Falling apart :(

[klouise1993]

Hi guys I really need someone to talk to as you probably have seen from my other posts I suffered a miscarriage about 3-4 weeks ago. I haven't been able to pull myself together ever since then I've been really really upset about it how do you cope with something like this, I've been trying to take one day at a time but it's harder than ever now as I haven't got the best of friends around me at the moment, me and my partner are really really annoyed at the moment as my partner sister has got pregnant again! Well supposedly anyway as shes always making up being pregnant for attention and we've always found out but this time with us being soo hurt we haven't literally got the energy to confront her about it which has got us even more hurt obviously. I'm getting upset with things such as going on my Facebook and people are uploading photos of their new borns and saying my daughter/sons first time doing this and that today :'( which has been extremely hard to see. I seriously cannot deal with this no more. It's getting worse and worse by the day. I don't know what to do anymore.

 

[Kasey84]

Hi Hun,
So sorry for your loss. You should check out the miscarriage support section. That forum was a life saver for me after my mc.

I wish there was an easy fix, but unfortunately, all you can do is take things one day or even hour at a time. It's a devastating loss. Go easy on yourself and grieve as long as you need. Talk with the people in your life who support you and talk with the ladies on here. There's always the option of grief counselling as well if you find it doesn't get easier with time.

It's probably hard to imagine right now, but your heart will heal with time, especially with lots of love and support.

I lost my first baby at 14 weeks pregnant on Christmas Eve 2012. I was devestated and the first year milestones were really hard (Mother's Day, due date, anniversary of mc), but I got through it and so will you!

As for finding it hard to see pictures of newborns on Facebook, I think that's totally normal. I had a number of friends/relatives pregnant around the time of my loss and I simply had to block them on fb. My very best friend was pregnant and I found it difficult to be around her/talk about her pregnancy. I was happy for all of my pregnant friends, but I just couldn't be involved like I normally would have. I kept my distance and wouldn't allow myself to feel guilty about that because it was the only way to stay sane and heal. Do what is best for you!

You'll probably always think of and miss the baby you lost (I know I do), but your heart will heal and little everyday and you learn to cope with the loss.

Take care and feel free to pm me anytime you need to talk.

 

[floridamomma]

As she said it will be hard. Talking helps, praying helps, yell scream work outig all helps. Allow yourself time to feel the pain and begin to heal. I've been through 3 mc and it's still hard for me to see babies and pregnant women. My sister just had my nephew whom I love to death but I see him when I can because it's hard for me. Be gentle with yourself I will keep you in my prayers