Hi all,
So its almost been 1 year since i had a miscarriage. My psychiatrist said that the grief is different for everything and for some people it lasts longer then others. Well since it happened I have been struggling. Not a single day goes by that i don't think about what happened. Every day something whether large or small reminds of what I lost or what I could of had.
At the moment I am really struggling with my friend being pregnant. I am super happy for her but I know I haven't been a good friend to her. I never message or call her to see how she is going, honestly i don't even want to.
She isn't the kind of friend who is good at having deep and meaningful conversations with and if I'm honest I suck at it too. I prefer to keep things bottled up rather than burden someone else with my problems.
So everytime she comes around and goes on and on about baby stuff I suck it up and pretend to be happy when on the inside all I want to do is cry. Everytime she sends me a picture of her baby bump or news on her pregnancy i rarely reply to her because all i can think of is that if I didn't miscarry I would have a little baby in my life right now!
Ive suffered with depression and anxiety most my life but recently have seeked the help I need but certain situations still cause me anxiety and pain. My friends baby shower is coming up next week, I'll definitely buy her a present for the baby even though buying baby stuff is going to make me sad. But I really don't think I can cope with going to the baby shower. I have no idea what to say to her though. I've been getting major anxiety lately over it. I hate it so much because I want nothing more then to be there through this amazing time but at the same time it pains me so much :'(
I really just needed to get this off my chest, could type away forever about how I'm feeling but this will do for now.
Any support and advice is welcomed.
So its almost been 1 year since i had a miscarriage. My psychiatrist said that the grief is different for everything and for some people it lasts longer then others. Well since it happened I have been struggling. Not a single day goes by that i don't think about what happened. Every day something whether large or small reminds of what I lost or what I could of had.
At the moment I am really struggling with my friend being pregnant. I am super happy for her but I know I haven't been a good friend to her. I never message or call her to see how she is going, honestly i don't even want to.
She isn't the kind of friend who is good at having deep and meaningful conversations with and if I'm honest I suck at it too. I prefer to keep things bottled up rather than burden someone else with my problems.
So everytime she comes around and goes on and on about baby stuff I suck it up and pretend to be happy when on the inside all I want to do is cry. Everytime she sends me a picture of her baby bump or news on her pregnancy i rarely reply to her because all i can think of is that if I didn't miscarry I would have a little baby in my life right now!
Ive suffered with depression and anxiety most my life but recently have seeked the help I need but certain situations still cause me anxiety and pain. My friends baby shower is coming up next week, I'll definitely buy her a present for the baby even though buying baby stuff is going to make me sad. But I really don't think I can cope with going to the baby shower. I have no idea what to say to her though. I've been getting major anxiety lately over it. I hate it so much because I want nothing more then to be there through this amazing time but at the same time it pains me so much :'(
I really just needed to get this off my chest, could type away forever about how I'm feeling but this will do for now.
Any support and advice is welcomed.