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...on how I'm supposed to raise my daughter!
I had a huge fight with my Mom today, as she is getting mad that I'm not "following" her advice on things.
Claire won't feed off of my right breast. I have a nurse coming tomorrow to help me with the feedings, but my Mom got upset because she got the impression that I am not pumping the right breast. She is of the opinion that one breast isn't enough to feed Claire.
I tried explaining that breastmilk is all 'supply and demand', and if she's exclusivly feeding off one side, that side will produce more because there's more of a demand for it. My mom was ADAMANT that she knew better, because that's what my sister in law had told her. I told her I spoke to both my doctor AND a lactation consultant, who both assured me that it was fine. It wasn't that I'm not going to try and get Claire to take the other breast, but I'm not stressing out over it either. Breastfeeding is so emotional that if I get upset and uptight about it it's going to do more damage than good.
So there was that. Then she took me to task because I didn't have an undershirt on Claire. Claire is super warm. In fact, when we were in the hospital she developed a fever because too many people were holding her for long periods of time and she was too bundled up. So if people are coming over I dress her in a thinner sleeper so the body heat doesn't make her over heat. Apparently that isn't good enough either.
When Claire was 4 days old, we had an incident with her choking. She's super mucousy since it was such a fast delivery, and my milk came in and it surprised her, and she took too much in. She started to chock, and we ended up calling 911. Claire was fine, and the paramedics felt she was fine as well. They said we could bring her in to the hospital, but that in their opinion she was okay. We were on our way to my doctor's office anyways, so I said if she wasn't looking any better then we'd get my doctor to check her out. We ended up missing the appointment (my doctor's office closed for lunch, then she was at the hospital for the rest of the afternoon) but Claire was fine, so we took her home.
My mother PUSHED AND PUSHED AND PUSHED for us to bring her to the hospital. She said we shouldn't "mess around". Normally I'd agree with her, but Claire was FINE, not to mention I didn't want to bring her into a hospital waiting room, full of sick people when she was only 4 days old. My mom was of the opinion that because she was a baby, they'd expidite her. I argued that since they "triage" people, if Claire was deemed stable they'd take people who were more sick than her first, regardless of how young she was. My mom was ADAMANT that I should have, but I refused. Claire was (and still is) fine.
It's just so upsetting to me to have her push so hard for me to follow her opinion. It's like she has to have control over the situation, or else. It's very upsetting to me. I flat out told her that Claire is MY daughter, and P and I will rasie her. She retorted that she "knows" better. Whatever.
Sorry for the rant. Has anyone else had this happen to them?
I had a huge fight with my Mom today, as she is getting mad that I'm not "following" her advice on things.
Claire won't feed off of my right breast. I have a nurse coming tomorrow to help me with the feedings, but my Mom got upset because she got the impression that I am not pumping the right breast. She is of the opinion that one breast isn't enough to feed Claire.
I tried explaining that breastmilk is all 'supply and demand', and if she's exclusivly feeding off one side, that side will produce more because there's more of a demand for it. My mom was ADAMANT that she knew better, because that's what my sister in law had told her. I told her I spoke to both my doctor AND a lactation consultant, who both assured me that it was fine. It wasn't that I'm not going to try and get Claire to take the other breast, but I'm not stressing out over it either. Breastfeeding is so emotional that if I get upset and uptight about it it's going to do more damage than good.
So there was that. Then she took me to task because I didn't have an undershirt on Claire. Claire is super warm. In fact, when we were in the hospital she developed a fever because too many people were holding her for long periods of time and she was too bundled up. So if people are coming over I dress her in a thinner sleeper so the body heat doesn't make her over heat. Apparently that isn't good enough either.
When Claire was 4 days old, we had an incident with her choking. She's super mucousy since it was such a fast delivery, and my milk came in and it surprised her, and she took too much in. She started to chock, and we ended up calling 911. Claire was fine, and the paramedics felt she was fine as well. They said we could bring her in to the hospital, but that in their opinion she was okay. We were on our way to my doctor's office anyways, so I said if she wasn't looking any better then we'd get my doctor to check her out. We ended up missing the appointment (my doctor's office closed for lunch, then she was at the hospital for the rest of the afternoon) but Claire was fine, so we took her home.
My mother PUSHED AND PUSHED AND PUSHED for us to bring her to the hospital. She said we shouldn't "mess around". Normally I'd agree with her, but Claire was FINE, not to mention I didn't want to bring her into a hospital waiting room, full of sick people when she was only 4 days old. My mom was of the opinion that because she was a baby, they'd expidite her. I argued that since they "triage" people, if Claire was deemed stable they'd take people who were more sick than her first, regardless of how young she was. My mom was ADAMANT that I should have, but I refused. Claire was (and still is) fine.
It's just so upsetting to me to have her push so hard for me to follow her opinion. It's like she has to have control over the situation, or else. It's very upsetting to me. I flat out told her that Claire is MY daughter, and P and I will rasie her. She retorted that she "knows" better. Whatever.
Sorry for the rant. Has anyone else had this happen to them?