Feeling Lost

[jimmycricket]

Hi folks,

I have been Diagnosed with Azoospermia its absolutely devastating that I have got this diagnosis and don't know how to feel.

Part of me feels lost like I am essentially burying a child I cant ever have of my own and the other thing is that my partner is broken too as she really wants a kid with me.

We are confused we know that Adoption and DI are two possible routes but in our heads its hard for us to believe its our kid and on my side being the guy its even harder as I will have no real blood line or anything to the kid.

I have had 2 SA's one month apart from each-other and both came back with Zero so the FS diagnosed me with Azoospermia his next test is to check my Testosterone and FSH levels he said if its High theres next to no chance I will have a kid myself.

But aside from this I need help trying to figure out how to mentally get through this. My fiance and I want a kid really bad hence holding off our wedding to divert funds to this but this has really left us confused, sad and upset.

How did your husbands react to being Azoospermia and how did they get round to the idea of another man man being the Bio-Father. I am considering councilling.

 

[victorial8]

Firstly, I'm so sorry you are going through this! It must be really tough for you and your partner. Secondly, well done for coming and chatting on here, hopefully you will get some support and advice from others

Unfortunately I have no experience in this area so can't help, but I do know that if you are considering counselling Then go for it. It is a huge thing to go through and talking it through will help you enormously. Does your FS offer a referral to counselling at all? I know our clinic does as it is such an emotional journey to go through, whatever the situation.

I wish you all the best of luck xx

 

[krissie328]

I am so sorry for you diagnosis. I hope the additional tests can help shed some light on the situation.

I think that seeking out some counseling for yourself and possibly a couples session will help both you and your partner through this situation.

 

[Katie Potatie]

I'm so sorry you are going through this. There is a "Dealing with Azoospermia" thread here that you may want to join and find support and recommendations from. This site can be a great resource.