ex wants to change aynjels surname,

[shamrockgirl4]

ok as some of u know i went thru pregnancy alone as ex stopped contacting me when i was about 8 wks pg,
never heard from him all thru pregnancy or the 1st yr of her life he recently saw her for the 1st time on dec 27th, 10 days after she turned 1,

anyway later he messaged me and was asking if im gonna change aynjels surname to his,
what would u do in this position me personally think its a bit cheeky,
thanks all.

 

[Welsh_mum_to_b]

very cheeky!! let him know that too.
is he there for you now hun? i hope so. xxx

 

[Younglutonmum]

No No No No!!

Ok wow he's got involved after a bloody year! You've done all the hard work hun!

 

[shamrockgirl4]

no he just came to finally meet her coz i wanted to give him the chance to be in her life it will probably be end of jan when he nxt sees her,
he did buy her lots of nice new clothes which i think was nice of him.

 

[FEDup1981]

tell him to fu*k off! cheeky git. Tell him when he can be arsed to be a dad to his child and provide for her, and care and prove himself it might be worth asking. But as for now, hes having a laugh!

 

[shamrockgirl4]

No No No No!!

Ok wow he's got involved after a bloody year! You've done all the hard work hun!

yep thats wat i thought i even sent him emails on her updates and never once had a reply.

 

[Younglutonmum]

No No No No!!

Ok wow he's got involved after a bloody year! You've done all the hard work hun!

yep thats wat i thought i even sent him emails on her updates and never once had a reply.

Babe seriously keep your surname. Let him prove himself to you & your little girl. Even then i'd still say she should have your name!

 

[Welsh_mum_to_b]

no he just came to finally meet her coz i wanted to give him the chance to be in her life it will probably be end of jan when he nxt sees her,
he did buy her lots of nice new clothes which i think was nice of him.

aww, see i think your the one being good! givin him a chance! he is lucky to have a chance. bles u! x

 

[shamrockgirl4]

lol i think im a bit too soft

 

[brownhairedmom]

oh wow.

no way! if you change it, you can't go back. He could take off again in a few months and she'd be stuck with it

 

[nikky0907]

I say don't give in!
He left you to do all the hard work alone and now he's in her life for 5 minutes and wants her names to be changed! Pfft! What is he thinking?

My daughter has both mine and her dads name but thats because he has been invloved from the very start.
This guy needs to prove to you that he really wants to take on a role of a dad. Surname is nothing,a surname doesn't make him a dad.

 

[leeanne]

A man only deserves to have his child have his surname if he's been there for this child since day one and if he's an active part of that child's life.

Not be active when it suits him. A year or more later.....what an idiot to even suggest this.

 

[shamrockgirl4]

yep thanks girls i aint changing it lol

 

[doctordeesmrs]

Good decision. How can he come into her life after a year and expect that. As someone else said he could be gone again.

 

[starbucks101]

I wouldnt stress its really hard to change it anyway!

 

[kayjor04]

no freaking way.
Jordyns father walked out when she was 2 wks. if he came back around at 1 year... oh my... hair would fly. No way would i EVER change her surname!!!
you did all the work.. why should he get the privelage of having his last name carried on?

 

[March mummy]

I agree with the others, you look after that child day in day out and provide for her needs and he sees her for 5 mins once with a few gifts and he thinks thats enough for him leaving you to support that child from the start and go through all the emotions that come with a break up whilst pregnant. HE thinks he deserves to have his surname carried on with his little girl, make him prove himself first and then still wait. That lillte girl your responsibility so why should he have his name to her when he not taking on that respnsibility.

YOur child shouldnt have his surname until he starts grifting to prove his worth.

 

[xJG30]

imo i'd tell him to get fucked tbh.

 

[Ratty]

If you had been married, then maybe (I stress maybe). He buggered off when you were pregnant, wasn't there when she was worn or for the first year of her life. He has no right to ask you to change her surname to his.

 

[superbaby]

I was quite happy to give my baby his dad's surname until I found out he doesn't believe the baby is his. Now I have decided to give baby my surname as at the end of the day we will never let our kids down, shame the same can't be said of dads!