (Daniel) stopped in august of 2009. Sperm donor has popped up every so often, tried to see D, either got bored or been stopped by D's mum for not being cosistant.

D has a step dad & is quite happy with his family.

& then there's me & Joshy. I have a new partner & Joshy is happy with us & his family. But sperm donor is taking me to court next week for access to Joshy.

When I found about him taking me to court I got in touch with D's mother (we do speak sometimes about the kids & stuff) & she told me he had asked to be put on D's BC & to be able to see him again. She had refused & that was the last I heard.

I now hear today that he has left her & D alone now, cause he has a new gf.

I am abso fuming! How can he choose between his children like that. Why will he leave her alone & keep harrassing me like this! He hasn't seen Joshy since the 1st of march.

Why me, why won't he leave me alone cos he has a new gf.

All anyone can say to me is oh its not right, its a joke but thats just the way it is.

Well no thats not just the way it it. I'm fucking fuming! How can that be right. & the court will take no notice of him doing this. I shall be telling my solicitor this & saying I want the judge made aware that he doesn't give a fuck about his kids. But I doubt it will change anything

I'm so angry!

 

[Ceejay123]

It's probably because he tried with Daniel, and the court will see he didn't keep up contact! So now he's trying his luck with you. In all honesty, if he's never been bothered before, I wouldn't put it past him to just be trying to impress his girlfriend playing the doting Dad! See if he actually keeps it up sweetheart.

I can see why you're pissed off. . It's nice that you can keep in contact with his brothers Mum. Sounds like you're doing everything right, take no notice of him and ask a solicitor what you should do. It sounds like he's not going to be a regular part of your son's life, he needs to decide whether he actually wants to be a Dad or whether he just does when he feels like it! Not good enough! x

 

[MommaAlexis]

My FOB has 3 kids and only shows up when it'll benefit him in some way. In this case, in courts he still has a chance to have your LO and show off how great of a dad he is with yours. Chances are he knows he has 0% chance to "show off" with his other LO. FOB signed over his rights to his first daughter, is in and out of his second daughters life, (only in when he has a gf or the mom is single and he can get laid) and hasn't replied once to me since I was 9 weeks and he kicked me out. The difference in our case is our attitudes. Mom 1 and me have a NO BS tolerance. He knows this about us. And he has a criminal record, went to rehab and detox, where we both had clean records. So he can't convince us, and he can't win against us in court. Whereas mom 2 still loves him and all he has to do is play "dad" every now and then and she forgives him. She's getting a lot better with seeing through it, it's not her fault at all, she's just forgiving and I'm not. So, in this case, the only kid he tries to see is the one that'll get him laid. It honestly is probably the same thing.

 

[RaRalalala]

Try and aim for visitation at a contact centre? Least then when he fails to turn up it will be well documented