First Pregnancy Nightmare

[meme85]

Hi Ladies! Im new here and just looking for some advice , the last few weeks have been completely crazy i found out i was pregnant with my first child i was so excited but quickly it all went horribly wrong, to make a long story as short as i can i had my first scan on the 6th of october which showed nothing, i was a little worried but the midwife reassured me it may just be too early, id been having lots of pain and some brown discharge but she said that it was ok once it wasn't the type of pain that would take your breath away, she took bloods and over the week my levels continued to double, i went for the second scan but again nothing could be seen she checked my womb and my tubes nothing! She started to explain ectopic pregnancy which i had never heard of , i had more bloods and went home in pain. My bloods continued to double then one day i had such bad pain that i couldn't breath and could hardly walk, i got to the hospital they admitted me but the pain went after i gave a urine sample. I stayed the night and fasted the next morning they had me scheduled for laparoscopic surgery .At this stage i felt perfectly fine, the consultant came to see me with at least 10 interns and told me he wasn't going to go ahead with surgery as it would be dangerous if my pregnancy was perfectly fine , he believed it was just early pregnancy and not ectopic, he then told me if i had sever pain i had to come straight back so i asked about bleeding and he said" well if your bleeding a lot its JUST a miscarriage and unless i was haemorrhaging i should just stay home. So he booked me for a scan the following week and took more bloods to check my HCG , later that evening an intern came to tell me that my levels had dropped from 1335 to 935 and that i could go home and expect to miscarry . My heart was broke . She went on to tell me it was the best outcome in this situation. Two days later i had massive bleeding which continued for 4 days, in those 4 days i had been back to the midwife for more HCG and the results were they only dropped by 10, I came back two days later and they had dropped again but only by 12, So this week i returned for bloods and had some dull uncomfortable feeling like when you are about to get your period, they did more HCG which i found out today have only slightly dropped again so in two days i have to decide to go for methrotrexate or just to continue with bloods.This has been the worst time in my life cannot believe my first pregnancy has turned out this way.Has this happened to anybody and what do people feel about going for the injection or just waiting it out. Im slightly terrified of the medication. I would love some advice and sorry i rambled on a bit .

 

[Laska5]

wow honey- so sorry you are going through this! That does sound like a nightmare!

My experience has been a true nightmare as well but not the same as yours, it was also my first pregnancy but was missed miscarriage at 9 weeks but baby only looked about 7 weeks. We went through about 1 week of trying to figure everything out, several painful ultrasounds & 3 days of WAITING for methotrexate to work & it just failed miserably. My body was resistant to it. I then had a d/c which went fine but then I started spotting afterwards off & on for 2 months. It's now been almost 3 months since our first u/s that showed something was wrong & I think my body is FINALLY getting back to normal! It has been a very rough road, especially emotionally for me.

As for the methotrexate, I was scared as well but knew since it was my first pregnancy I didn't want to risk a d/c. I had a bad experience with it in that I felt like I wasted 3 days just waiting for it to work, taking different dosages in different routes & it did not work. I was in a very deep & dark depression during those days.

I'm not sure if any of this was helpful but just wanted to share my story to help you know that you are not alone. HUGS to you & I'm so sorry you are going through this.

 

[meme85]

wow honey- so sorry you are going through this! That does sound like a nightmare!

My experience has been a true nightmare as well but not the same as yours, it was also my first pregnancy but was missed miscarriage at 9 weeks but baby only looked about 7 weeks. We went through about 1 week of trying to figure everything out, several painful ultrasounds & 3 days of WAITING for methotrexate to work & it just failed miserably. My body was resistant to it. I then had a d/c which went fine but then I started spotting afterwards off & on for 2 months. It's now been almost 3 months since our first u/s that showed something was wrong & I think my body is FINALLY getting back to normal! It has been a very rough road, especially emotionally for me.

As for the methotrexate, I was scared as well but knew since it was my first pregnancy I didn't want to risk a d/c. I had a bad experience with it in that I felt like I wasted 3 days just waiting for it to work, taking different dosages in different routes & it did not work. I was in a very deep & dark depression during those days.

I'm not sure if any of this was helpful but just wanted to share my story to help you know that you are not alone. HUGS to you & I'm so sorry you are going through this.[/QU

Thank you so much for your reply, I'm so sorry for your loss and you've had such a hard time to Its awful i always believed i would just get pregnant and 9 months later baby would be here, I cant imagine how you must have felt after the methotrexate didnt work!! I wasn't aware that can even happen!! I go back for bloods tomorrow and im hoping to put off methotrexate if at all possible.But then part of me worries am i just delaying the inevitable Iv had some bleeding today so im hoping that will help drop my levels it feels so wrong to even be thinking that. I think the worst part is the waiting, waiting for u/s waiting for bloods and for you waiting for the medicine to work. I totally understand the deep dark depression even though i have the support of my partner and family i feel like this is all i think about. Its great to hear you are coming back to normal i wish you so much luck in the future with all your pregnancies!!Lots and lots of babies, you definitely deserve them .

 

[Kipod]

So sorry for your lost. I had a pretty bad time myself, first finding out that I'm pregnant but low hcg, than repeating the bloods again to find out thier not doubling and crying so hard, walking around for a week fearing ectopic or to miscarry just to find out today that hcg dropped and I am indeed miscarrying and now waiting to bleed. Its a horrible wait and I hoping next time we both will have beautiful happy babies! Stay strong!

 

[meme85]

So sorry for your lost. I had a pretty bad time myself, first finding out that I'm pregnant but low hcg, than repeating the bloods again to find out thier not doubling and crying so hard, walking around for a week fearing ectopic or to miscarry just to find out today that hcg dropped and I am indeed miscarrying and now waiting to bleed. Its a horrible wait and I hoping next time we both will have beautiful happy babies! Stay strong!

Oh no!!I am so sorry for your loss I hope your doing as ok as can be expected its a horrible time. I get an extra 10 days with out the shot so im pretty pleased about that but i found out my blood type RH negative which i think is not a good thing in pregnancy . The midwife didnt say much just that its rare and in my next pregnancy (fingers crossed!!!)i will need a shot to stop my body attacking the baby. So make sure you get your blood type checked , i wish you many any healthy little bambinos!!!