Starlight288
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Hi ladies,
In case some have not seen me here before I am knew to this board as I lost my baby at 14 weeks last Friday. I had my d&e Wednesday and am doing well overall.
Anyway I have family issue which has been around for a while. My MIL was nothing but rude and nasty prior to my wedding last July. So was my SIL but she's another story. Anyway we tried to sit down and discuss these issues with my MIL back in November and she chose not to and stormed out of our house.
The only other conversations we've had with her is her random guilt trip text to tell us to just put our feelings aside. So we've not spoken to her since. Fast forward to Feb when we decided to tell people about our pregnancy. My husband reached out to her one more time trying to fix things and no reply from her. So we posted on FB about our pregnancy and that's how she found out. Only reply from her was to make her own post announcing OUR pregnancy ( she's a narcissist in my eyes) she never once asked how everything was going, when our due date was , Nothing at all!!!
Now understandably my husband wants to tell his mother we lost our baby. But this infuriates me to no end. If you didn't care enough to ask about our living child you don't get to grieve them!!
I think the basis of my feelings are this nasty text message I got from SIL last Summer basically telling me she hopes I never procreate and my marriage fails. Although this was SIL and not MIL, my mil never once acknowledged this text or apologized for her daughter. Even though other family members did including her other son and her mother! So basically I'm hurt by this and while I know it's not the reason I lost my child it's still weighs on my mind. No matter how I try to push it out.
I just feel like I'm so tired of worrying about everyone else this is my child that I need to grieve and others feelings are really not important l. Especially when you didn't show any concern in the first place. If you made it this far, thanks!
In case some have not seen me here before I am knew to this board as I lost my baby at 14 weeks last Friday. I had my d&e Wednesday and am doing well overall.
Anyway I have family issue which has been around for a while. My MIL was nothing but rude and nasty prior to my wedding last July. So was my SIL but she's another story. Anyway we tried to sit down and discuss these issues with my MIL back in November and she chose not to and stormed out of our house.
The only other conversations we've had with her is her random guilt trip text to tell us to just put our feelings aside. So we've not spoken to her since. Fast forward to Feb when we decided to tell people about our pregnancy. My husband reached out to her one more time trying to fix things and no reply from her. So we posted on FB about our pregnancy and that's how she found out. Only reply from her was to make her own post announcing OUR pregnancy ( she's a narcissist in my eyes) she never once asked how everything was going, when our due date was , Nothing at all!!!
Now understandably my husband wants to tell his mother we lost our baby. But this infuriates me to no end. If you didn't care enough to ask about our living child you don't get to grieve them!!
I think the basis of my feelings are this nasty text message I got from SIL last Summer basically telling me she hopes I never procreate and my marriage fails. Although this was SIL and not MIL, my mil never once acknowledged this text or apologized for her daughter. Even though other family members did including her other son and her mother! So basically I'm hurt by this and while I know it's not the reason I lost my child it's still weighs on my mind. No matter how I try to push it out.
I just feel like I'm so tired of worrying about everyone else this is my child that I need to grieve and others feelings are really not important l. Especially when you didn't show any concern in the first place. If you made it this far, thanks!