February Lovebugs of 2016!! 16 pink, 15 blue, 7 yellow

[dustergrl]

Being a first-timer I'm really enjoying reading this thread!

Does anyone have any insight on midwife/homebirth vs OB? I'm kind of a hippie and leaning toward homebirth but want some stories from anyone who may have them.

 

[CrazyMT]

Hey! According to my LMP I am due February 11. This will be my 3rd.

My youngest is 9. He is my handyman and tenderhearted little man. (Not circumcised and never had an issue.)

My oldest is almost 15. She is sweet...but AHHH teenage years!

I tried to get into the doctor's office today to POAS but they require an appointment with the doctor for that, so my appointment is Monday. My DD was born with a major heart defect so I am semi-high risk, just have to have an extra ultrasound to make sure the heart is developed properly. This one should be fun cause I found I also have a heart defect and cannot take anything that can alter my rhythm.

I think a whole of 3 people know that I am expecting. I plan to quietly tell my in laws tomorrow but they have to keep it a secret. The kids will find out later this week with a treasure hunt. I will tell my parents about the time I announce to everyone else. (Drama that happened lost them the privilege of being in the know before anyone else).

I have had little to no symptoms so far but I am sure the nausea and vomiting will be coming soon. With my DD I was sick 24/7. With my DS, I was really sick but not as bad. I had to be put on bed rest for a while with both. So, I am getting things done around the house while I can and getting some knitting and sewing together for when I can only lay on the couch or stay in bed.

 

[BrandiCanucks]

I had a midwife for my third and fourth pregnancies. The care was excellent and very patient centered for my third pregnancy, and the labour and birth went off without a hitch, and we were home 3 hours later.

So I planned a home water birth for my 4th, but things went wrong with my pregnancy and my midwives really slacked. I began measuring ahead at 28 weeks, didn't have a GD test done, they refused a late ultrasound when I had start and stop labour, saying I was just anxious. I kept saying it was a cord issue. My last ultrasound had been at 18 weeks.

They tried to send me home with swelling of my legs and a blood pressure of 120/80 when my normal is 80/60 and while in labour, my son's heartrate dropped to the 50's. They LEFT during the labour, and when my son's cord prolapsed, they didn't make it back in time for the delivery. I didn't see them until nearly 24 hours after my c-section.

I'm glad I didn't have a homebirth now because my son would have died. While I loved the care I had with my 3rd baby, the same midwives I had for her slacked with my son and almost cost him his life. I can't bring myself to go the midwife route, even though I HATE going the OB route. I have to weigh the risks and benefits, and since I only gave birth 11 months ago, I think it's safer for my to go the OB route and maybe possibly schedule a c-section.

But if you have no negative obstetrical history, I say go the midwife route. Just speak up for yourself and demand things if you think something is going wrong.

 

[Nola0841]

I'm still peeing on sticks almost everyday too with IC, and I'm still taking my temperature to make sure it's staying high

Nola....has your hubby not guessed anything yet?

Not yet! He's pretty obvious though. It also probably doesn't cross his mind that I might be because he wouldn't think I could keep the secret from him because he could never keep something this huge from me

 

[daniyaaq]

i dont know about a home birth, think i would be scared to do one though. with my 1st i started under care of a midwife but had threatened pre-term labour at around 32 so OB took over at our local hospital.

With birth, OB decided to induce at 38weeks because 'my stomach looked small" this was despite the fact that ultrasound and all other measurements, including the tape around my tummy measured on time. When i was induced, i suspect labour had already started, i was already dilated that morning when i got to hospital about 4cm, they broke my water and were going to do 2 drips an hour apart...about 20minutes after the first one was inserted...baby arrived...(while i was still waiting for OB to come

 

[emrhian91]

Asleep by 11pm last night (so not like me) and now it's 4am and I woke up for a wee and I'm wide awake.
Ahhhhhhhh
I NEED SLEEP.

 

[Nola0841]

Being a first-timer I'm really enjoying reading this thread!

