Feel guilty- parents giving me too much.

[littlegenes]

My parents give me too much financial support. They give me an allowance still, I live in their old house and they refuse to let me pay rent and when I agreed to let one of my old friends and her boyfriend live her temporaily last month until the new year- they told me to keep their rent money.

Ok it means I get to buy nice things for me and Ava, I get to eat a healthy diet and it means I can run a car and it means I don't have to get up to my eyeballs in debt to study but still...

I run a small sewing business from home- only makes me a little money and wouldn't be able to live on it properly but still...they do give me too much considering that I also have a job in a way.

I would buy them expensive christmas presents as a thank you- but they wouldn't accept them and would tell me to return them and spend the money on myself.

I guess I spend it...but I have to. It doesn't stop the guilt though!

Not to mention they look after Ava pretty much full time (my sisters usually come and see her during the week too if they can with their kids) and they won't take a penny off me for looking after her and will pay for her trips out when they take her and won't let me pay them back for this.

I don't know what to do really....kind of stuck between a rock and a hard place

 

[MikaylasMummy]

I think that Is so nice they care about your wellbeing and happiness so much.you are not being ungrateful,you don't expect it and you have offered to pay them.if they have the means to help you then why not?you are lucky!

 

[Tegans Mama]

To be honest this is my dream when our children are older. I want to be able to help them, to make their lives easier. I would accept their offerings gracefully whilst they are still helping you, and know that it will end one day, but for now they are just fulfilling their parental urges by helping you in the best ways they can - financially and with Ava.

 

[Redhead84]

I earn great money in my job - but my parents shelled out an awful lot to help me when I was a student/trainee solicitor - my Dad has always said, if we've got it, you can have it - I can't take it with me... And better that you have the support now whilst you need it than a few extra thousand in inheritance when you're on your own two feet anyway.

Take the money, make life a little easier - but don't stop striving like you are to be fully independent.

A simple thanks is all your parents need and they only want to see you happy and struggling like hell - I wish more parents were like ours