Father relinquishing rights uk?

[Attalu]

My sons father and I split up when my son was almost 3 months old. Since then his father has made no attempt to see him and has refused to pay me child support. (Even when we were together he did nothing for his son). He's heavily into drugs and drinking and has no job, or any intention of ever getting one.
It isn't something I'm planning to do right now but does anyone know exactly what is involved in him relinquishing his parental responsibility?
If he agrees is it as easy as just filling in some forms.. Or does someone need to allow him to give them up?
Any help would be great.

 

[daneuse27]

Is he on the birth certificate?

 

[teal]

I imagine it won't be as easy as signing some forms. To have parental responsibility (if not on birth certificate) then you would go to court so I would think removing parental responsibility would also go to court for a judge to decide what is in the best interest of the child.

 

[Karren]

Is he on the Birth Certificate?

 

[Attalu]

Yes, he is on the birth certificate

 

[Soanxious]

As he is on the Birth certificate you would need to apply to the courts... and you would have to pay.

You can explain the whole situation, and you never know the dad may decide to change mind and then it maybe contested. Either way its down to the court, and the judges don't always remove parental responsibility..

Maybe he will just fade into the background and nothing will need to be done. If you get any problems off him later on you are entitled to 30 mins free advice from a solicitor. Check online who has the best Family solicitor in your area.

Good luck!

 

[mamashakesit]

I'm not in the UK, sorry, but I did do this in the states. Here, every state is very different. I've lived in 3 different states since her birth and they were all different.

Her birth state basically gives the mother whatever she wants if the father has not contributed in any fashion. My home state, it was difficult unless he signed off and could go either way. The state we moved to later, it was relatively easy and cheap once he signed off, but I HAD to hire an attorney; there was no way to fill out your own paperwork.

From a mental standpoint - let me tell you - this was the best thing I EVER could have done for my daughter and myself. I thought it would make me sad, but it really empowered me and made me gloriously happy. Something I really needed after the hell mine put me through.

Now I work with women who constantly fight with their ex's about their children and each other. They have so much stress in their life over who gets the kids when and who's going to drop them off on time. Sometimes I get a little jealous of women who get a weekend off when their ex takes the kids and they get child support. But despite that, I'm really happy and proud of myself for doing it and not having to deal with all that drama is so worth it!

 

[Laylagirl]

Yeah, I'm from the states also...over here, if the father wants to relinquish his rights, he can do that...BUT it does not give up the mothers right to financial support...she looks after the child on her own, but may still seek support...but if she wants to take his rights away, that is a different story...that has to be proven he is unfit for the child...but that's here... I know we do things differently..