Feel lost. Pregnant with #2 on my own again

[Becyboo__x]

Most probably already know what im going through..

but anyway im a single mum to my son who is nearly 3
his dad left me when i wad 16 weeks pregnant after saying
there was rumors going round he wasn't the dad and he left
me for another girl aswell anyway

But i basically brought him up single handed.

I then got into another relationship and we did decide to start
ttc but it wasn't happening so we stopped and took a break we
basically dtd once after the break and i then started to not feel right anymore and the relationship broke down.. so we split up.. and then
i had pregnancy tests left so i thought.. i might aswell test to make
sure im not really.. as weve split.. but it came up positive .. so that
was that basically ..

Basically my problems now are that everyone expects me and FOB
are going to just get back together because of this baby but i don't
want to do it just because of a baby, i still don't feel how i did about
him .. we are friends.. but he doesn't see that iv told him straight
because i don't want to leave him unsure.. but he still has hunchs we
are going to sort it all .. Iv had horrible ms from 6 weeks being
admitted to hospital and everything, now my blood pressure is not
very good. I just feel i have no-one i haven't got no friends.. i have
my mum and dad but they can only do so much, i feel miserable about
everything cause i feel so awful in myself and its led to me being depressed
i think because i don't feel happy about this baby.. the scan's don't make
me excited .. i just want to be in my last stage and have the baby
and i know how horrible that sounds.. but .. i never feelt like this
with my son

Im so worried about how im going to cope i feel im going to go insane
this is just with the pregnancy being on my own again but this
time ill be on my own in my own house

 

[GoldieLocs]

sorry you are having such a hard time. Hope it gets better.

 

[teal]

I'm sure you will cope I hope you feel better about things xx

 

[JennyBLove]

Hey aww I feel your pain. My guy said its not gonna work out with us at all today, its been draggin on for few months, n I feel the same too. Not excited or enjoying any of this pregnancy so far. Just depressed, dont wanna cook, or do anything anymore, or any hobbys I liked before. I just look ahead n stress . I know everyone can say have hope, n that well get through it, n so on, but I dont wanna do this all alone, I have noone. N dont wanna be single. I understand n wish things were different. I guess just gotta kerp our heads up, which seems impossibls now.

 

[rory83coyotes]

Have you talked to your dr about the depressed feelings that you are currently having. They maybe able to give you something or refer you to a counselor or something. Don't just suffer in silence. And as for what everyone else expects. They are not you and they do not have to live with any of the choices that you make. If it is better that you and FOB not be together then thats what you should do. A baby does not fix problems but usually does add stress and make things harder. Try to sort it out if you want to but do not feel that a baby is the main reason to get together. You can still continue to have a good relationship for the sake of the baby and get along but you don't have to be together to make that happen. I wouldn't make any quick decisions at this stage. Just take it one day at a time.

 

[sienarose]

I am in the almost exact situation. I am pregnant with number # 2, with a soon to be 2 yr old, my ex and I have split and whilst he thinks things will work out, they won't unfortunately he won't change and we had massive problems before I found out I was pregnant and don't believe a baby will fix anything. I also feel disappointed in myself and the situation I am now in which makes me extremely frustrated.
I know what it's like to not be excited about this pregnancy, whilst I am happy the baby is healthy at scans I too don't have the same excitement as I did with my first. And I hate having negative feelings towards the pregnancy because I know how blessed I was to conceive and so many women would love to be expecting, which makes me feel worse. I know when bub is here I will love them unconditionally I think it's just anxiety and fear about what's to come and if I will be able to do it on my own. I have no family support and tend to keep my distance from "friends" who have screwed me over in the past so you're not alone!!

 

[Becyboo__x]

I am in the almost exact situation. I am pregnant with number # 2, with a soon to be 2 yr old, my ex and I have split and whilst he thinks things will work out, they won't unfortunately he won't change and we had massive problems before I found out I was pregnant and don't believe a baby will fix anything. I also feel disappointed in myself and the situation I am now in which makes me extremely frustrated.
I know what it's like to not be excited about this pregnancy, whilst I am happy the baby is healthy at scans I too don't have the same excitement as I did with my first. And I hate having negative feelings towards the pregnancy because I know how blessed I was to conceive and so many women would love to be expecting, which makes me feel worse. I know when bub is here I will love them unconditionally I think it's just anxiety and fear about what's to come and if I will be able to do it on my own. I have no family support and tend to keep my distance from "friends" who have screwed me over in the past so you're not alone!!

Sounds alot like my situation..
FOB thinks we will sort things.. but i don't know what will happen
my head isn't in any place to think what to do.. My problem is
im living with my dad because when i had my DS his dad left me
nearly half way through and i needed a roof over my head.. and iv
been here ever since.. until i was staying with FOB for abit but he
lives in a studio flat so its not ideal.. but we was going to upgrade etc
obviously not now so im stuck here still as i can't afford to move
somewhere .. and i can't stay here i already share a room with
my DS and we barely fit in there Not sure what to do

I feel bad because i don't understand why i feel nothing towards this
baby but i did towards my son.. his dad wasn't supportive or around.. but
i was normal and okay.. this time FOB is supportive and is around .. so i
should be happy .. i think it is my hormones but as iv had so many
problems with bleeding/ms/haemorhagge near the sac/high risk for downs..
in and out of hospital with all them problems 5 scans already, ive
feel really upset and stressed i used to just cry every night because i feelt
so alone and lost.. also i have no friends either really not just when i first
was pregnant they all went uni and whatever and ditched me didn't want to
know me.. i have family but they all live in different area's and don't always
have the best advise for me.. as they have there own stuff going on

 

[sienarose]

Everything changes when you have one baby let alone two so I think anxiety levels go through the roof. Just know you aren't alone in how youre feeling and we both have to have faith everything will work out.
I have also had a stressful pregnancy this time round so that hasn't helped either, being told you were probably going to miscarry and then basically sitting around waiting for something that didnt happen never allowed me to get excited and I don't think it will kick in until after 20 weeks when I feel a bit more assured everything is ok.
We'll get through it, we have too xx