Does anyone have any insight on midwife/homebirth vs OB? I'm kind of a hippie and leaning toward homebirth but want some stories from anyone who may have them.

I had an OB at first with my first but switched to a midwife mid way through pregnancy and had a homebirth. Loved every minute of it. That's the route I'm taking this time too. I'm pretty hippie myself

 

[BrittRashel]

I'm still peeing on sticks almost everyday too with IC, and I'm still taking my temperature to make sure it's staying high

Nola....has your hubby not guessed anything yet?

Not yet! He's pretty obvious though. It also probably doesn't cross his mind that I might be because he wouldn't think I could keep the secret from him because he could never keep something this huge from me

See, I couldn't ever keep it from my husband. He knows my cycle better than I do. He would ask the day AF was due if I had started.

 

[Nola0841]

Haha not my husband. He doesn't pay attention to that kind of thing, it's so funny. He has no clue where I am in my cycle even though he KNOWS when I ovulated (Because I told him since we are trying). I'm sure he doesn't even realize that I never got a period this month, he never asked so I didn't even have to lie to keep my secret going.

 

[dustergrl]

I had a midwife for my third and fourth pregnancies. The care was excellent and very patient centered for my third pregnancy, and the labour and birth went off without a hitch, and we were home 3 hours later.

So I planned a home water birth for my 4th, but things went wrong with my pregnancy and my midwives really slacked. I began measuring ahead at 28 weeks, didn't have a GD test done, they refused a late ultrasound when I had start and stop labour, saying I was just anxious. I kept saying it was a cord issue. My last ultrasound had been at 18 weeks.

They tried to send me home with swelling of my legs and a blood pressure of 120/80 when my normal is 80/60 and while in labour, my son's heartrate dropped to the 50's. They LEFT during the labour, and when my son's cord prolapsed, they didn't make it back in time for the delivery. I didn't see them until nearly 24 hours after my c-section.

I'm glad I didn't have a homebirth now because my son would have died. While I loved the care I had with my 3rd baby, the same midwives I had for her slacked with my son and almost cost him his life. I can't bring myself to go the midwife route, even though I HATE going the OB route. I have to weigh the risks and benefits, and since I only gave birth 11 months ago, I think it's safer for my to go the OB route and maybe possibly schedule a c-section.

But if you have no negative obstetrical history, I say go the midwife route. Just speak up for yourself and demand things if you think something is going wrong.

Thanks- wow, I'm glad your son made it. How terrifying! The midwife I am considering comes highly recommended, and with a home birth I hope she wouldn't leave. If she does I would definitely be heading to the nearest emergency room...

i dont know about a home birth, think i would be scared to do one though. with my 1st i started under care of a midwife but had threatened pre-term labour at around 32 so OB took over at our local hospital.

With birth, OB decided to induce at 38weeks because 'my stomach looked small" this was despite the fact that ultrasound and all other measurements, including the tape around my tummy measured on time. When i was induced, i suspect labour had already started, i was already dilated that morning when i got to hospital about 4cm, they broke my water and were going to do 2 drips an hour apart...about 20minutes after the first one was inserted...baby arrived...(while i was still waiting for OB to come

It seems like that was a strange reason to induce with no further evidence it was necessary!

 

[ajarvis]

I would have a homebirth in a second. Two ob hospital births and not great experiences. But the fiance isn't comfortable so it'll either be in a birth center or hospital with midwife instead of OB. As little medical intervention as possible. I refuse to be induced for nonsense reasons, and I don't want to be stoned for this birth lol

 

[Disneymom1129]

I'm too chicken to ever do a home birth. I'm like the opposite of a hippie lol.

