fertilty consultant tomoro!:cry:

[Redclaire]

so here we go!!
we're off to the fertilty specialist tomorrow and i'm so sad about it!
I know some of you girls have been too and have said its a really positive thing because soo much can be done now medically but i so never wanted it this way. My sister has IVF twins after 3 years TTC and 3 IVF cycles and i saw the pressure and anxiety in her. The twins are now 9!!

When i was married to my ex i had all the tests too, he had a zilch spermies! I never wanted to go back down that road again! My tubes were fine 4 years ago now i'm worrying that i may have damaged them with fun had during the singleton period, tho nothing STI-wise when last tested 3 years ago with my smear. So i suppose i'd be happy enough to have the HSG again.

My fab partner has 4 grown up kids and he's soo lovely and supportive about us having one...i just wanted it to happen tho! Not this medical mine field that looks like is the road ahead!

I'm due to ovulate thursday, both taking conception vits, i'm on EPO and grapefruit juice and going for BD every 36 hours (just in case with the everyday every other day arguement!). I jumped him yesterday morning and will have quality time tonight. I do the pillow under the bum til i fall asleep, tried preseed for 3 months, thought its a bit too runny (TMI) at times...but fun
Any other ideas ladies??
Hopefully tomorrow will be good and calm the nerves, i've never met this doctor before.
Maybe its cos i'm a nurse i always imagine the worst??!!

 

[Redclaire]

OOh and i'm 36, himself is 43 tomorrow and we have been TTC since may boo hoo!!

 

[Traskey]

Good luck for tomorrow and let us know how you get on. Our first appointment is next Thursday and I am not looking forward to it either!

 

[seoj]

Maybe it's just my "after school special side" talking, lol, but actually- going to see the FS was great!!! Yes, they will overwhelm you with stats and information (and I almost had a mini meltdown)- BUT- I left feeling more powerful. Like, YES this WILL happen now... sometimes the worst thing is the not knowing. And maybe this wasn't how I saw it happening either... but if this is how I was meant to get prego, then so be it!!!

They will be able to run more tests and advise specifically what is going on with your situation. I'm not saying you won't have some difficult moments... But knowing is half the battle. Least you are being pro-active and doing what you need to do.

Fingers crossed for you hun!!!!

 

[Redclaire]

Thanks girls!!
I'll definately update you tomorrow.
I should ov in the next couple of days...so i better get chirpy and get busy!!
xxx

 

[sarahincanada]

I loved going to see my FS, and I felt happy to find out if there was anything stopping me getting pregnant. We have been loosely trying since Feb '10, but only really properly since Sept '10.

my apt was great, they went through history and then had a little chat. Our bloods had come back normal, and she wasnt worried about anything from hearing our history. she ordered a sono for me and sperm analysis for hubby. She said to me that she would be more worried if I was 28 and had been trying for 10 months, as being 38 its very normal and often just takes time. She was quite easy going and didnt make me feel doomed that I was a medical failure. Hubbies SA has since come back normal and I have my sono booked on Thursday. she had said that she can suggest some things to 'move things along' if we still werent pregnant after the sono, so not sure what those steps are.

so dont worry, theres a lot of other things to check before you have to decide on anything more serious. try and stay positive, you are just going to see what your options are!

 

[princessjulia]

please dont worry abt needing help i went to gyni last wk he has put me on clomid to give me a helpin hand to concieve it doesnt make anyone a failer it makes sure you ov every mth to help you naturally its not ivf i feel great comfort of receiveing help and hopefully baby to follow hope this helps

 

[Redclaire]

thanks for all the support ladies!
So we went yesterday... got a AMH taken (€96/ £75), himself is for a semen analysis (€100/£80), and i'm off to have a HSG (yuk) (covered by insurance) on cd8 of next cycle (i'm cd 14 now and ovulating!). All other bloods and pelvic ultra sound were grand. I had a lap hsg 4 years ago so the FS said it should be ok but i might have a small blockage that a flush will sort out.

So no surprises...back in 5 weeks with all the new results. Still a bit sad about the whole thing...i mean appt in a maternity hospital!! maddening when we came out..a rough looking older woman (soz its bitchy but cut me some slack!) was going home with her new baby girl...she didn't even strap the car seat in before the taxi drove off!!!! My fella was horrified! i suppose some woman dont know the value of what they have!

we're at it like the proverbial rabbits cos i'm fertile myrtle at the mo so i'm still FX that none of these tests are necessary...especially the ouchy HSG

 

[Traskey]

I'm glad that the appointment went well and you can see a way forward, even if there is a 5 week wait. Fingers crossed that you don't need the test that's painful!

I am with you on the, "Some people don't know how lucky they are." We were watching a programme, fly on the wall doc, the other day where the car seat had just been slung in the back and was obviously not belted in!

 

[Rowan75]

glad your appointment went well redclaire! fingers crossed for you x