End of the road

[Helen76]

Hi,

I'm looking for like minded souls although hoping there are not many of us!

Basically, we've just found out our 4th and final IVF attempt hasn't worked and so we are now at the end of our journey to become biological parents.

We are contemplating adoption but need to give it some thought and really need some time out before we do anything.

Just wondered if there are any other girls out there who are also at the end of their biological route who want to chat and support each other?

Also going to post this in the Assisted Conception forum.

Thanks,
H xx

 

[cooch]

Hi Helen please don't be sad, there could be one last thing you can try. I think you're right to take some time out and you have been through so much.

There must be a reason for your m/c's. I don't know where you're based or you age. There are women on here who gave up and got pregnant naturally. It is blocked tubes??

I do Napro- they can't help with blocked tubes but otherwise they could possibly shed some light on your situation.

You are right to take time out , everyone needs a break and time to think. xx

 

[Helen76]

Thanks Cooch. Nothing else for us to try unfortunately, the problem is with my insides - I have endo and my womb is fused to my bowel. My left ovary and tube are mangled and although on the face of it my right side is okay, they suspect the tube is damaged on the inside so I've been told its very unlikely I can conceive naturally.

IVF was our best option but I've done 4 and I can't do any more. I'm 35.

Thanks for replying though, appreciate the support.

H xx

 

[cooch]

That's so sad. Just take your time deciding what you want for the two of you. x

 

[choccielover]

Dear Helen

I can only imagine how you are feeling. Words seem so empty. I used to be part of a fertility support group in Derby and have heard similar stories from the ladies there. (Pardon my French) but it's proper crappy.

I don't mean to sound flippant but what about Surrogacy?

xxxx

 

[ashknowsbest]

I don't know what to say so I'll just do this...



Lots of hugs! Take all of the time you need and you will be ok with whatever decision you make!

 

[Helen76]

Thanks ladies

Surrogacy isn't really an option for me. I'm resentful that I'll never experience pregnancy but if I do end up being a Mum by other means then I like the thought of giving a loving home to a child that needs one.

Fingers crossed you don't ever find yourselves in my crappy situation.

Thanks for the support.

H xx

 

[dodgercpkl]

Aww *hugs* I'm so sorry! I have no sage words for you, but my thoughts and prayers are with you and your dh to find peace with this.

 

[Amber3]

Dear Helen

We are also at the end biologically but still we can't seem to give up. We have been ttc for almost 5 years and I also have had an ectopic and I also have endo etc. I just wanted to say that if you ever should decide to try again NaProTechnology is an alternative to IVF but an alternative that has higher succes rates and which is much more affordable. They deal with everything also blocked tubes and have helped quite a few couples who had been through IVF without succes.
here is a little link about them: www.fertilitycare.net (there is a nice film here)
We have also started the adoption process and it really gives a sense of peace to be doing something that takes the focus away from our own ability to get pregnant. I wish you all the best with everything and hope you will somehow become a mum soon.
Amber

 

[Helen76]

Hi Amber,

Thanks for your post, so sorry you are in the same boat as us.

The NaPro stuff looks really interesting, just watched the video. At this stage though we just need to get off the treatment wagon for a while. DH initially didn't want me to go for the 4th attempt, he was fed up of the whole thing.

I think if we have a decent break and then review I might share with him the details to see what he thinks.

In the meantime I hope everything goes well with the adoption process. Please feel free to keep posting here, I'm sure there are others in the same boat as us and I'd love this to be a support thread.

Thanks again,
H xx

 

[minties]

This is heartbreaking, I just wanted to say that you situation has touched me greatly. I was told I couldn't have children but after 8 years I magically got pregnant.

So I know what it is like to feel that utter hopelessness and dispair.

I hope you get to become a mother, whatever way that happens.

 

[LizMcD]

I admire you Helen as you have handled your situation with such grace and dignity.

Good luck on becoming a mummy soon, you deserve it so much
Xx

 

[Mazzy17]

Hi

My sister in law had been trying for 5 years +, got told by Drs there is no chance. She had a infection 10 years ago which affected and damaged her which led to ME. She and her husband had started the adoption process in April 2010 and in August me and hubby had a phone call from her telling us she is pregnant. If this comes as a slap in the face it is not what i set out to do, it is purely to help you keep a little bit of hope x

 

[Helen76]

Thank you all for the posts.

Minties - congratulations! That is a lovely story, I'm glad you got your happy ending.

Liz - thanks for the kind words.

Mazzy - I like the stories of hope so thank you.

I'm realistic enough to know that for every hope story there are plenty that didn't get the happy ending. I guess all we can do is see if we end up being one of the lucky ones although I'm not banking on it.

Our clinic have said it's highly unlikely we'd get pregnant naturally but 'never say never'. All we can do is NTNP and try and enjoy life as best we can.

Thanks again,
H xx

 

[Evon47]

Dear Helen,

I have been a silent stalker of your journal for a long time. I haven't been to BnB for a long time and when I came back here again, I really hope that you will have good news to share. I am gutted for you and I hope one day when I pop to BnB again I will bump into your thread of good news.

I wish you all the lucks in the world.

 

[Helen76]

Thank you Evon that is lovely

I notice that you are TTC. I hope you have an easier route to getting your baby than I have had.

H xx

 

[weeyaosi]

Just wondered if there are any other girls out there who are also at the end of their biological route who want to chat and support each other?

 

[Amber3]

Thank you for your kindness Helen. I also hope the thread will stay alive and that we can continually share our journeya dn thoughts.
Best wishes
Amber

 

[Helen76]

Hey Amber (and anyone else),

I also started the same thread in the Assisted Conception thread and it's starting to pick up pace over there so maybe you'd like to come and join that thread?

The link to it is below:

https://www.babyandbump.com/assisted-conception/792201-end-road.html

Hope to see you over there.

H xx