Hi ... me and my husband have been trying to conceive for about 3 years . We went and had all the test done and found out that my husband has a zero morphology and low sperms count. We went to the urologist which takes 2 months for an apt and find out he has a vericocele and is suppose to have surgery to repair it. The urologist as high hopes that it will fix his problem, and I am looking on the bright side, but I can't help all my emotions... everything turned out positive on my side so that's a plus. I feel anxious every day and sad. Instead of having hope and feeling positive. I am the last to have kids and I am 30 years old so I feel like I'm just getting older. I just wish these negative feelings would go away and I would feel normal because I don't understand what brought them on.
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feeling alone .. last to have kids in my family.
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Don't feel alone, we are ALL here to support you. 
At least there is a potential fix for your DH, just think if this were several years ago, this wouldn't even be an option. I know it's hard to stay positive. This journey isn't always an easy one, but just think how precious your baby will be when you finally get to hold him/her. 
One thing that always keeps me going is that I will get to give my mom another granbaby and thinking of how she will be so happy and get all teary and all that good stuff, keeps me going every day. Just thinking about it makes me smile.
When does your DH go in for the procedure?
At least there is a potential fix for your DH, just think if this were several years ago, this wouldn't even be an option. I know it's hard to stay positive. This journey isn't always an easy one, but just think how precious your baby will be when you finally get to hold him/her. One thing that always keeps me going is that I will get to give my mom another granbaby and thinking of how she will be so happy and get all teary and all that good stuff, keeps me going every day. Just thinking about it makes me smile. When does your DH go in for the procedure?
My husband surgery isn't scheduled yet we are doing that friday. I know 8 have to think positive and know my mom and sister will be ecstatic when it does happen. It's so funny though how you want everything now now now... and thanks for the support it gets frustrating not having anyone who can relate and my husband's very supportive but doesn't understand the feelings and why I want to cry sometimes. If this doesn't work though it's IVf and I'm okay with that too ... it's just feels like it's never going to happen
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Well that's good that you get to schedule soon! And staying positive is really hard sometimes. I find this forum a great place for support and love. ♡ 
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Well I can't help with your husbands problem, but at least there's a light at the end of the tunnel. We've just entered that tunnel after three years of TTC. I just want to tell you this: its OK to feel whatever emotions you bare feeling. Anger, happiness, sadness, frustration...all OK! They are YOUR emotions and no one else has to understand them. If you need to cry then cry. If your dh doesn't understand that's OK too. Mine has just learned to hold me and let me let it out. Maybe suggest your dh just hug you for a few minutes to help you get through your sad moment? I'm not here to tell you that everything is going to be OK or that it'll happen when its meant to...I don't believe all that crap...but I am here to tell you that its OK to get mad when a coworker gets pg, that its OK to cry when a song or TV show mentions a baby or pregnancy, and that its OK to hate the world one minute and love it the next. TTC, especially with infertility issues is a very emotional time, and you're allowed to embrace every one of those emotions. Don't hold them it, it'll just make you feel worse. You're entitled to them, let them roar! Lol
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Hi morgan - i can't yet relate to the issues with DH's swimmers, but I can totally relate to being the last to have kids. First off - try not to worry about your age, you're still in prime time! I'm 38, the last in my family to have kids, for sure, except maybe a cousin or two, but we waited this long on purpose. My sister, 5 yrs younger than me, has a 10 and 7 yr old. My folks are ALWAYS asking for more grandkids. AND we're definitely the last of our friends to have kids, so we're constantly invited to all of the 1-, 2-, now 4-year bday parties and we arrive empty-handed as far as children. It's very weird and lonely, I can't join a lot of the conversations or mom-griping that goes on. I just sit and smile and can only join with a borrowed story of another friend of mine's. "Oh, yeah, Julie said her daughter does the same thing! Weird!" ugh - it gets annoying. And I'm sure DH doesn't know too much about this b/c the guys don't really go off as much on the everyday goings-on of their kids like the moms do. And ME, trying to talk about TTC?? They can't even relate b/c they thought about getting pregnant and BAM, BFP. If they are even around to talk about such things instead of chasing their toddlers around the place. So....I getcha, girl!
I hope your DH's procedure goes well and you guys get your BFP soon!! Good to know all is clear with you and his is fixable! FX'ed!
I hope your DH's procedure goes well and you guys get your BFP soon!! Good to know all is clear with you and his is fixable! FX'ed!
Your All right.. I'm going through something hard and it's not easy one bit... I try to look at it as the scenic route to having kids. But, this isn't the way I planned it and I'm sure you can all relate I always thought it would be easy and exciting. I have felt better the last couple days and making more of an effort to do things that I usually like to do... yes I'm feeling a little blue ... but I know I'm stronger then this I know in my heart that we will eventually have kids weather they are ours or ours by other means. I hate all the emotions that come along with this struggle. I know that everyone is going to have a time that they go through something hard, but it just feels unfair when you really want to be a mom and that feeling has consumed you. You forget the person you were before so me and my husband are going to try and do some fun things like camping or kayaking...how is everyone else doing any positive news in your journey
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My husband and I just had a huge fight (completely unrelated to conceiving) but ended with us talking about having a baby and most of my fears went away. He told me he wants to be at every Dr appt, he wants to feel the baby kick, talk to him, go shopping for him...all stuff he didn't do when his ex was preggo with his daughter. That he wants this baby as much as i do. I figure guys just have a different way of dealing with their emotions. How has everyone else been doing?
Everything's going better just waiting for husband's surgery I do better emotionally on some days better then others... mod19 well that sounds like a good fight then and see that he cares a lot about you and wants to be part of it all that's good news... how's your journey been any news
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