Feeling emotional

[BabyHopes1974]

Hi - this is my first post. I just registered today. I am 38 and my husband and I have been trying for 6 months. This month it hit me and I have been obsessing over it. The yearning to conceive is so strong right now. I have only two more days until my period is supposed to come so the anticipation is very high.

I took a test yesterday and it was negative, but I know that was still early.

For the last two weeks I have been emotional over this. I feel old - does anyone feel old and I know that there are women who have children into their 40s and that is great. But when I see all the young women with children I feel like I waited too long. I tell myself: why didn't I start sooner because it will take longer now. The thought of another negative test is depressing and I know I will cry if I get my period.

On the other hand I tell myself: at my age it will take longer and I need to be realistic.

On another note: has anyone used Preseed? I just bought some yesterday and am planning on using it next month if there is no pregnancy this month.

 

[BabyHopes1974]

I should add that I don't have any symptoms of pregnancy. I don't have inceased CM,which seems to be a theme from what I've read. I did have vertigo while lying down at about 3 DPO, but that could have been an ear thing. I didn't have implantation bleeding or nausea - really nothing.

 

[worriedone]

hey honey.. i know where your coming from.. i am 34 and have been trying for the last 2.5 years but its so tough... there is a new problem after every couple of months.. and i only blame myself for not trying earlier which i easily could have..

all i can say is dont fret over it... it will happen.. and age is only a number.. if u have no apparent problems, u will definitely get pregnant..

and another advise.. please do not hesitate to see a doctor and get yourself and your husband checked if u have tried for over 6 months.. if there is something, u can probably rectify it now rather than doing it later..

 

[BabyHopes1974]

Thank you - I have a preconception counseling session Nov. 7th. The only thing that worries me is that most insurance companies apparently don't pay for infertility treatments
(that's what the woman on the phone that scheduled the appt. told me). My husband and I wouldn't be able to afford to do many tests, medications if my insurance doesn't cover it. I guess I should call and find out for sure before getting too depressed about it.

I just think to myself: if there is something wrong and we can't afford to do anything about it we are wasting time and emotions.

 

[donna noble]

It is a horrible feeling for me at 38 and having had a miscarriage to feel I wasted my life. It doesn't help society treats you like crap if you don't have kids as well. Anyway where I am this is how I feel treated. Some days I don't feel like a woman. I know the odds are against me but I will keep trying. Just trying lots of natural rememdies that people have had success with and broke down and got an ovacue to help me know I am ovulating.

 

[BabyHopes1974]

I am sorry to hear about your miscarriage. I hope you the best.

 

[vermeil]

*hugs* you still have plenty of time for a baby! As you said it just takes a little longer at our age. I started trying at 37 and it took 6+ months. But yes, get a consultation to have the basic tests done if possible - your doctor will narrow down which are the most helpful. Basically a HSG , knowing your bloodwork parameters (fsh level, amh) and day 3 follicle count.

 

[vkj73]

wanted to say hello.

to echo the hsg comment, i had one in june of 2009.
we conceived in september 2009.

other things that i believed helped were:

acupuncture
cbfm
yoga/dance
prenatal vitamins
cutting back on caffeine and alcohol

i wish you all the best

 

[phrumkidost]

Hello and hugs from me too.

I know how you feel! I've had those days where I feel so depressed it is hard to do anything. I'll be 36 in a few weeks and have been at this for one year. I also worry that I waited too long. But most of the time I am hopeful. Don't worry -- you'll get there. If you can't afford the fancy tests just come here and share your experiences. I think we all will be happy to help in anyway we can. I've been doing a lot of supplements an other things Ive learned from reading the posts here.

 

[Mama Duck]

Hi - this is my first post.

For the last two weeks I have been emotional over this. I feel old - does anyone feel old.

On the other hand I tell myself: at my age it will take longer and I need to be realistic.

First of all hello & welcome The last 3 days I have been feeling very emotional and snappy but not in a PMT way. I feel that if I start crying I won't stop so with that in mind I am trying really hard not to break down.

The age thing . . . I am 40 and have been NTNP since July 2010. I already have 5 beautiful children but the desire for 'just one more' is still as strong as what it was when I was ttc with my previous children. I do sometimes think that I'm being silly in ttc again and I also know that it may never happen again and that is something I am in total denial about,I can't accept that time is running out.

I have hope.You must have it too. Hope doesn't abandon you,you abandon it

Incredibly emotional this evening,raging from laughing and then floods of tears. I can't make sense of this as this is not something i experience during the 2WW. Confuzzled is not the word!

 

[Izzie74]

I agree with some of the other comments. Keep trying, but get yourself and OH checked out asap to avoid delays with treatment in the future. Good Luck

 

[Juniperjules]

Hi - this is my first post. I just registered today. I am 38 and my husband and I have been trying for 6 months. This month it hit me and I have been obsessing over it. The yearning to conceive is so strong right now. I have only two more days until my period is supposed to come so the anticipation is very high.

I took a test yesterday and it was negative, but I know that was still early.

For the last two weeks I have been emotional over this. I feel old - does anyone feel old and I know that there are women who have children into their 40s and that is great. But when I see all the young women with children I feel like I waited too long. I tell myself: why didn't I start sooner because it will take longer now. The thought of another negative test is depressing and I know I will cry if I get my period.

On the other hand I tell myself: at my age it will take longer and I need to be realistic.

On another note: has anyone used Preseed? I just bought some yesterday and am planning on using it next month if there is no pregnancy this month.

Hey there, I haven't read to the end of your thread but wanted to reply.

I'm turning 38 in December. My OH is 44. I have felt everything you have described. I have up days & down days..with no rhyme or reason... I have days where I cry alot (mostly with my mum bcos I don't want to depress my OH who is so positive about TTC). On those days I also feel very old, & feel like I missed the boat when it comes to having kids. I find it hard to look at pregnant women & even harder to look at babies. I'm feel very sad & sorry for myself at those times & feel like life is meaningless... Yep... Very melodramatic : )

But other days I remind myself that it is still possible...& I feel positive again. I remember all the women I know who have gotten pregnant over 38. And I remember that it's still early days as we've only being TTC for 6 months too. We're having basic testing done & will go from there. My GP is very pro-active & wants to refer us to a fertility specialist pretty quickly as she thinks it's important not to loose time.

I know that for me, sometimes I get into such a negative thought process that I can't see past it all. It seems impossible that I'll ever get pregnant EVER. But the reality is I know at the moment i have as much chance as anyone else... (And am hoping obviously we don't get any bad news with the testing).

I find it also helps to know I'm doing things that can make my body & eggs as good as possible- Ive cut out alcohol, cut out caffeine, am doing Chinese medicine & acupuncture, drinking loads of water, taking pre pregnancy vitamins & CoQ10 (which I've just discovered and seems to possibly improve egg quality in women & sperm quality in men), & trying to generally eat & be healthy. Im temping (hard initially but ok after 2mths), and using opks. All of these things make me feel like maybe I have some control- it does help.

I keep reminding myself not to give up hope- it can happen, & I have to believe that this can happen for me like it does for others. Your not alone hon, You should come join this thread below (am posting the link!) we're all 1974 babies so it's good to chat with girls who u feel are right where you are ; )

https://babyandbump.momtastic.com/trying-conceive-over-35/1001259-born-1974-a-42.html#post22257061