Fears about labor

[BabyHopes1974]

So I can't seem to get it out of my head: how my labor will go. I'm carrying twins so I think this has added to my anxiety. I am worried something might go wrong.

Anyone else? Also, any suggestions on calming these fears?

 

[RoxieHart]

I know this looks easy to say... But personally it's about your frame of mind. Try to relax, try to keep head strong, try not to let yourself be overwhelmed with anxiety about labour. Millions of women do it, you can do it too!

If you over think about what it will be like.. You create all this anticipation and become tense about it. Just try to relax, you will be perfect! As long as you know the basics of labour and what will be happening, try not to think too much about it, and when it happens keep head strong and take it step by step then at that time if something goes wrong, you think about it and deal with it there and then, don't set yourself up with worry that may not happen.

Just my advice anyway, people might feel differently. For me a calm approach is the best approach, it really helped me in labour with DD1, I made sure I understood what I needed to know about labour and tried not to worry about it during my pregnancy. When it happened I was very quiet and had her on just gas and air.

xx

 

[EmzyJA]

I was induced and I think I struggled to stay calm. I found it quite painful. I'm hoping a natural birth will be better for me and will try to relax more this time as pp said, if you try to relax and just go with the flow then that's the best way to deal with it. I think my anxiety got the better of me first time round. I still managed 9 hours of contraction then had to go on the drip to speed things up so they gave me and epidural as I was bed bound anyways. My advice would be to be open to try whatever you feel you need at the time. There's no right or wrong way. If you need pain relief it's there, if you can cope without that's great. If a c section is needed then that's what's best. I don't think you can personally plan a labour, I think you just go with the flow of it. Try not to worry though, I was actually excited to know what it felt like. If people do it again then it's gotta be worth it and I'm one of those doing it again lol.

 

[moter98]

I am on my third and with my first I was terrified of the birth. But you know what? All those months of worrying were worse than my actual birth experience. I've been induced as well and didn't find it harder to cope. Pain relief is there if you need it which is reassuring to me. If it were really that bad I wouldn't be doing it a third time. You will do just fine, try not to worry!

 

[RoxieHart]

Again I second what the other ladies have said too just go with the flow, and remember you have available options if you need them at the time. For now just relax

 

[nicijones]

Have u thought about doing hypnobirthing? I practised this with dd and had her at home with just a few puffs of gas and air. It really helped me to relax into the labour and get me in the zone!
Xx

 

[RoxieHart]

Have u thought about doing hypnobirthing? I practised this with dd and had her at home with just a few puffs of gas and air. It really helped me to relax into the labour and get me in the zone!
Xx

I wanted to look into doing this this time around

 

[BabyHopes1974]

Have u thought about doing hypnobirthing? I practised this with dd and had her at home with just a few puffs of gas and air. It really helped me to relax into the labour and get me in the zone!
Xx

Can you do that at a hospital? With twins I pretty much need to give birth in a hospital.

 

[ParisJeTadore]

Yes, I had a hospital birth and did hypnobirthing. I recommend it to anyone I know! It worked SO amazingly well and I am someone who generally gets extremely anxious just going to doctors appointments. You don't need to spend loads on courses either. I ordered the hypnobirthing cd, relaxation music and workbook from UK depository by Maggie Howell and had a very focused, and calm birth despite labouring for 36 hours with intense back labour the entire time. It can be done!