I'm 12 weeks with my second baby, and although I don't know the gender for sure, I'm almost convinced it's a boy for various reasons. Once I saw the 12 week scan it seemed really obvious it was a boy, and I felt disappointed and then just horrible as I should just want a healthy baby regardless of gender, especially after three previous losses and a shaky start with this pregnancy.
I already have a DD who is two, and can't get my head around people wanting one of each. I thought I'd be ok with either this time after already having a girl, but it's like my girl preference is even stronger this time. I've always just imagined DD having a sister since she came along, getting to reuse all of her girly things we've packed away and been storing all that time, and I've had a girls name picked out since before being pregnant which I'm now feeling sad I won't be able to use. We won't be having anymore after this one, and I'm struggling with the idea of never having another girl and DD never having a sister. It seems strange I feel like that when I have a sister myself and we're not close at all, but I've imagined having two little girls growing up together and the idea of a boy just seems so strange. There will be just over three years between them when this one arrives, and all I can seem to imagine is a little brother getting on my DDs nerves for the first few years at least and them not really having much in common.
I know I really should just be grateful number two is on the way and all is well so far, and I really want to feel that way, but just feel really disappointed at the moment. I don't even want to find out gender before birth as I'm too scared to have it confirmed as boy half way through. I can't imagine actually being disappointed once he arrives and I meet him, so I feel like I'm best staying team yellow. I have a lot of pregnant friends or friends who have recently given birth or had gender confirmed, and I'm just feeling so jealous of all the ones who got their preferred gender and are able to be really excited and look forward to meeting their babies. My two closest friends have ended up with two boys and two girls and I really had my hopes up for two the same for us too but really don't think it's going to happen, and I've got a long way to go yet with the pregnancy.
I already have a DD who is two, and can't get my head around people wanting one of each. I thought I'd be ok with either this time after already having a girl, but it's like my girl preference is even stronger this time. I've always just imagined DD having a sister since she came along, getting to reuse all of her girly things we've packed away and been storing all that time, and I've had a girls name picked out since before being pregnant which I'm now feeling sad I won't be able to use. We won't be having anymore after this one, and I'm struggling with the idea of never having another girl and DD never having a sister. It seems strange I feel like that when I have a sister myself and we're not close at all, but I've imagined having two little girls growing up together and the idea of a boy just seems so strange. There will be just over three years between them when this one arrives, and all I can seem to imagine is a little brother getting on my DDs nerves for the first few years at least and them not really having much in common.
I know I really should just be grateful number two is on the way and all is well so far, and I really want to feel that way, but just feel really disappointed at the moment. I don't even want to find out gender before birth as I'm too scared to have it confirmed as boy half way through. I can't imagine actually being disappointed once he arrives and I meet him, so I feel like I'm best staying team yellow. I have a lot of pregnant friends or friends who have recently given birth or had gender confirmed, and I'm just feeling so jealous of all the ones who got their preferred gender and are able to be really excited and look forward to meeting their babies. My two closest friends have ended up with two boys and two girls and I really had my hopes up for two the same for us too but really don't think it's going to happen, and I've got a long way to go yet with the pregnancy.