Amy89
Soulmate, Ollybear, and I
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Not baby related, but could do with some advice plz, sorry for the long story in advance....basically, I've got very few friends in my city, because I like to have a handful of close friends and varying circumstances have meant that a lot of my friends have moved away bar two. My best friend lost her job about 2 years ago & I helped her financially, as well as paid for nights out for us both etc. She lived with a family member who she fell out with in November, and we (OH and I) opened our home to her and let her live with us for a month. That month turned into two and we agreed that she'd pay us once she got a job. She got a job in Feb, paid us, and moved out into her own place. Since she's moved out and got herself financially stable, I've barely heard from her, I always try and make plans for us but I very rarely get to see my friend any more. She is either too busy, too hungover, or cancels at the last minute (or even after we're due to meet up). I've spoke to her about it before and get rubbish excuses, then I feel bad because she says I'm like her sister and she'd do anything for me, and how dreadful she feels about being such a shitty friend (her words, not mine). Last time, we had a huge row because I felt like I was just being used, and she said she'd make more of an effort. Since then, I've seen her once (and even then she bought her latest boy toy round), and today she promised to come to my house and help me flea bomb, as I'm pregnant and can't - she offered to do this and told me not to do it myself yesterday as I wanted to, but to wait for her because she didn't think the fumes would be safe for me, but after ringing and texting her, she told me she's too hungover and will 'see if she can manage the 30 second walk' to mine. I told her not to bother and that I'll do it myself...am I right to be pissed?
I've said before I don't want to be the centre of her attention, but I try and contact her to make plans at least once a week, and I don't hear from her for months on end. I think I'm finally done with it, it's too much stress to worry about why my friend doesn't seem to like me since she moved out of our house. Please no nasty comments, I'm not being purposely selfish or seeking attention from her, I'm just fed up of being treated like a mug when she needs me. Thanks xx
I've said before I don't want to be the centre of her attention, but I try and contact her to make plans at least once a week, and I don't hear from her for months on end. I think I'm finally done with it, it's too much stress to worry about why my friend doesn't seem to like me since she moved out of our house. Please no nasty comments, I'm not being purposely selfish or seeking attention from her, I'm just fed up of being treated like a mug when she needs me. Thanks xx