Feel like crying and it's only month 2

[bextas]

I don't know how all you wonderful ladies do it. Trying each month and not fallling straight away. I came off the pill at the end of March have now had 2 af's so I know I am on a 28 day cycle. I am 33 soon to be 34. I have always wanted children but wanted to wait until I was in the right relationship, and was emotionally, physcially and financially ready which I am now but it's only really been my first month of ttc and I was so disappointed, what if this takes me years I'm not sure I am strong enough but what choice do I have I can't go back and pretend I'm not ready. How do you ladies all do it. Someone at work just asked me how it was going and when I said I was diappointed to get my af she said 'what are you talking about, it's took me over a year' she acted like was being totally ridciulous and now I feel bad for being upset. I am on CD4 so next week it's all about the baby dancing.
Thanks for listening.
Bex x

 

[Sparkles237]

i totally understand how your feeling, you expect to full within a couple months and when it doesn't happen it's heartbreaking. At 23 i thought i would be pregnant within 6 months but here i am on month 14 and still not even the slightest hint of a BFP. it does get bit easier as the months go on but you'll still have hard and disappointing days where all you want to do is cry. But i do tend to say try not feel to down and upset on the first second or third month, most people do not full pregnant within those first few months, you should be enjoying those first months of TTC don't put pressure on yourself as it does make things so much harder.

You may have a 28 day cycle but you possible may not even ovulate on day 14, it is worth going onto ebay and getting some ovulation predicter tests that way you can find out what day you actually ovulate as you may well be missing it, i thought i ovulated on day 14 but i mostly ovulate day 16-17 only found that out by using them, and last month i ovulated day 12 so it does help you catch it otherwise for me if i didnt use them i would be completely missing it

 

[nevernormal]

Yeah it's cycle 2 for me TTC, 5th cycle since I started NTNP when I went of BC last July... My cycles are a lot longer than 28 days... but still I don't understand why it has to take forever, or why I feel so horrible about it (and why it feels like forever) when I know there are many women who have been struggling a lot longer than me :/

 

[dianndelto]

Im about to start cycle 2 TTC #1 and I totally understand your pain. Last month I had like 3 meltdowns. Its hard, it takes a toll in our emotions... but dont lose your faith! hang in there! you will get your BFP! there are 7.3 million women like you and me in america who are experiencing this same problem! you are not alone!

baby dust to you and good luck!

 

[Cryssie11]

Bextas don't give up hope! You know you're only 2 months in, and it's totally normal to be NOT pregnant after only 2 months of trying! I feel this way sometimes too (I've been trying since March) especially when I see other ppl getting their bfp's, but I just tell myself I'll probably end up pregnant sometime this year and I have next year to look forward to having a baby. Don't limit yourself to having a baby next feb or next march. Just tell yourself you're working towards a baby next year, and we both know that's something really awesome to look forward to!

 

[justcantwait2]

I'm due AF on Friday, but don't at all feel like I'll be getting a BFP, I don't know why I expected it straight away but it's like someone punched me in the stomach. So all I'll say is hang in there, we'll get through together!
Baby dust!! xx

 

[EngineerGirl]

I'm just starting month 2 and feeling a bit down too, mostly anticipating many more months of this. It's at times like these that I start trying to make a list of things I'm grateful for to realize more and more the blessings of life!

 

[BH040]

Everyone handles things differently... When we first start ttc the first couple months of nothing was really hard, expecially when i found out my friend was pregnant after like 3 months and then 6 months later another friend was pregnant that wasn't even trying. I cried when i found out they were pregnant, so don't feel bad. It will happen all in good time. Just think, the more you stress about it, the harder that it makes it for you to conceive, not that saying that is any help... Another friend of mine has been trying for over a year and nothing yet and obviously there are plenty of women on here that are having troubles as well, so just remember you're not alone.

 

[BeeStrong]

bextas - I'm so sorry that you're feeling stressed about it. I feel like we wait and wait and try so long to not get pregnant. I think most of us predict that we'll start trying and BOOM it will happen just like that. It can be so frustrating when we think we are BDing at the right time, then AF shows up.

I agree with what Chryssie said about trying for 2 months.

I am in no way trying to downplay what you're feeling... I totally empathize. I'm right there with you. Rather, I'm trying to make you feel better by saying that it takes the average couple 6 months to conceive! 6 whole months! Don't get down on yourself.

I would definitely recommend OPK's so you can try and pinpoint when your most fertile days are.

Hang in there!!! Good luck to you!!!

 

[ebaz]

Hey hun, don't feel down....there are a lot of us feeling the same. We are in our second month of 'properly' trying since we lost a little one in January at 11 week... it wasnt planned but has made me a little freakish now in for it happening again!!!! the saying is true 'what you cant have you want!!' I'm 34 and had never thought about having babies until I lost one...now it is all I can think about. I was the same as you, waiting to be in the right relationship, financially secure, etc I prided myself on not becoming pregnant with men I didnt love (even though I had ALOT of fun!! lol) but now at 34 and with the man of my dreams its all I dream of. AF is a bitch now. PM me if you want to chat hun, we will be in the 'first trimester' forums before you know it xxx