Feel like giving up!

[squeaky1983]

Hi Ladies,

I am new to this section of the forum.

The story so far: Im 27 and my husband is 50 we have been ttc for my first (he has two grown up sons) for 20 months Friday with no sign of anything happening. We regularly and still enjoy it, it hasn't become a chore (we've always been the same) But i refuse to put the added pressure of charting and opks etc.

I went for four months without had an ultrasound etc and everything is fine. I really thought that this month was our month, however the last 2 af's have been odd, the first was 2 days early and lasted a day & half and the second was a week late and lasted day and half both heavy for the first couple of hours then spotting. throughout the last month and this month my stomach has been permantely bloated, gassy, heavy I've had heartburn, horrendous headaches and constantly tired you name it!


Surprise surprise I've now convinced myself that I'm pregnant the fact that I've bled doesn't mean anything as my mother had afs for the first three months with me. Why do I put myself through this? Everyone I know has either had a baby or is pregnant and it's just not fair. Im seriously starting to crack myself up. We feel as though we are running out of time as my husband doesn't want to be much older, and while he doesn't say it I know he's thinking it. I just don't understand why we do this to ourselves month after month.

Sorry for the long post just needed to get that off my chest!!

 

[PR&TR13]

Squeaky I complelty understand!!!! I'm 29 and my DH is 43 and has an 11 year old daughter so I know where you are at right now!!!

We've been trying for 10 months and we've not had luck. I do the same thing mentaly convience myself that I'm prego and then the disapointment of AF.

Have you send a fertility specialest? I would ask for your doc to refer you to one because they can do more testing.

With us I had normal periods and they were always 28 days but I did do a OPK for about 2 months and noticed that even though I had AF every 28 days I was ovulating a little late in the cycle. So the OB tried putting me on clomid while he wanted to do a SA on my DH, which by the way came back with low motility. He then decided to refer us to a specialest and I'm glad he did. He told us some vit. the DH can take to try and increase the motility & also is sending me to get an HSG test to make sure I don't have anything blocked before moving to IUI.

Don't give up! I know it's a long process and know that each month feels like a year! But the sooner you get diagnosed the sooner you know what steps need to be taken.

Good luck and keep me posted

 

[keeleyd]

Sorry to hear your story, but I'm sure everything will work out for you soon enough!

Have u been to the doctors for tests?

xx

 

[FutureMommie]

Squeaky I agree with PR that if you haven't done so already you should see a specialist, there are a number of test that can be run to make sure that everything is ok, and there are so many other options available such as clomid, and IUI's just to name a few. Good luck, even though I'm older that you at 37, my DH is 48 and we have been ttc for 2.5 years. your AF's don't sound completely normal so check out a specialist.

 

[squeaky1983]

Thank you for your replies ladies. My af's have been fine since i missed them for four months, then the last two months they have been a little "odd"

I am considering seeing a specialist but these things can take ages, my husband doesn't want to be much older before we have a baby tbh.

I think a lot of it with me is that i keep putting too much pressure on everything, i have enough stress with work and then every 2ww i get myself in a tizz. I'm concentrating too much on the baby thing.

I think these forums are brilliant, but I think they can be more of a hinderance as well, you read people symptoms and inevitably you start thinking every twinge is a cramp....so Im contemplating laying off the websites for a bit and see how it goes xx

 

[PR&TR13]

Good luck girl wish you the best in whatever your desicion may be!!

 

[squeaky1983]

Thanks hun, just choosing to relax a little more, I know it will happen I just need to get on with things. I purposely haven't booked a holiday this year because I keep thinking oooh what if i get pregnant so away we go!!