feeling alone and hurt :(

[kayla93]

This is kind of jus a rant, but I am so sick of feeling like my parents are disappointed and ashamed of me. When we first told them I was pregnant, they were really supportive and offered to let us move back in with them because our apartment is too small and too much to afford with the baby coming. Now that we are getting closer to the time we are going to move back in, my mom seems to not even want us here. I came home for the weekend because my doctor told me to take it easy after having a lot of cramping yesterday, so he told me not to work this weekend. I didnt want to stay in our apartment by myself, so I came home. My parents ended up going to see my grandparents to help around the house after my grandpa had a woodworking accident, and when I asked if they wanted me to come with, my mom told me that well you can, but you will have to explain to your grandma why you are home instead of working. On top of it, my aunt hasn't even been able to talk to me since she found out I was pregnant because she is so disappointed with me. I feel like my family doesnt even want me or the baby around because they are ashamed and disappointed that I got pregnant at 19. I could be too emotional about this, but I have always strived to make my parents proud of me, and to have my mom act like this is a huge slap in the face. I know I made a mistake, but I am taking responsibility and am sick of being punished for it. I should be able to enjoy being pregnant and feel happy that my baby is healthy, but all I feel is ashamed of myself for disappointing my parents.

 

[xVAP]

Dont feel bad about it. I bet your mum is excited to have you back home, it's probably just an adjustment. I mean, she's not had you there for a while and had to have to worry about I guess 'looking after' you since you left. And now you're back, maybe she knows that bills will go up with you, OH and a baby coming. I'm sure she is supportive, but it still is a big difference.

I can kind of relate. Since finding out, my mum wont talk to me. She speaks at me, she tells me to do stuff/stop doing stuff. If I try to have a conversation with her she'll tell me she's "a bit busy right now." I'm hoping it'll change but I dont think it'll happen anytime in the near future.

 

[littlemommy]

Don't let them make you feel like that. They are probably stressed about having more people in the house again. I know that OHs dad was stressed out once we mentioned we were pregnant. He was kind of stand offish until we moved out a month before baby was born. Tbh he's the one who visits our daughter more then anyone else in our families yet he was the one more against it. You deserve to enjoy your pregnancy! Enjoy every little kick, and movement. enjoy watching your belly grow(sometimes feels like overnight!) Because it seems like forever but it goes quick! I miss my bump!

 

[ClairAye]

It does take a long time for people to come around! My dad only did when I was 25-17 weeks, and my sister only started talking about baby stuff to me on the 10th of May, when she gave me presents, I was due ate 26th of May, just give it time No one can refuse a gorgeous wee baby!

 

[kayla93]

Thanks ladies! It really helps to know Im not the only one this has happened to. I guess I never thought about it maybe being the stress of us moving back in. They were so quick to tell us we could that I never thought about how stressful it probably is. I will for sure enjoy this pregnancy lol. I already can feel baby moving around and it feels like maybe flipping around lol. I love it!

 

[x__amour]

Big hugs sweetie.