First pregnancy- MMC

[AmberR]

I found out I was pregnant on 7/7/17 after 11 months TTC. Everything seemed to be going smoothly except for some minor spotting which my midwife reassured me was not concerning. On my first scan at 9w4d, baby was measuring 6w3d with no heartbeat and my gestational sac was measuring the correct size bit was misshaped. I was told I have a high probability of miscarriage.
I then had HCG levels drawn that started at 72,000 and dropped to 60,000 48 hours later. At this point I am waiting to miscarry naturally. I have an appointment on Tuesday to discuss further options if needed. The first 2 days after I had the ultrasound were the hardest. I feel like I have accepted it now and can start moving on. It is just hard to not know when I will miscarry.
So my question is, how long did it take you to miscarry after baby stopped growing? Did you take medication or have a d&c? I am also worried it will take me almost another year to get pregnant so I am wondering how soon you got pregnant after miscarriage?
I'm also wondering how common this is and if I am more likely to have another miscarriage in the future?

Thanks for reading, it was helpful to write this all out.

 

[sophxx]

I've had two mmc and a healthy boy in between I took the medication both times after discussing it with the consultant who advised it was more natural. I stayed in hospital both times till the mc passed but depending how far you are you have the option to go home.
It's more common than you think and happens to lots of ladies. I hope your as ok as can be.
X

 

[AmberR]

So sorry for your losses soph, but thank you for sharing your experience. I had an appt with my midwife and have decided to wait it out at this point. We are checking my HCG levels again and as long as they continue to drop my body should get the hint soon. If nothing happens within 1-2 weeks then I will have to try medication or get a d&c.

 

[LoraLoo]

Im so sorry for your loss. Ive had 2 mmc. One at 18 weeks and one at 15 weeks. Id had healthy pregnancies before, in between and afterwards. I did have 2 mc after the last mmc though, but went on to have a healthy baby.
I had the medication to induce labour as d and c wasnt an ootion and fir me personally i didnt want things dragging out. My first Af came about 6 weeks afterwards and i fell pregnant that cycle.
I really hope that physically things are as gentle as possible for you and that your recovery is quick, i know the emotional scars take a lot longer to heal

 

[AmberR]

Hi LoraLou- thanks for sharing, I am so sorry to hear of your losses, but it gives me hope that you have had several healthy pregnancies!

Just got the results- HCG is down now to 35,000- so they are hopeful the process will happen naturally soon. I really don't like the waiting but I fear the risks of the medications or procedure, even if they are only small risks.

 

[LoraLoo]

If theyre falling natural thats a really 'good' sign that things are progressing naturally.
I was told after my first loss that 1 loss makes you no more likely to have another and really hope this is the case for you

 

[AmberR]

Thank you, I hope that is the case for me too!

 

[AmberR]

Still no symptoms of miscarriage, but my pregnancy symptoms are going away, except for I still have sore boobs. I will have another HCG level drawn tomorrow and again Monday before my appt with the midwife. Looking at the HCG trend I should be down to 0 by Monday so just waiting to see if my body naturally kicks in, otherwise will have to go with the meds or d&c. I really hate this waiting game. And I'm having a really hard time telling people what happened because I don't want to have to explain it. I guess I will just wait until it's over then it will be easier to just say I had a miscarriage and leave it at that.

 

[AmberR]

I have been getting cramps on and off today and have started spotting so it looks like my body is finally getting the message. It's sad but a relief at the same time knowing I will hopefully be able to move on soon. I have very conflicted feelings about it. I am curious to see what my HCG levels are tomorrow.

 

[AmberR]

HCG is down to 28,000 but the rate has slowed down a little. I have been having some cramps on and off but no bleeding today. I am nervous as I am scheduled to work the next 2 days and worried about it starting while at work. I am a nurse in a hospital so it can be a little difficult for me to leave mid shift if I need to. So just trying to make it through the weekend and will have another HCG level drawn on Monday and an appt with the midwife.

 

[AmberR]

At my appt decided to try the misoprostil to induce a misscarriage since it has been 5 weeks since baby stopped growing and 2 weeks since we found out. So wanted to describe my experience for those interested. Took 800 mg misoprostil vaginally at 3pm. Started having moderate cramps around 2 hours later. Did not start bleeding until 12 hours later and cramps have eased up a bit now. So far the process has not been bad at all. I expected a lot of pain but have not had to take anything for the cramps.

