feeling lonely

[angels330]

hey all. not really sure where to post this, but im just feeling really down atm. im stuck in the house most days and although i go out walking everyday lm still really lonely. family are at work etc and i just cant seem to make any friends. dont know if its because im shy or not going to enough clubs or something, but whatever it is its getting me down! doesnt help ive got people breathing down my neck about meeting people. just wondering how you guys managed to meet other mums etc and just socialise with others etc xx

 

[embo216]

hi hun, im not a single parent myself but i have quite a few friends who are, have you tried a site called net mums, id be lost without it.

local mums from your area post messages to look for friends, ive met some great girls from it. x

 

[xarlenex]

Yeah Net Mums is really great. You get emails about stuff going on in your area and stuff. Also if you have a local Mums and Tods group? In my area people take their babies from just weeks old to met other mums xx

 

[captain-ally]

When I'm on mat leave, I was thinking of signing up for a hobby class or adult sports team and making friends that way. I don't go to clubs, I never really have. My friends live all over the country and usually somewhere in the forest with no net or phone so it's impossible to keep in touch with them regularly, or see them ever. I have one girlfriend who lives in town, who luckily has a daughter as well, and my sister and that's it.

 

[amelia222]

I know how you feel, most days my big social outing is taking the dog to the park Since I've moved back home I realized that I only have one friend in this whole town, and I don't have a car and transit service is almost non-existant where I live so I can't even go to the store by until my mom gets home from work at around 6pm.

....I really hate my life atm

 

[Moulder86]

Well I've moved into my own place about half hour from my parents or friends. I have one friend who comes out to see my once a week but other than that it's just the two of us and I get really lonely too.

I've met a couple of the neighbours but I've not made any friends, so I know how you feel. I can't get out either and live in the middle of nowhere. Don't have any advice just wanted to give you
xxxx

 

[Sam P]

You must get out even if its a walk to a park or liabary we all need interaction on some lvl, dont be stuck in a cage...

 

[dollygirlie]

Is there a surestart centre near you? That is a good start for activities in your area, they do all sorts of clubs, breastfeeding cafe's, baby massage, craft mornings, even creche facilities whilst you can go on some of their courses they run for mothers, I am starting the doc spot in May so thats one way of me getting fit again, and building up confidence meeting other people, there should be some mother and baby mornings somewhere, ask at your library, I know how it feels being isolated runing a business on my own for 4 years, and now baby is on her way...

 

[brownhairedmom]

I go to a mom and baby group weekly. Its nice.

You could try a mum & baby yoga class? Or what about a baby signing class?

 

[isil]

The one thing I've found HVs quite good for are having information about baby groups. Even if they can't recommend a specific group they might be able to put you in touch with someone else who is in a similar situation. I saw my HV on Wednesday (the day my ex moved out) and she was brilliant at coming up with things that might support me and just take up my time!