 

[anti]

While I wouldn't be comfortable having a home birth, in the UK if you're having an uncomplicated pregnancy and you're at low risk you automatically get midwife care. Unless it's twins or you have other complications it's always midwife care. I went into a birth unit with my daughter but there was meconium in her waters when they broke so I was transferred to a hospital labour ward for monitoring and in case of any complications. I pedeatrician had to be present when she was born to suction her lungs out but I still delivered with just the midwives. We had to be kept in overnight for monitoring to ensure there was no infections for either of us. I'm so glad that it's mainly midwife care here, it's treated as such a natural process. Things I've seen and heard about the U.S. Scares me a bit, it's all very clinical...

 

[emrhian91]

I don't even want to think about birth yet!!! Terrified!!

 

[daniyaaq]

I don't even want to think about birth yet!!! Terrified!!

I was like that with my first.


Afm looks like nausea is back in full force. Its been mild on and off today, then dinner got started, the smell was just awful I just wanted to stick my head in toilet. I really want this to be easy

 

[emrhian91]

Yeah I feel quite sick this morning.
My cramping is worse than yesterday and it's worrying me because I don't know how much cramping is normal

 

[sausages]

Wow, this thread moves sooo quickly!! In previous pregnancies i have been part of a birth board where a whole forum was dedicated to a month, so we had an "our bellies" sticky at the top, one for due dates etc. Then we would all start separate posts about things - some were chat, some were questions about specific things. Am I the only one struggling to follow this format? I'm not used to it! Not that i'm complaining, i'm just struggling to keep up.

I'm happy cause i got a positive digital today. I have had a ton of lines on lines on various sticks, but nothing brings it home like the words, "pregnant, 1-2" lol!

Also add me to the "quite comfortable" club. I felt nauseous yesterday for the first time. I thankfully didn't suffer any morning sickness with any of my last pregnancies, just a slight twinge of sickness when i got hungry and that's it. I am hoping for the same this time.

I am so glad i don't have to make a decision about circumcision being in the UK. It's just routinely NOT done. I have researched it though after seeing similar discussions during my previous pregnancies and I know I would choose intact over cut anyway. The way i see it is the foreskin is there for a reason whether you believe God put it there or it evolved to be there. Point is, someone/something wiser put it there. Why mess with that?! Of course there could be problems later on, but there could be problems with having it removed. If it aint broke, don't fix it! If it breaks, get it fixed. It's the whole cut while newborn things that gets to me. I don't know if the video I watched was just intactivist scaremongering or whether it was a true representation, but it was awful to watch. The baby had no pain relief! And i know people say they won't remember it, but babies remember nothing. Kids remember nothing until they start getting to 3 or 4 years old, but we still enrich their life with positive experiences and protect them from bad. It still shapes their life, even if they can't remember. Plus, they need that skin! Not to be vulgar or anything, but DH doesn't need lotion to use his hand and his penis is very sensitive. I can only imagine that having that part exposed for life just numbs it a little. Plus it's the whole deciding for them thing. It is such a HUGE decision to make on someone's behalf. What if you get it wrong? At least if they're intact they can decide to have it done if they don't like it later on. There's no way to get that skin back on if they decide later on their want it back (anyone see that episode of friends, LMAO!!) That's just my view on it anyway.

 

[sausages]

Oh and I would have loved a home birth, i bet it's amazing! I would definitely say you need to be in very quick transfer distance to the hospital though. If the hospital is say, over 20-30 minutes away i wouldn't risk it. I would have died with my first baby if I hadn't been in the hospital when it all went wrong. Now, i don't have a choice because they have all been c-sections. It must be really awesome though. I love seeing photographs of people's home births.

 

[sausages]

If it's okay with everyone i'm working on some lovebugs graphics for us. I'm not amazing at it, but I do enjoy having a little play. We don't have to use it if people don't like it. I won't be offended.

 

[daniyaaq]

If it's okay with everyone i'm working on some lovebugs graphics for us. I'm not amazing at it, but I do enjoy having a little play. We don't have to use it if people don't like it. I won't be offended.

Yay for graphics. Someone did ask before but guess non of us were confident enough to do it.

And yes this thrrad moves fast and can get hard to keep up if you miss a day or so. Every morning when I wake up there's about 4 pages to catch up on.