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Brandi - that sounds horrible! I don't know what I would have done of my mother wmdid half the things your mum did but I doubt we'd ever talk again...!
Although I wanted my mum there with my dh in the delivery room. I'd love her to be there for this baby too, but it al depends on when he arrives. If it's during one of dd'a nursery days she can be there!
But she was ever so supportive! I loved having my closest people next to me when I was in agony!
 
I wish my mom could be there when my babies are born. But she is the best person (aside from my husband obviously) to take care of the older kids. I know she wishes she could be there. But at least dh will come home and get the kids soon enough and then they can ALL come see the baby. And me of course. :)
 
Last night during a BD session, towards the end of it, I started to get a strong cramp in my pelvic region. When we finished the cramping had gotten intense, I could barely walk, and I had some lower back tension. My entire belly got hard. It lasted a good 5 minutes while I cleaned up and crawled into bed finally. Had to do some deep breathing to push through the pain. After 5 minutes it finally subsided and I was able to fall asleep.
I'm guessing it was a strong contraction? :shrug:
Really hope BDing isn't off the table since my drive is way up
 
Yeah, my mother is just crazy. I wish I didn't have to put those restrictions in place and that she could just respect the boundaries set and then I might have considered having her in the waiting room, but she has no concept of boundaries and respect so I feel like I have no other choice, sadly. I can't be excited and announce anything like I have with all my other kids because of ONE person who could ruin it all.

I don't think what you experienced was a contraction. They don't normally last 5 minutes long, but at this stage, your body is getting ready so it could have just been a uterine reaction to the small contractions that happen after an orgasm. Just your body's way of prepping.
 
BrandiCanucks said:
I don't think what you experienced was a contraction. They don't normally last 5 minutes long, but at this stage, your body is getting ready so it could have just been a uterine reaction to the small contractions that happen after an orgasm. Just your body's way of prepping.
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the cramping started though before an orgasm was even reached.. it actually was hindering me getting there and almost made me give up. :shrug:
 
At this stage, it's pretty common to get random cramps and pains too. Rex can make it worse
 
FLA I got the same thing DTD a few weeks ago. I was on top so I thought it was maybe cramping from the motion or getting close to orgasm? But same here it hurt so bad it just made me want to stop and kind of threw off my mojo :blush:

It's totally normal though as long as you're not bleeding or having regular contractions that get more intense you are fine :~)
 
I assumed it was probably normal lol.. just my body trying to balance everything going on. just wasn't sure if it was a contraction contraction or just like a muscle spasm. DH could tell I was in serious pain and just looked at me kinda freaked and said "are you going in to labor?!" lol I shook my head and crawled up the stairs to go get in bed.

Our positions changed a few times but I was on top at one point and though the cramping didn't happen until after that, it's possible it could have agitated the muscle :shrug: I was just glad when it subsided I was able to fall asleep and the pain didn't continue. I had been having some period like cramping on and off all day.. they'd only last a minute or so, and so I was a little worried I'd like kicked them into overdrive.. being a FTM is so hard lol.. so much unknown!
 
Oh yes, me too! I've woken up this morning and I feel like baby is so low, she's going to fall out. :haha: The pelvic pain is horrendous. Xx
 
I only ever seem to get that after spending time sitting on my birthing ball. After half an hour on it last night I was waddling around the house like a penguin :rofl:
 
spudsmama :rofl: I definitely know what you mean. Especially with a full bladder. I'm probably just look like a cartoon character or something. There is definite engagement when I am sitting on an exercise ball and when I do big hip circles on them. Have had lightning crotch or tingling cervix, whichever you want to call it, since 24 weeks or so!
Are you able to tell if baby is on right or left side, face up or face down? Most of the time Zodi is on the left but if I lay propped on my back they like to stretch out on the right :~)


As far as having mothers there, I plan to call my mom who lives 2 hrs away when I'm 7 cm dilated. Don't really want her there for the delivery but I know she'll want to see her first grandbaby right after they are born. The birthing center only really allows you to stay a few hours postpartum so she doesn't want to miss seeing all that I assume.
But then we'll be able to go home, not sure if she plans on staying a few days or not???
 
My mom and my MIL both have really disappointed me and OH this time around. With DD my MIL came and stayed with us for 2 weeks after she was born and my mom was at her birth.

This time around my MIL isn't coming at all and I don't even know when she will be able to come bc she can't afford it.

