ex going out drinking on his access night

[getinonwithit]

My ex-partner lives with his mum and dad and has access wednesday eve and night, and alternating weekend night and day. He has now left his 8 mnth son with his parents twice on his access nights to go out and drink. I do not know whether this has happened more than twice because his parents would protect him.

To me he is not excepting his responsibilities to our son and not taking his access seriously as well as being dishonest. I don't have an issue with who he is left with - they are registered childminders after all! But could you let me know your reactions to hearing that your ex has done this.


He does not seem to understand where I am coming from but all of my friends seem to agree with me. But need some un-biased advice!

 

[miss.kayleigh]

That's awful I would be really annoyed! Have you asked him why he does this? x

 

[babybaillie]

You have the right to stop the access if hes not there. Have u offered to swap nites as an alternative? If uve tried that and still no joy id suggest cutting the access

 

[xJG30]

If he's done it more than once, I'd stop him from seeing your son tbh.

It's not fair on your son to leave him with someone else when it's his responsibility.

 

[Ash_P]

I totally see ur point. If it were me I would stop the access, if he cant be bothered to spend time with him child one nite a week cause he would prefere to go out drinking, Id def put my foot down. He has 5 or 6 nites in the week to do his drinking, so why cant be do without a wednesday.
At least ur child is being cared for well by his parents, but thats not really the point. Its ur ex that has the access not them.
I would confront him about it, and if u dont get any further forward then Id def cut the accessuntil u are sure that he will be doing the rite thing. After all its ur child that is the priority x