feeling a bit..guilty

[kermie219]

Another daft post I know....So I am sat here nearly 36 weeks pregnant and been told to take it easy so am bored out of my head and to be hoenst not feeling that great all the time. It has been a while since my hair has been out of a pony tail or I have dressed up or done any make up. lol now I know this is stupid but I feel kinda bad! HUbby never says anything at all and tells me I'm beautiful and pregnant and begs me to take it easy. But whenever he comes home from work and I'm sat here with my laptop hair up no makeup in some oversize shirt comfy jeans and slippers all chubby and huge I wonder if he is really thinking something not so nice I could get up and do it all but who wants to??? am I being hormonal?

 

[bump_wanted]

yes your being hormonal but your allowed to be im the same...i think my hubs would think there was something wrong with me if i was sitting all done up ready for him coming home lol dont worry hun we're all in the same boat and even tho the men say they dont mind we all still wonder if they're telling the truth..i mean i told my hubs today there was no way he could find me attractive because my tummy is so marked with strechies i look like ive been attacked by a tiger n he jus says shush your lovely poor man obviously hes forgot what lovley is

xxx

 

[MrsGlitz]

Can I ask, why have you been told to take it easy?

I have severe SPD and barely leave the flat (the throught of the stairs to get out scares me it's so painful!). Most days I just pull on DH's jogging bottoms and a t shirt and I don't put any make up on etc. I do find though that when I do get dressed and make a bit of an effort, not only does my DH appreciate it more now (like yesterday he was off so I got dressed, put make up on and straightened my hair and he kept telling me I was gorgeous!) but it also makes me feel better about myself, even if I don't go out.

 

[kermie219]

I hate feeling this way....big and lazy and just plain crap! And I'm not even one of those have to have my hair perfect in heals kind of girls, even when I'm not pregnant I don't really do make-up or anything, more than some blusher and a bit of foundation anyway lol but man this is HARD! Glad I'm not the only one thanks a ton

 

[Lara310809]

You forget that pregnancy changes what you can do and it adds a whole load of limitations. At the moment I'm having to live out of a suitcase - and it's a suitcase of "travel clothes" (joggers and Guinness-branded T-Shirts), because during our move, our van broke down and we had to abandon it with all of our stuff in. I therefore have spent the last 5 weeks wearing a rotation of joggers and looking like a right skank I get people tutting at me in the street (probably because I'm 8 months pregnant and advertising booze), but who cares? They don't know the situation, and my baby's not suffering.

As for my hair and makeup; everything I need to look vaguely presentable is on our van. It's quite humid here and I don't have my hair products, so I have to have my hair pulled back into a bun or it goes frizzy.

Sometimes you have to go with the flow. You are near to having a baby, and so you can be excused for letting the side down a bit. But if your OH says he loves you as you are, then believe him. I don't think he cares; you're carrying his baby!

 

[kermie219]

Can I ask, why have you been told to take it easy?

I have severe SPD and barely leave the flat (the throught of the stairs to get out scares me it's so painful!). Most days I just pull on DH's jogging bottoms and a t shirt and I don't put any make up on etc. I do find though that when I do get dressed and make a bit of an effort, not only does my DH appreciate it more now (like yesterday he was off so I got dressed, put make up on and straightened my hair and he kept telling me I was gorgeous!) but it also makes me feel better about myself, even if I don't go out.

I was told to take it easy because I'm fully engaged and she is measuring pretty big and nobody wants the pressure of her to start things until after next week and I was not taking it easy at all which is why I pulled the muscles in my belly last week (big tell off for that one) lol maybe I will go straighten my hair or something not like I don't have the time

 

[bump_wanted]

anytime...xx

 

[aladrian]

Agreed. I've been having right ugly days myself & keep thinking DH must be crazy when he tells me he still finds me lovely.

Beyond the round weight gain & the stretch marks that look like I too was attacked my a tiger my face started breaking out & I thought there's no way this could get any worse.

Well, then yesterday I noticed the beginnings of a fever blister! LOL

So today I've decided it can always get worse & to try not to be so hard on myself or else life will hand me something else so that I can see the situation more clearly.

 

[flame]

I couldnt care less what i look like just now and am usually a right dolly bird with the hair make up and clothes but i havent worn make up for months now and i feel more liberated not having a couldnt care less attitude

 

[MrsGlitz]

Can I ask, why have you been told to take it easy?

I have severe SPD and barely leave the flat (the throught of the stairs to get out scares me it's so painful!). Most days I just pull on DH's jogging bottoms and a t shirt and I don't put any make up on etc. I do find though that when I do get dressed and make a bit of an effort, not only does my DH appreciate it more now (like yesterday he was off so I got dressed, put make up on and straightened my hair and he kept telling me I was gorgeous!) but it also makes me feel better about myself, even if I don't go out.

I was told to take it easy because I'm fully engaged and she is measuring pretty big and nobody wants the pressure of her to start things until after next week and I was not taking it easy at all which is why I pulled the muscles in my belly last week (big tell off for that one) lol maybe I will go straighten my hair or something not like I don't have the time

If it will make you feel better, why not? And keep resting!

Honestly, I know how you feel. I have always been a high heels and full make up girl. High heels went out from about 7 weeks. Make up since I have been off work, unless we are going out. I know my husband loves me. I know he still finds me attractive, I'm carrying his child.

 

[loverguts]

Oh i look like a complete mess most the time at the moment, you really shouldnt feel guilty about it, you're heavily pregnant so its totally acceptable haha! Yesterday i actually bothered to do my hair nicely and put on make up and my dp asked why i had made myself look more pretty than usual...hehe. He always compliments me though even when i look like a scarecrow so i dont feel too bad about slobbing around the house in pyjama bottoms and oversized tshirts all day!

 

[saffy1978]

Don't feel guilty at all! You're doin enough for your fella by growing him a little babba!
The only reason I get up, dressed and do my hair etc every day is because I gotta take my older kids to school. As from friday tho they're off school for 2 weeks with the easter holidays.... so it's gonna be pj's, no make up and messy hair for 14 days!! I'm soooooooo ready to slob out! lol

 

[mommy-in-june]

I have to do my make up and hair each day for work... but I even make myself do it on the weekends because it makes me feel good. It's not like I feel like I need to, but it's something I do for myself. If you have some time, maybe relax and give yourself a facial, or put on light makeup and admire your pretty pregnant self?

 

[rednat]

I get people tutting at me in the street (probably because I'm 8 months pregnant and advertising booze), but who cares?

That has made me laugh out loud!!!!