Fed up of being labelled 'anxious'

[silarose28]

Just needed to say that I would never have thought difficulties conceiving would be so upsetting. I'm 36 now and the thought that it might not happen for me keeps going over and over in my mind. I'm constantly on the verge of tears. My friends who have kids/are pregnant are supportive - but I'm avoiding them because I can't bear the baby talk. the friends I have who don't want kids yet keep telling me to relax so I have just stopped talking to them as that makes me feel like I am some neurotic freak!!! Even the doctors keep treating me like I am neurotic - I have literally had to force them to see that I have an extremely short lp which is impacting on my fertility! (I managed to prove that I was right by being very persistent with my fs, ignoring his dismissive remarks and asking him to prove me wrong - which by the way he didn't as ultrasounds showed I was right all long!) I've honestly had enough!! It's horrible.

Just needed to get that out!

Has anyone else just got the feeling that everyone is blaming them as they are anxious?! I can't help but be anxious when nobody listens to a word I am saying!!!! Sure relaxing might help - but it is not going to fix a medical difficulty!!

 

[reallyready]

I hear you screamin' for sure and if my experience is any help, I say be aggressive about your needs with the doctors. I've been told to be patient, to relax, and dismissed for legitimate concerns. If you aren't getting the treatment you need, find another doctor. Don't wait.
On the friends front, I didn't check when you joined but I am finding that BnB is an extremely helpful and supportive group. It has gotten to where I don't have the urge to talk about it with anyone else, except DH but even those talks are more constructive now as BnB women are helping me sort through the maze of emotions I've been feeling. Talk about getting a need met, BnB is a great group of women!!
xxx

 

[silarose28]

Thanks reallyready

I have also found everyone on here to be a great help. Have just got off the phone to a pregnant friend. Had been in tears as I wrote the message above just before she called. Writing it all down and getting it off my chest meant that I didn't offload on her and that made me feel a bit stronger for some reason.

It makes me feel better that we can all support each other! xxx

 

[Millnsy]

Hey ladies

I totally hear your frustration. Towards the end of the 2.5 years we were TTC I started avoiding people in case they asked me anything about babies. I was fed up with people saying relax it will happen. In fact, we got to the point where we told everyone that we were on a break from TTC so that we didn't have to talk about it. Then when the IUI worked and we told them we were pregnant, they all bloody said we knew it would happen when you just relaxed and stopped thinking about it! I came clean then and told them that we had lied and were still trying , just didn't need the stress of them prying all the time!

Best of luck with your journey, this forum kept me sane throughout!

Millnsy x

 

[tansey]

I'm glad you are being determined with your FS! I too won't be fobbed off and question and push things when i have to! I am 37 in 10days and TTC#1