My mom lives in Arizona during the winter and since we have OH's dad living with us right now she is refusing to come back for a couple weeks after baby is born bc she is being spiteful. But my dad is going to come stay with us for a couple days and we have my husbands dad to help us out with DD. She is such a grandpas girl that hopefully it should work out :)
 
DaisyDreamer said:
spudsmama :rofl: I definitely know what you mean. Especially with a full bladder. I'm probably just look like a cartoon character or something. There is definite engagement when I am sitting on an exercise ball and when I do big hip circles on them. Have had lightning crotch or tingling cervix, whichever you want to call it, since 24 weeks or so!
Are you able to tell if baby is on right or left side, face up or face down? Most of the time Zodi is on the left but if I lay propped on my back they like to stretch out on the right :~)
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My bub was back to back for a good few weeks, I could tell because I constantly felt little hands and feet prodding me in the front of my belly :haha: My midwife confirmed it. But he's recently changed positions and is now usually lying on his side facing my right (still head down), regardless of how I'm sitting/lying I get all of the kicking and wriggling in my right side, never my left!

As for the mum thing, she was my birthing partner when having my daughter and she was absolutely amazing despite being on chemotherapy at the time. Sadly, she passed away November 2014 so I can't have her with me this time... no matter how much I wish for it! So instead I'll have my aunt (who was also there when Phoebe was born along with mum) and obviously Ben's dad. I'm not 100% happy with either but I figured my aunt is a good choice because she's seen it all before from when I gave birth last time and I really wanted that female presence with me. Obviously I'd never turn the father away from his sons birth despite us not being together anymore... no matter how paranoid I am about him being an insensitive idiot while I'm labouring :haha: I consider it important for early bonding between the two of them though so I'm sucking it up.

I'm going to be fairly strict about hospital visitors. I've said from the beginning of the pregnancy that I intend for my daughter to be the first to come in to meet her new brother, and my dad will also be there early because he'll be the one bringing Phoebe. If my ex's mum wants to come to see her new grandson she's more than welcome too... but that's it. Everyone else can wait until we're home, I can't see me being in for more than one night after all, and they'll come when I say they can! When I had my daughter we came home from hospital to find my entire extended family waiting for us, it was a nightmare and so so stressful :growlmad: This time I hope to stagger our visitors, limiting them to a couple a day.
 
My IL's haven't seemed the slightest bit interested in being there for the birth or being notified. Which is just as well, I don't really dig their vibe any how. Figure that living two houses away from them is close enough, they know when I'm due and they can put it together!!! So tired of "begging" them to be interested in their grandbaby.
 
In our case, everyone wants to be there for the birth, but they're all gonna have to wait outside in the waiting room. Only hubby gets to be there for the labor (if allowed). My parents and ILs will probably get to meet the baby after we've all been moved to our room and hubby and I have had a few moments to ourselves with our new baby.

That of course means that everyone is already buzzing with anticipation, which I find kinda funny! The other day we went to see the Star Wars movie (yay!) and we had our phones on mute. We got calls from everyone, including multiple calls from my mum, and since we weren't answering our phones they all proceeded to separately jump to conclusions and panic. I spent half an hour afterwards convincing various parents and ILs that no, I am not suddenly going in labour and that everything was fine, we were just at the movies. My parents had been just about ready to pack up their stuff and cut their weekend trip visiting my grandma short, convinced that I was secretly giving birth and was therefore unable to answer my phone, lol.
 
Had my checkup today and baby is still head down and doing great! Dr was talking about not wanting me to go past 40 weeks so he said we can talk about an induction schedule at 39 at our next appt. I cant believe how close we are getting!

As for family at the hospital...both of our families live in other states so we just plan in having DH and I there and that's it. My mom will come a week after he is here and is trying to stay for a month, then my dad and brother will join for the last week she is here and the three of them will fly home together. Then my MIL and FIL will be here for a week after my parents leave. I think that is a good staggered plan hehe.
 
For us it will be my husband, my mama, and my SIL (married to my brother) present at the birth. Husband has been super supportive of the fact that I don't want to include a lot of people, I'm worried I will get anxious and his mom is not easy to be around.

Side note, it looks I will likely be induced this Saturday, so I won't technically be a February mama after all! My BP is high and won't stay down, I'll be 38 weeks Monday so my Dr has to decided to just move forward with labor. Eeek.
 
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