ex's and their new girlfriends?

[Cazamatazaaa]

anyone else having trouble!? my ex seems to think his girlfriend can come in my house to collect LO, and ive put my foot down so now hes made a huge arguement because he doesnt seem anything wrong with it! shes too involved and they both seem to think i should talk to her and get on! i dont want to talk to her!

 

[Jennifurball]

OMG no way!! Would he like it if someone took the dad role so easily?

Be strong, you are the mum.

 

[lemontree12]

My exs gf don't let him see my baby! Her quote is "just because he consented to sex doesn't mean he consents to being a dad" she's vile...

 

[Dezireey]

Put your foot down Hun, big style. Tell him she must back off or you will start making things difficult. Ask him how he would feel with a new man in your life taking over his role and making decisions about LO.

Totally hate things like this. Your baby, your rules. No other woman steps over the line when it comes to a womans kids or else! grrr

 

[Kate&Lucas]

How long have you been broken up? If it's fairly recent it's not on, the kids need time to get used to things too.
It might be worth getting to know her though, for LO's sake, if she is going to be sticking around.
I have the opposite problem. I know nothing about FOB's girlfriend because, despite me asking numerous times to meet her, he avoids the subject, even though she's clearly a part of Lucas' life because he talks about her. Now he just denies he is with anyone, even though I think they are living together. I think he's scared I'll tell her some little truths about him - I somehow doubt she knows we were living together when he started seeing her (and several other people)! After over two years though I couldn't give a shite what she does or doesn't know I genuinely just want to at least know her as she obviously spends enough time with Lucas.

If you've no interest in knowing the gf though and she's overstepping the boundaries, you need to put your foot down as PP said. It's your home and you have no obligation to let her in.

 

[rebeccalouise]

I'm having the same problem. FOB thinks that having his girlfriend around Amelia-Rose all the time is okay I don't want her getting attached if they're not going to last! Part of me thinks it's always going to be a risk I'll have to take though.

 

[callumsmummy]

omg thats awful!!! id never let my sons gf anywhere near my house! x

 

[MommaAlexis]

Maybe just ask that until it's been a while longer she take a bit of a step back. She may not even realize it's an issue, or he may be telling her it's fine, no big deal, this is totally normal behaviour. and NO if you don't have kids it isn't common sense to think that her picking LO up is a big deal. It's a learning process for everyone. They need to learn their boundaries, and you need to give a little. If they can respect that it's moving too fast and you're not comfortable with it after you calmly and clearly explain why to BOTH of them, not just him... then cut them a little slack. If she still oversteps clearly set boundaries then I'd kick up a fuss. It's a hard place to be in being a potential step parent. You never know if you're moving too fast or too slow. So maybe she just needs a bit more guidance.

 

[Rhio92]

I'm having the opposite problem... I'd love to get on with FOB's gf, but she's a vile immature little girl, who loves the drama

 

[Ersurgeongirl]

Oh yeah... The ex's new gf told me over Facebook that she's great with kids and she's going to be a great step mommy to my child....

Said the 21 year old with a criminal background, no education, no job, no car...