 

[LoraLoo]

Not a nice thing to go through but glad the pain has not been too bad. Are they going to rescan you at all or are they happy that the mc is complete? (Sorry for the wording x)

 

[AmberR]

Yes, it has not been a pleasant experience by any means but I was expecting it to be much worse. The cramps were only about 4/10 at first and once the bleeding started the cramps were very minimal. I am a little worried that I may have not passed everything, but I guess only time will tell. I am scheduled for a follow up appt in 2 weeks where they will check my HCG levels again. I'm not sure if they will do another scan unless my HCG level has not returned to 0 by then. I really hope I can avoid a d&c!

 

[AmberR]

Still having some moderate bleeding and cramps 6 days since my misscarriage. Trying to patiently wait until the 12th when I get my HCG level drawn to see if it has returned to zero! Sure hope the bleeding stops soon and my cycles return to normal.

 

[LoraLoo]

I bled for 6 weeks afterwards 🙁. Hope it stops for you soon and that your levels are back down

 

[Left wonderin]

Hi I'm so sorry for your loss. I had a mmc at 13 weeks on my first . I'm so glad you have not had too rough a time with the whole process. To give hope I went on to have 2 beautiful babies after my mmc. It's so hard when it happens but it won't always feel like this xxxxx

 

[AmberR]

Hi I'm so sorry for your loss. I had a mmc at 13 weeks on my first . I'm so glad you have not had too rough a time with the whole process. To give hope I went on to have 2 beautiful babies after my mmc. It's so hard when it happens but it won't always feel like this xxxxx

I am so sorry to hear of your loss, but thank you for sharing, that is very reassuring! I am slowly emotionally healing but the thought of being pregnant again is scary right now because I can't imagine going through this again.

 

[Left wonderin]

It is sad that experiencing a loss with your first pregnancy changes everything . It robs you of that pure innocence . I never in a million years expected to mc , things like that happened to other people . Going on to being pregnant the second time was a scary time . I don't think I breathed for the first 18 weeks but as tIme went on I relaxed and began to enjoy it . I survived by not thinking ahead .... Staying with the hear and now ... Small goals ... But before all that ..... Allow yourself time to grieve . It is so important . You have suffered a significant loss and are grieving like any other loss. It is no different . Be kind to yourself . Expect good and bad days . But hold onto the knowledge that some day in the not so distant future you will begin to have a " good day " with no tears and maybe a smile . Then one day you will realise you didn't feel angry today and are ok. Soon those good days will out weigh the bad . That ok .. It doesn't mean you will ever forget this lo. I remember my little one all the time, even now they are a special to me as the children I have here with me . That will never change . I will carry them as you will in my heart forever . One day and hopefully soon you will feel strong enough to try again and will be blessed with your rainbow baby xxxxx

 

[AmberR]

It is sad that experiencing a loss with your first pregnancy changes everything . It robs you of that pure innocence . I never in a million years expected to mc , things like that happened to other people . Going on to being pregnant the second time was a scary time . I don't think I breathed for the first 18 weeks but as tIme went on I relaxed and began to enjoy it . I survived by not thinking ahead .... Staying with the hear and now ... Small goals ... But before all that ..... Allow yourself time to grieve . It is so important . You have suffered a significant loss and are grieving like any other loss. It is no different . Be kind to yourself . Expect good and bad days . But hold onto the knowledge that some day in the not so distant future you will begin to have a " good day " with no tears and maybe a smile . Then one day you will realise you didn't feel angry today and are ok. Soon those good days will out weigh the bad . That ok .. It doesn't mean you will ever forget this lo. I remember my little one all the time, even now they are a special to me as the children I have here with me . That will never change . I will carry them as you will in my heart forever . One day and hopefully soon you will feel strong enough to try again and will be blessed with your rainbow baby xxxxx

Thank you for such kind words. They were just what I needed to hear! The thing I am struggling with the most was with having a MMC and the waiting knowing that my baby was already dead. I never knew that could happen. So there will always still be that fear in the future. But I am going to try to take each day one at a time and in my future pregnancy be grateful each day that I am pregnant! I say that now but will see what really happens! I tend to be a worrier so I am working on worrying less with everyday things too. Again, thank you for the encouragement!!

 

[Left wonderin]

I wish you all the very very best for the future and send you lots n lots of fairy dust just waiting ready for sprinkling when you are ready to try again