feelings after m/c

shadowsilk

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i feel so wierd. this is my second miscarriage but i was 6weeks with this one, and i was 2weeks or less with the last, and last one I didnt kno I was pregnant. I was so happy this time around... now I feel like I never want to get pregnant again.... is anyone else experiencing this
 
Sometimes I feel that I am so so scared to be pregnant again.. but then it is hard to understand because it's the thing I want really bad at this moment.

Miscarriages are scary, and changes our lives, body, emotions.. but it's something we can't avoid it from happening too.

The only thing that keeps me alive is thinking about me being a momy to a gorgeous little baby and making my husband a dady one day because he has a high baby fever and he loves kids so much.

When I weigh out the balance between fear of getting pregnant and the fact that I cant wait to get pregnant, the result always turn out that what I really want is to get pregnant again badly.

I am sorry for your loss :hugs:
 
Sorry for your losses,

I feel the same - I swing between being terrified of going through this again and just feeling sick of doctors, scans and tests and hospitals...but I want a baby so much that this is the only way!
I think everyone comes to terms with m/c in different ways and in different lengths of time. But you will know when you are ready to try again.

Good luck x
 
Me too Girls,

I had my first miscarriage in Jan... and it is a emotional rollercoaster , one minute you think your strong , the next your feeling all vunerable and negative.

I suppose all that can keep us positive is that we want to be mammies so much and with patience and positivity that'll happen.

I was thinking the same this morning, if i m pregnant this month i will have to be relaxed and go with the flow and not anaylse every single thing .... easy said than done ...:blush:
 
Hey!!
I was the same with my first miscarriage, i didnt know i was pregnant, was 5 weeks gone, and it was a total shock. And i felt so horrible because i didnt know i was pregnant, i felt like it was my fault. And now that ive lost bubbie number two, and being 12 weeks gone, its broken my heart. I do want to get pregnant again, but i'm worried its going to happen again, kinda feel like i'm cursed!! i know that sounds stupid, but i guess we all think irrational things when we go through something like this!!
xxxx
 
I'm so sorry for your loss. Maybe it is nature's way of telling you that you aren't emotionally ready to try again just yet? You need time to deal with your loss and grieve. I would imagine that you will know when you are ready.

Be patient with yourself. :hugs::hugs::hugs:
 
Like some of the other ladies, I too am scared to get pregnant again. I can still remember things vividly from January.

Look after yourself x
 
I had my follow up scan today - showed all clear (phew!)
But as I left hospital I was feeling like : Right, I am avoiding this place FOREVER!
But the moment i got home I just wanted to try again.
It is a rollercoaster, but I guess the wanting a baby outweighs the fears and doubts. And (hope this doesn't sound flippant) but at least when you know you CAN conceive that is the first biggest hurdle over with.
I take comfort from that anyway.
Hugs all round. We're all strong women - remember that!
X
 
On my first pregnancy, I had an ectopic that had to be removed. I had some damage done to my fallopian tubes, but they were hopeful it would still be enough to utilize that ovary. So my miscarriage is a little different, but I can totally empathize with the feelings.

Sometimes it IS easy to be scared of it again, but the reward of that LO when it is all said and done HAS to be worth all of it (I say that as I have not had a LO yet:cry:). If it wasn't - all of these wonderful ladies would not be on here providing support to one another.

Stay positive and keep moving forward :hi:
 
So sorry for your loss! After i had a miscarriage in december i was so scared about getting pregnant again incase i lost another. However i am alot more relaxed this time as i know i cannot stop it happening! there will be a time when you want to try again..just whenever ur ready! keep smiling :D sending lots of hugs your way xxx
 
So sorry for your loss! After i had a miscarriage in december i was so scared about getting pregnant again incase i lost another. However i am alot more relaxed this time as i know i cannot stop it happening! there will be a time when you want to try again..just whenever ur ready! keep smiling :D sending lots of hugs your way xxx

thank you to everyone who had said inspirational words and shared their own experiences I appreciate not feeling like I'm totally alone :blush:
 
I appreciate not feeling like I'm totally alone :blush:

Ofcourse your not alone hun!! Unfortunately lots of us have been through this, and everyone on here is so supportive!!. Please, never think your alone...
xxxx
:hugs::hugs::hugs:
 
:hugs:

I have gone back and forth between wanting to be pregnant now and not ever wanting to be pregnant again.

I had a dream that a miscarried again. I was only scared for a bit, but it didn't shake my baby fever. I decided that I was brave enough to confront that again and hope for a payoff (ie baby).
 
i had a dream right before this m/c I had a dream I woke up and I was soaked in blood from the waist down........
then I woke up for real, pale as ever
 
We had a number of reoccuring chemicals (confirmed) the only think that kept me half sane (OH would argue that) was not giving in yet it is so very scarey.

Lots of luck hun when the time to try again is right - I was sorry to read this

:hugs:
 
I am feeling the same as you. I only just had a miscarriage this week and I was 8 weeks gone, one min i am all positive and the next I feel negative and venerable. What I can't help thinking about it all the excitement that came with being pregnant - its gone...All the chat around what we were going to buy, kids names, schools, nurseries and clothes have stopped. I can't even bare to look at the cards people gave me and the countdown calendar is lying face down on the my TV unit. I have had thoughts that I don't want to try again to wanting to try like now...

I am so confused with my feelings. You are defo not on your own and we are all here to speak to you if need be, I know I will need everyone on this forum to help me through this nightmare...

xx
 
Im actually startin to feel better, turns out my husband and dad werent supporting me. I had to move out on my own because I was bein' abused. :s
 
Ladies I hope you dont mind me posting here as I am in such a fortunate position of being almost 18 weeks pregnant. But I too had 2 m/c, and I truly understand how you are feeling. I felt an incredible amount of sadness after my first m/c and this turned to anger and frustration after the second m/c, especially as they put me in a ward full of pregnant ladies when I was in hospital for my D+C. Unfortunately I found the attitude of many NHS staff to be - oh well, its natuaral -then they'd tell me the statistics for m/c in early pregnancy - as if it was ment to make me feel better!
I have the upmost admiration for any lady that continues ttc after a m/c, I am sorry you have had to go thru this, but you are such strong ladies and when you do have your babies they will be lucky to have such loving parents.
 
Ladies I hope you dont mind me posting here as I am in such a fortunate position of being almost 18 weeks pregnant. But I too had 2 m/c, and I truly understand how you are feeling. I felt an incredible amount of sadness after my first m/c and this turned to anger and frustration after the second m/c, especially as they put me in a ward full of pregnant ladies when I was in hospital for my D+C. Unfortunately I found the attitude of many NHS staff to be - oh well, its natuaral -then they'd tell me the statistics for m/c in early pregnancy - as if it was ment to make me feel better!
I have the upmost admiration for any lady that continues ttc after a m/c, I am sorry you have had to go thru this, but you are such strong ladies and when you do have your babies they will be lucky to have such loving parents.


Thanks Doodles for this lovely xx
 

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