First night out

[expecting09]

So I had my first proper night out at my friends ann summers party, everyone there apart from 1 has kids and was going onnnn and onnnn and onnnnnn about babys and kids. One girl there that I've only met once before asked me something and I was like 'can't you stop talking about babys I'm trying to have a night off' and the cheeky cow turned round and replied 'you don't wanna talk about your daughter, your meant to love her' I mean wtf!!!! I talk baby talk 24 hours, 7 days a week, give me a break for fuck sake.

Don't get me wrong I've never loved anyone or anything as much as I love Kacie, she's my whole world, I was trying to let my hair down, but for that I get penalized.

Now I feel guilty because maybe shoulda been talking about Kacie all night. Made me feel like I'm a totally shit mum just because I wanted a proper baby-free night

 

[MissEfendi]

She should not have said that to you because you are not a rubbish mum if you don't want to talk about babies all night but at the same time, you cannot be mad if other people want to talk about their babies all the time. I am one of those mums who talk about my son all the time among other things and that is because he is always on my mind, and he is my world so hence I do the usual motherly gushing about her baby useless chatter. I do chat about other things too though but I doubt I could go a whole night or day without talking about my son, it does not mean either of us are better or worse than the other, it just means we are all different.

At the same time my son is five months and I have no desires to let my hair down yet, I am 32 and have spent years letting my hair down so I just want to enjoy his company until he is bigger and wanting to do his own thing. I am different in the sense too that 99% of my friends have babies so there is no getting away from baby chat, whenever we meet up there is always a baby there anyway.

 

[expecting09]

It's not the fact that they were talking about babies all night, I can understand why they do it. But they don't understand that they've all got OH's to look after LO's if they want to go out, I've got no-one, my mum once in a blue moon, so I wanna enjoy just getting away from Kacie, it may sound bad but theres only so much baby talk I can handle. The thing that pissed me off was she made a fact of saying I don't LOVE my daughter because I don't want to spend my night telling them her weekly bowel movements, well I'm ever so sorry for wanting some ME time

 

[nievesmama]

hun. I totally understand where you are coming from. As much as we love are children we are still US and need me time. Sometimes we all need to be able to go out, let our hair down and let someone else take over for a change.
She had no rights to say that to you x

 

[MissEfendi]

I am a single mummy too, I am the only single mum out of my friends so I can understand how you feel. Sometimes I would love to be able to get a lie in or have a little break but as a single mum that won't happen, and to be honest, I don't mind ( but i am sure you can give me another year and I will probably be pulling my hair out and wanting a break!) My mum has had my son for an hour ( silly thing is, I missed him for that hour!) but not overnight but that is because I do not want to go out.

She is wrong to say you dont love your LO just because you wanted a night off baby talks but people judge by themselves, so if they talk about their LO all night and love them, they think if other people don't then they cannot love their little ones, same as people like you would not think a mother who does not talk about her baby all night does not love her child because you dont feel the need to also, whereas I can see point sides. We all show love in different ways and we all deal with things in different ways.

I hope you told her off for saying that?

You probably will find though that as you are a mother, people will want to talk about your little one even if you don't. I remember my sister always talking non stop about her babies before I had one and I used to think " can we not talk about something else?" though I never said it but now I am always talking about my little one, it is hard because being a single mum means he takes up all my time, and everything centres around him, so hence I probably don't have as much to talk about as someone who is at work and dealing with completely different things to me.

 

[purpledahlia]

I'd of told her who does she think she is judging your love for your child like that!

Ive got my first night out on the 27th, and im pretty nervous about it. My mum AND auntie and sister are all watching Ava and are all SO excited about it, Its my friends birthday so were going for a big meal to Edin then to a club. Its too far away to be able to just get home if i want so i have to wait till the end of the night and share a taxi with my friends. I KNOW Ava will be fine, ill just have to get over it. mum says i deserve a night off anyway, But i wont be sitting talking baby the whole night. Obv i will talk about her if it comes up but im pretty sure after the 'hows ava' questions are passed we will be talking about other things. And if someone told me i didnt love her because i didnt talk about her they might just get a slap.

 

[Linz88]

Omg.. Thats rude. X

 

[expecting09]

Nah didn't say anything to her, she knew she is totally in the wrong though, cos when I left the room everyone went quiet and started looking round at eachother lol. When she got the taxi home she said to another girl she was 'speaking without thinking' pfft!

We had the 'hows kacie' convo, I just didn't see the need to talk about her ALL night.

Aww Claire, I bet your excited!! It's nice to get away even just for a couple of hours x

 

[purpledahlia]

well least she knows shes wrong!

yeah am excited, one cocktail and ill be hammered