Emotional support

[rustyswife828]

So my husband has been doing everything for me since I'm pregnant and I always tell him how lucky I am to have him and that I really appreciate him doing things for me and the baby...

The past couple of days he's been taking pain medicine that can make him sleep for 24 hours and basically ignores me cause he keeps dozing off on the recliner... I haven't gotten emotional support at all from him in 3 days and my hormones kicked in and I was getting upset! I don't want to worry and stress cause of the baby but he's really not helping me.. He's had a drug problem in the past and I've told him over and over agin that I don't want to have the baby and you go back to being high all the time like you used to. He's gotten several severe pain disorders and he does take pain medicine but he got a hold of a medicine that almost got us a divorce 4 years ago..

I have a anxiety disorder and him sleeping all day isn't helping..

I worry all the time now once the baby is born is he gonna be drugged up all the time... I need somebody just to hold me and tell me everything is gonna be okay! My emotions are so bad right now!

 

[makeupmama2b]

So my husband has been doing everything for me since I'm pregnant and I always tell him how lucky I am to have him and that I really appreciate him doing things for me and the baby...

The past couple of days he's been taking pain medicine that can make him sleep for 24 hours and basically ignores me cause he keeps dozing off on the recliner... I haven't gotten emotional support at all from him in 3 days and my hormones kicked in and I was getting upset! I don't want to worry and stress cause of the baby but he's really not helping me.. He's had a drug problem in the past and I've told him over and over agin that I don't want to have the baby and you go back to being high all the time like you used to. He's gotten several severe pain disorders and he does take pain medicine but he got a hold of a medicine that almost got us a divorce 4 years ago..

I have a anxiety disorder and him sleeping all day isn't helping..

I worry all the time now once the baby is born is he gonna be drugged up all the time... I need somebody just to hold me and tell me everything is gonna be okay! My emotions are so bad right now!

Sending hugs and love along with peace and comfort your way!

 

[Bella12]

Im sorry to hear of your frustrations.

I find that praying has helped me find my center.

If you can try to find a way to balance yourself/ calm your nerves and discuss your fears with him. Maybe you can come up with a plan. Good luck!

 

[pandi77]

Sorry I know this can be rough. A dear friend had these prescribed after a surgery and then developed a problem like so many people have with pills these days...it's becoming so common now it sucked when she checked out while high but the worst was when she came down ugh. I couldn't get through to her until it was completely out of her system and she wasn't high OR cranky. A good pot of coffee and some serious hugs and tears and as far as I know she's clean for some months now. Sorry and unsure if this helps you at all but wanted to share so you know your not alone. Like others have said wait it out and talk to him when he's clear headed again. Take care of yourself and take a bath and light some candles.

 

[2have4kids]

Can you call the prescribing doctor to let him know what's gone on with his addiction and speak to your oh about why he's in a comatose state all day? Is his pain really that bad? What about physio/acupuncture? You need him now but your needing him so much might be a trigger (just keep this in mind too so you can speak to him about triggers/reasons for taking so much of the drug).

My dad has arthritis and was addicted to narcotics until I called his family doctor and told her that unless she comes up with a long term sustainable plan for him to manage things without slurring words & driving around high then I'd report her to our province's overseeing medical board. He's since been diagnosed with Parkinson's & dimensia to which his Parkinson's specialist believe's the long term period on pain narcotics has likely caused.

Nobody seems to understand that we have a life limit of drugs that we can take (including seemingly harmless painkillers like Tylenol, Advil etc) before something happens to our brain or cancer of the liver/pancreas happens. If you want you OH around for a long life please consider speaking to his doctor. Many doctors are totally irresponsible handing out completely addictive drugs in high doses & refills, they don't see the consequences and don't care either.