Feeling Alone

[Lastoneleft]

Hi there,

This is my first post and the reason I decided to join is because anytime I try to talk to my friends/family, I'm told to relax. We are the last one of our friends to try. I don't think I'm over-stressing but who knows. We're on our fourth month trying (I know that's not long compared to others) but the 2 weeks waiting for my period to come is brutal. Along with the fact that we just got married 6 months ago, so everyone asks every other day. Any tips for stressing?

My cycles have been 32, 27 and 30 days. Is this inconsistent?

Any advice from others who are trying?

 

[swizzle3]

i think your cycle lengths are fine. Mine fluctuate too. Dont worry, i know like 15 babies being born this year and i'm the only one that was married around the same time who isn't pregnant yet. I feel like a failure. We just have to remember it WILL eventually happen for us. And vent on here as much as possible

 

[Undefn]

Hi,

I just want to say my husband and I struggle with infertility (5 years). I was diagnosed with Diminished Ovarian Reserve ( the blood work and ultra sound w/ fertility treatments defn showed me I was low!!) We did at least 5 IUIs and went for IVF consult. We were informed with both female and male fertility issues IVF would only give us 15% (up to 30%) chance of getting pregnant. We chose to go adoption route (yes not for everyone, but for us being parents out weighed everything else although infertility still weighed heavy. UGG I am a failure!!)

We are now 1 year into adoption, pending matching but as we approached the 1 year mark I found out I am pregnant happy but very cautious as I we were given less then 5% of this happening on our own. We weren't trying...or least husband didn't think I was still calculating cycle (well this ONE, as I thought I missed Feb Cycle and I was going into pre-menopause as I was told I would early. Guess not telling him took pressure off him. (know this also effect the guys, tho they rarely show it)

So all within in this long post is don't give up hope! I did!! I cried going to work feeling like a a huge failure watching others with their kids (but also know those children could've been adopted or their parents struggled too--never alone.)

I was separating myself from friends/family who are pregnant or had children cuz life was so unfair! Why would this happen to US, two people who want children so bad and just so easy for others who could care less?!? Wow I was so hateful and unhappy. So I know it's difficult and the worst you want to hear is relax, it'll happen, etc. But know time is your friend and I wish you both the best as you TTC. I learnt things will happen in it's own time, although I hated people to tell me to be patient, it'll happen!

Best wishes and I hope you don't give up on your hopes and dreams of being parents, just remember sometimes our paths takes us in different directions to be parents or for some become content.

I hope this didn't come off being "lecture" as I hate those, but HOPE as you continue your journey of becoming a family!