Feeling so fed up

[Hopeful J]

Hi everyone,
Have been reading this site for a while and found it so helpful so thought I should be part of it rather than an onlooker - it might help someone like me.
Had a missed miscarriage, found out in late December and decided to wait, but didnt actually happen until late January. Had to go in for the tablets in the end cos I was driving myself mad but they only made me really ill with excruciating cramps. The miscarriage actually happened about a week later and was so horrible.
My body seems to have recovered quickly but i think I have let work distract me from my feelings and now I am trying again i just feel a bit of a mess. I worry about everything - will I miscarry again? Will I even get pregnant again at all? I am really annoying myself!
Anyway, i know some of you have been through much worse, so sorry if i am moaning. I just know feeling stressed won't help me get pregnant but how are you meant to control your feelings?

 

[susan_1981]

I know what you mean. I found out I had a MMC in December and had ERPC on 29 December. It's now my 5th cycle on and I feel like my cycles have totally messed up, my periods are getting heavier and I feel so far away from being pregnant again. It's so stressful. I haven't a clue how to relax to be honest but when I have my moments of thinking that I'm never going to get pregnant again, strange as it is, that seems to relax me more. I've read countless things on the internet of women finding out they weren't even ovulating and as soon as they've found this out, have gone on to get pregnant because they aren't "trying" any more.

It's so hard though. I'm even thinking of taking up yoga or something. That's supposed to be good for relaxation and also reflexology is supposed to be good. Worth a try I suppose.

Sorry about your loss. I know how hard it is! I have my good and bad days, thankfully more good but as this is now my 5th cycle trying, it's really starting to get on my nerves xxx

 

[Hopeful J]

Thanks for that. I'm seriously thinking about relaxation class of some sort too; and I have thought about trying to stop thinking about it but my mind just runs away thinking of when I might be ovulating and doing lots of planning!