First night on the town?!?

[leedsforever]

My friend had a baby 6 weeks ago now.. and she first went out into town at night 2 and half weeks after babba was born!!

She has since got some negative comments from people who dont even know what its like to be a mother!! It gets her down!! I sympathise with her as I dont see why people have to have an opinion on such things and even worse express those opinions!!

One particular girl said she thought her behaviour was outrageous and where was her motherly instict!!!??!!

I think after being pregnant for 9 months and looking after a baby on a daily basis us mothers deserve a night out!! Leaving baby with daddy or even nanny on ocasions does no harm to the bonding process!! Surely becoming a recluse while your friends still have a social life will onset baby blues and post natal depression!!

She has been out twice since her baby was born on 14th May!!

But just wondered what other peoples views were and how long they left it before venturing into a night on the town... ???

i promise I wont take offence as I appreciate we will all see it differently! My SIL is 32 and she cant stand to leave her LO for a night out... but I think they may be down to generation!! Me and my friends are 22 so still relatively young!! So maybe age has something to do with it!!

 

[Younglutonmum]

I'm not gonna lie........Im dying for a night out!! Ok im going to be a mummy but im still me & that me likes a good night out with the girls

Its my 21st abround 2 months afta bubs arrives & im most certainly going out for it. People can say what they like but us mummies are people to who deserve a social life!!

xxx

 

[leedsforever]

I'm not gonna lie........Im dying for a night out!! Ok im going to be a mummy but im still me & that me likes a good night out with the girls

Its my 21st abround 2 months afta bubs arrives & im most certainly going out for it. People can say what they like but us mummies are people to who deserve a social life!!

xxx

totally agree

God how did I write so much when all I needed to write was what you just wrote lol!!

 

[Younglutonmum]

totally agree

God how did I write so much when all I needed to write was what you just wrote lol!!

Arghhh well, we can't all be as quick thinking as me hehehe

Bring on a night out!! Can't wait

xXx

 

[leedsforever]

There you go.... cut it down... lol... abit!!!

 

[leeanne]

We lived above MIL prior to our kids were born and up until last year. We asked her to babysit twice and she did not do it willingly that's for damn sure, but she did. She always said I needed to get out more but never once did she offer to babysit.

So, I had no one to really look after the kids until I found a few casual babysitters last year.

From the time I was pregnant with my daughter until my son was 4 years old, I went out 3 times. I tell you, it was tough.

I truly believe that every mother needs a night out here and there or they will go insane. So be it that it was 6 weeks after. She probably deserved it.

 

[Younglutonmum]

Wow 3 times??

I'm lucky that my mum & dad are really understanding & have both said if I want to go out sometimes then they're happy to take over!!

All I want is my 21st Birthday nightout & then i'll be very very happy lol

I have bought my outfit already so fingers crossed I lose my baby weight by then!!

 

[taperjeangirl]

Well I will be pregnant for my 30th birthday and as soon as I feel up to it after my baby is born I will be celebrating it!
My friends had my "Fabulous 30th Birthday Bash" all planned for this year then I found out I was pregnant!
I honestly can't remember how long I waited before I went out after I had my daughter, but I was only 17 at the time so I can pretty much guarantee it wasn't that long!

I agree, that after 9 months of sickness, sore bits, heartburn, childbirth etc you really deserve a night out with your friends!

 

[mBLACK]

If by 'night out' you mean a couple drinks with friends, then yes I could definitely go for one of those right about now. But I'm not even the legal drinking age yet, actually far from it, and the only thing most other teens want to do is smoke pot and do drugs. So I won't be getting my night out for awhile yet.. maybe a margarita with one of my auntie's once I'm done breastfeeding, but that's a long time from now.

 

[Mervs Mum]

I was 20 when I had my first. My best mate got married 3 weeks after she was born so I went to the wedding without her and went home in between the day and evening receptions.

I think it was about 6 weeks after I had my first when I went 'out on the town'. I left her with ther Dad and was back around 11pm as I was still feeding her myself but I was ready for it!!

 

[Gabi]

Nothing wrong with getting out for a night. After all those months of heartburn, aches, etc why not. You'll go mad if you dont.
I probably wont be out 2 and a half weeks after my baby is born. But that's not for any other reason than I doubt I'll be up to it so soon. But by 6 weeks I'll definately want a couple of hours to myself!

 

[Carolyn]

me and my friends don't really do the wild night out thing anymore, being of the older generation! But we love to go out and have a meal and then it always ends up in a club where we can do some nineties dancing!! although this obviously hasn't happened recently! if there's a big event coming up then me and OH would go, or just me, having a baby does not make you a recluse. unless you feel that you don't want to go. in the first trim i didn't want to go shopping never mind socialising! we've got the kind of old couple lifestyle where we go to child friendly restaurants or we have parties at friends houses... my last time 'out' as it were was my baby shower! i think one of the nice things about having a baby is that is opens a whole lot more doors of opportunity than it closes...I'VE JUST REALISED THAT I'M IN TEH LAST BLOODY BOX ON MY TICKER...WHEN DID THAT HAPPEN???

 

[Always&4ever]

My first night out was when Jasmine was about 10weeks old, and I have been out once since then and now

 

[Christine33]

awww your mate has done nothing wrong. she is a young girl who has just had a baby. she has the right to a night out - where is the harm!? I don't get what right people have to judge her! it is the same as people slagging off working mums, single mums, mums who spend time on their appearance etc.

i have commented to a few people my concerns about my figure post baby (i have put on rather a bit of weight) and i have been criticised for being so concerned about the way i look - to my face! for example, it is selfish to feel like that but for me it is very important - doesn't mean i love my baby less!

personally i think a happy mum = a happy baby!

Christine
XXX

 

[Ell.Bishh]

I've been out quite afew times since Alex was born havent exactly kept count but i think its been 7 times, first time I went out was 5 weeks after he was born, my mam said I deserved a night out and would babysit so I didnt hesitate to say no, doesnt make me a bad mother, but i think everyone needs some time to go out and enjoy themselves with their mates rather than becoming sore sort of hermit lol
xx

 

[nikky0907]

I see absolutly nothing wrong in it.If the baby is safe,warm and fed and in a responsible care....

It is really terrible that they judged your poor friend like that.

I think that I'll be going to one of my friends' birthday,it'll be a night on the town,I'm not sure how old Lola-Rose will be but it's in November so about a month old.
I won't be excessivly drinking or anything,but a drink or two,definitely!

And probably a night out here and there,I see nothing wrong with it and if anyone tries to judge me for it,I'm getting my bat out!

 

[Blah11]

I'd leave my baby to go out with my friends. Aslong as you don't do it everynight.. or even every week it's fine. I wouldn't drink alcohol if breastfeeding obviously.

 

[XKatX]

I think it's totally up tot he mother as to how she feels. I will probably be desperate for a night out with friends by then. It probably wouldn't be a mad clubbing night, but definately a few drinks and a bit of a boogy. I'd probably miss my baby too much to stay out too late!!

 

[AppleBlossom]

I can't wait to go out to town either and will go out after bubs is born but I reckon I won't feel up to it for at least a few weeks

 

[polo_princess]

Im not really a huge one for going out on the piss anyway .... my days or working in nightclubs has seriously dampened the fun effect of it. But i like to go out for a few glasses of wine with my friends and i wouldnt think twice about going at if i wanted too ... my LO will have a perfectly capable father to lookf after them ,so its not going to do anyone any harm if i go out for a few drinks is it