Ex partner troubles

[mummydove]

Finley sees his dad (my ex husband) once a week since he left when finley was a month old. It has always been hard and there have been a number of occassions where i have really not wanted to let Finley go but i have always made an effort.

I am just getting fed up at the moment because no matter how hard i try to keep it civil between us for Finley's sake i get nothing but trouble from him. I get text messages like 'why are you stopping me seeing my son' - which i never do, and he knows that. Just seems that if something goes wrong in his life, or something goes right in mine, it means that i deserve rude text's etc.

Does it ever get any easier?

 

[McLovin]

I get these type of accusations now - and my baby hasn't even entrered this godforsaken world yet. Sure hope it does get better at some point : )

 

[xxannxx]

My LO is 3, me and ex split when he was 6wks old, and he also sees his dad at weekend (overnight 1 night), and i have to say in answer to does it get easier dealing with ex - NO!!!!!
I guess thats not completely true, now that LO can speak for himself in some instances its better, when he phones i can put LO on, and jsut do the hello's and goodbyes, but i still get a lot of the s***. He also always throws in that i don't let him see his son enough, and that i only agree contact at weekend to suit myself (even though LO is now at nursery during week). However, i did extend his contact to 1 overnight per weekend and 1 full weekend a month, however it stopped as LO didn't want to stay 2 nights, and he told his dad himself that reason was he thought it was too long, which took bit of pressure off me.
The only thing i think that gets easier is that you get used to it, and it doesn't aggravate, upset, or hurt you anymore. You just have to stay strong and remember your not alone, theres lots of women going through same thing.

 

[DizzyMoo]

The only way it got easier for me with joshs dad was when i finally stuck to my guns when i said " you aint seeing him no more " now i'm not saying do this hun but up until then i had 3 yrs of utter shit of him, every other wk he had a new bird or split from the previous & then was back on the scene asking for josh, never paid, turned up drunk with josh after having him, text me abuse , said it was my fault for EVERYTHING.
When i finally said " no more " the biggest weight lifted off my shoulders in the world but then again i had proper reasons, Josh started improving at nursery dramatically, he was better behaved at home & i was once again happy!

If he was still in his life then i think he would still be causing us shit x