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HI ladies
Can I join you as I have had enough with my lazy partner and would actually be better off on my own.
I'll outline the history. I met him about 16 years ago, thought he was fantastic, got pregnant after almost 2 years and he left, I had my son who is now 14 and brought him up on my own. Have always worked and am lucky that I have my own house, car but do have credit card debts etc. so life not been that easy. Anyway my OH never had much to do with our eldest son, saw him when it suited, never ever paid a penny maintenance and went to great lengths and succeeded in evading paying maintenance through the CSA.
Well stupidly about 4 years ago now I thought why not try again as he seemed to be 'responsible' and was more active in my eldest son's life. He was working and everything was fine. Then after about 8 months he had an illness, one that hospital tests etc. couldn't find a problem. He then didn't go back to work saying he was too ill, the he couldn't find a job and that was before the recession. Then he had to get an operation and is now playing as far as I'm concerned looking for work, he says he won't go back to his trade but doesn't know what he wants to do. He pretends to be looking for work but when I checked his e-mail account the other day any jobs that come in from agencies etc. he is deleting the e-mails before reading. I also checked his browser history and he has not checked out one agency website.
When it comes to our youngest I do everything with him. The lazy git (dad) never gets up with him during the night or at weekends or plays with him or anything.
To add insult to injury he has had 2 other women while we've been back, the 2nd I found out about when I was heavily pregnant. I should have got rid of him then but I was scared and didn't want to be on my own (at that time) and felt I couldn't do it by myself but now I feel like I am getting my life back and mentally aswell (huge weight problem after having baby but now losing that which made me really down too) and don't want him as I feel he has just been bloody awful to me.
Would you put up with that?
Thanks xx
Can I join you as I have had enough with my lazy partner and would actually be better off on my own.
I'll outline the history. I met him about 16 years ago, thought he was fantastic, got pregnant after almost 2 years and he left, I had my son who is now 14 and brought him up on my own. Have always worked and am lucky that I have my own house, car but do have credit card debts etc. so life not been that easy. Anyway my OH never had much to do with our eldest son, saw him when it suited, never ever paid a penny maintenance and went to great lengths and succeeded in evading paying maintenance through the CSA.
Well stupidly about 4 years ago now I thought why not try again as he seemed to be 'responsible' and was more active in my eldest son's life. He was working and everything was fine. Then after about 8 months he had an illness, one that hospital tests etc. couldn't find a problem. He then didn't go back to work saying he was too ill, the he couldn't find a job and that was before the recession. Then he had to get an operation and is now playing as far as I'm concerned looking for work, he says he won't go back to his trade but doesn't know what he wants to do. He pretends to be looking for work but when I checked his e-mail account the other day any jobs that come in from agencies etc. he is deleting the e-mails before reading. I also checked his browser history and he has not checked out one agency website.
When it comes to our youngest I do everything with him. The lazy git (dad) never gets up with him during the night or at weekends or plays with him or anything.
To add insult to injury he has had 2 other women while we've been back, the 2nd I found out about when I was heavily pregnant. I should have got rid of him then but I was scared and didn't want to be on my own (at that time) and felt I couldn't do it by myself but now I feel like I am getting my life back and mentally aswell (huge weight problem after having baby but now losing that which made me really down too) and don't want him as I feel he has just been bloody awful to me.
Would you put up with that?
Thanks xx
