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BobDog
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heya, i didn't want to read and run.
i know how you feel so don't feel ashamed, it's perfectly normal to feel like this. it's more difficult to TTC than people think, especially when things don't happen as you thought they would nor as quickly, and it's hard for anyone who hasn't or isn't going through it too. so i can understand where you are coming from.
you're not alone!
{{hugs}}
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i know how you feel so don't feel ashamed, it's perfectly normal to feel like this. it's more difficult to TTC than people think, especially when things don't happen as you thought they would nor as quickly, and it's hard for anyone who hasn't or isn't going through it too. so i can understand where you are coming from.
you're not alone!
{{hugs}}
xxx
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dont feel ashamed. These kids are also related to you too so go with them and share their joy hun. Ive been trying for 2.5 years but still love to be around my niece and cant wait for the new one to arrive in november x
Hi MrsG, I was also born in 1980 
Its ok to feel like that, I feel the same when my folks take my nephews out - they are no.1 but when you have your baby you too will be going on those days out
My hubby has poor % motility too but if the count is good, then i figure that there are enough to find their way through!!! If you can't do it every day, every other day should be plenty enough. I have my other half taking wellman fertility tablets which might help.
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Its ok to feel like that, I feel the same when my folks take my nephews out - they are no.1 but when you have your baby you too will be going on those days out
My hubby has poor % motility too but if the count is good, then i figure that there are enough to find their way through!!! If you can't do it every day, every other day should be plenty enough. I have my other half taking wellman fertility tablets which might help.
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See I've read that everyday can lower your sperm count. My gyno recommends every other.
Me and my DH are the only ones in his family who don't have children yet..I feel rather mean for saying this but, his parents can get a bit too focused on their grandchildren sometimes. Baby this, baby that, just shoved down my throat. So I know what it's like to be left out in your family.
Me and my DH are the only ones in his family who don't have children yet..I feel rather mean for saying this but, his parents can get a bit too focused on their grandchildren sometimes. Baby this, baby that, just shoved down my throat. So I know what it's like to be left out in your family.
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I know how you feel. My family doesn't know I'm trying they still put the pressure on for me to have a child. A lot of the people my age now have a kid or two. I've lost contact with friends because I can't relate to their wanting to talk about kid stuff. I try, but all I get is you don't know. because i dont because i have no kids
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Mrs.G- I know exactly how you feel. We all have those days where the green monster 
comes out of us. I had one of those days last month...July 13th to be exact. It was supposed to be the due date of my precious baby 
. That same day my soon to be MIL called my fiance and told him that his SIL was preggo...AGAIN. Let's just say that DF knew what day it was supposed to be, and that brought him over the edge 
. I wouldn't have know what was wrong, except for Facebook (which, for me, is the bane of my existence when it comes to my infertility and m/c issues). I saw her post bragging about being a grandmother again, and I lost it 
. I locked myself in the bedroom for the better part of the day, and just cried. I only unlocked the door to let DF in, and we cried together
. The next day I picked myself back up, and made myself call the SIL to congratulate her... and to accept being a godmother to another baby.
We all have those days, and we get past them. I know it's hard to be in our positions, but like NavyWife and Honeybee have seen me say before and I will say it again now, there is a reason that fate hasn't graced us with our own babies yet. I know that our times will come, and we will be better people and parents for it.
I know it doesn't help, but just remember that grandkids are a completely different relationship for people than that of a person's own child...all of the fun, none of the responsibilities and punishings
. I think that is why grandparents tend to go over the edge 
and have tunnel vision when it comes to grandkids, and by proxy the parents of them. Also, you said that you haven't told your parents about your TTC-ing... but, maybe you should. I know my own family is very supportive 
of me, and that can be a huge boost to your TTC moral 
. Lots of 
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to you and all of us!
comes out of us. I had one of those days last month...July 13th to be exact. It was supposed to be the due date of my precious baby . That same day my soon to be MIL called my fiance and told him that his SIL was preggo...AGAIN. Let's just say that DF knew what day it was supposed to be, and that brought him over the edge . I wouldn't have know what was wrong, except for Facebook (which, for me, is the bane of my existence when it comes to my infertility and m/c issues). I saw her post bragging about being a grandmother again, and I lost it . I locked myself in the bedroom for the better part of the day, and just cried. I only unlocked the door to let DF in, and we cried together. The next day I picked myself back up, and made myself call the SIL to congratulate her... and to accept being a godmother to another baby.We all have those days, and we get past them. I know it's hard to be in our positions, but like NavyWife and Honeybee have seen me say before and I will say it again now, there is a reason that fate hasn't graced us with our own babies yet. I know that our times will come, and we will be better people and parents for it.
I know it doesn't help, but just remember that grandkids are a completely different relationship for people than that of a person's own child...all of the fun, none of the responsibilities and punishings
. I think that is why grandparents tend to go over the edge and have tunnel vision when it comes to grandkids, and by proxy the parents of them. Also, you said that you haven't told your parents about your TTC-ing... but, maybe you should. I know my own family is very supportive of me, and that can be a huge boost to your TTC moral . Lots of and to you and all of us!
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Ms.G.
All we have is our hope to keep us going. After 10 long years of TTC, I sometimes find myself losing that hope, but then I TRY and remind myself that fate's wheel is always turning and hopefully my 3rd conception will be the charm! And to keep the green eye monster away... the fiance and I are busy putting a small wedding put together for Oct., though it would be nice to have a bun in the oven during the ceremony. and
All we have is our hope to keep us going. After 10 long years of TTC, I sometimes find myself losing that hope, but then I TRY and remind myself that fate's wheel is always turning and hopefully my 3rd conception will be the charm! And to keep the green eye monster away... the fiance and I are busy putting a small wedding put together for Oct., though it would be nice to have a bun in the oven during the ceremony.
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