FFS get the hint!!

[suzanne108]

I know my situation is probably a bit weird with fob wanting to get back together and some people prob think I should make a go of it....but its not gonna happen! And i wish he could get that into his thick head!!!

Got a text on sunday with a valentines poem saying no matter what happened he would always love me.....great thats just what i want to hear!

Today I got a valentines card. Its doing my head in!!

I've told him theres no chance and him keep bringing it up is just making things awkward. Doesnt seem to stop him!

I cant help but think that he's just doing it so that he can say he has. One day is he gonna say to Lola that he tried his best but I wasn't interested...making me look like the bad guy?

Annoyingly all the time he's been asking me to get back together he's been getting a mortgage on a house. A house that is 150 miles away from me which is where he lives...knowing that I would never move there. So what if I'd said yes we'd make a go of it? Would he sell the house before he even moved in?! Would he expect me to move there? Annoying.

 

[teal]

That would definitely annoy me. You would think that after the first few times he's asked he would realise you weren't interested.

It does seem strange that he wants to get back together but then has bought a house that far away from where you and Lola live. Surely it would have made more sense to live nearer.

You shouldn't feel guilted into being with someone and I'm sure Lola will understand that xx

 

[suzanne108]

Wow teal look at your bump not long, bet you're excited!

its not like FOB makes that much effort considering he 'cares' so much. He's seen her 3 times in 7 weeks, all 3 times in the first 3 weeks of her life!

Actually considering how controlling his mum is, she prob told him to do it!!

 

[teal]

I am excited but feeling a bit scared at the same time.

3 times in 7 weeks and not seeing her for 4 weeks doesn't sound like that much effort. I remember you mentioning his mum being controlling aswell. What is it with these people!

xx

 

[MummyCarly]

I know how you feel the FOB im pregnant with sent me some stupid Vday card saying Ill always love you etc etc... Its like oh ffs get over it and leave me alone. I dont want nor need you end of story..

STALKERS!.....

 

[suzanne108]

Hehe glad I'm not the only one!

I sometimes think I must sound weird complaining that my babys dad/sperm donor wants to get back together. Its just too late!

He basically gave me a choice of him or the baby....maybe he didnt expect me to make the choice I did. It was really no contest. Who wants to be with a man that would pressure her into having an abortion? Not me!

xx

 

[teal]

That's exactly how I see it - my ex made me choose between him and the baby. I certainly wouldn't want to be with a "man" who tries to push a termination on someone.

 

[tinkabells]

I dunno what to say but hugs xxx

 

[lou_w34]

I got a valentine text aswell, he should have saved it for his gf! lol

Hmm he sounds like he's just trying to cover his own back, id just ignore him lol

There such a pleasure to no arnt they?? lol

xxx

 

[suzanne108]

Oh yes....I feel deep joy when I think of him

Sad thing is....I actually used to love him!!!

 

[lou_w34]

Ditto.... and then i wonder if i was blind aswell as stupid! lol

xx

 

[teal]

I wonder what I ever seen in my ex. I know I won't remember because of everything that's happened since then. All I feel is anger now!

 

[lou_w34]

I dont think i even feel anger anymore... i feel nothing towards him!
And if i think im feeling angry towards him I try too supress is, as i feel that its a waste of my energy!

xx

 

[teal]

Definitely agree that it's a waste of energy! xx

 

[suzanne108]

Ooh definitely agree with the waste of energy thing!

They just make it so difficult sometimes that its hard not to be angry! X

 

[Ash_P]

Totally get everything u girls are saying. While I was pregnant all I felt was anger towards FOB. But as soon as she was born and I looked at her face, I actually feel sorry for him, hes totally pathetic and doesnt realise what he is missing out on.
The anger has passed me now, all my energy goes into Mollie and will continue to do so for the rest of my life.
I do get annoyed at times when I look at her wee face and think of him, cause shes such a wee pet and doesnt deserve to have a plonker of a father. But she will never miss what she never had.
Shes a week old now, and he hasnt even as much as tried to see if shes living or dead, how her health is, or even enquired about seeing her. I always knew deep down that he didnt give a shit, but I hoped he would prove me wrong. But it just goes to show a mother knows best.
Our children dont need men like that in their lives, and if it kills me, I will not have someone like that EVER fuck her about or screw her head up. Its better he dtays away so she grows up with peace and happiness.
We should just dig a hole, throw them all in it and set it alight LOL

 

[suzanne108]

Yay welcome back Ash! Mollie is a sweetie, I bet you're so proud. I'm glad she finally came out so that Mummy could see the light hehe!

You're very right, we all have much more precious things to devote our time and energy too now and I'm loving the throw them in a hole idea...when we doing it??!!

Teal - yours will be here soon xxx

 

[MummyCarly]

Lucky for me I live in Aussie and he lives in the USA so I don't have to put up with him haha, I can just "log off" my laptop or ignore the emails if I choose too.

Sucks that my LO wont have that "father figure" around cause my FOB parents are really nice and have sent her stuff for when shes born I wouldn't have had any issue letting them spend time with her.

but as for me I don't feel anything towards him I just think hes a fkn idiot lol

 

[suzanne108]

Lucky for me I live in Aussie and he lives in the USA so I don't have to put up with him haha, I can just "log off" my laptop or ignore the emails if I choose too.

Sucks that my LO wont have that "father figure" around cause my FOB parents are really nice and have sent her stuff for when shes born I wouldn't have had any issue letting them spend time with her.

but as for me I don't feel anything towards him I just think hes a fkn idiot lol

Jealous....and now considering a move to a country far far away!

 

[sweetlullaby]

Quite a lot of our FOB's should be shoved into a hole (pour petrol on them first before setting them alight )

Been nearly two months since FOB saw Matthew (6 days old when they seen him) His loss and he wont be worming his way back when he's a bit older. Its all or nothing and he blew it so its nothing. All he has is a few pictures and says his name spelt wrong on FB.

I look at Matthew everyday and think it's his loss, he's missing out on someone so precious and amazing and that has been his decision.

Teal....hurry up and pop