FOB annoying me!

[pinkneon]

So I think you all know what my FOB is like. For those who are new here or haven't seen my other posts ... Basically he's an idit (like most men!). We were ttc for 17months. I got pregnant and he didn't wanna know. e has 2 other children. One was conceived and born in the time we were together - with my ex-BEST FRIEND. The other one was born just before we got together. He has no contact with either of his children, and pays nothing towards them. He drinks a LOT - him and his mates usually spend about £300 a time between them on alcohol. He is always drunk out of his head. He's a liar, and is always telling me stuff that isn't true. He tried telling me he had some serious illnesses which I later found out he doesn't. I made a descision that my baby is better off and safest without him unless he can prove he can change - which he agreed with! He doesn't want anything to do with my princess.
So anyway ... NOW he's saying I have to tell him when I go into labor and he HAS to be there for the birth ... I don't want him there. I have told him I don't want him there, but he won't listen. He keeps having a go at me for not telling him when I had my scans and things. I don't know what to do! I thought i still loved him, but I saw him the other week and didn't want to give him a hug goodbye - which he made me do. But I felt nothing for him. But he's one of these people who scares me, and I usually do what he says so that he shuts up ... So am wondering if I should let him come to the birth? Though I did promise a friend of mine she could come ... Plus he lives 2 hours on a bus so even if I went into labor he wouldn't get there that quick! I can't take the stress from him anymore!

 

[Miss_d]

i dont think it would be a good idea, just have your friend with you as you say things arent good with you and FOB, Good luck

 

[scottishgal89]

You need proper support during that time.
I would take a family member or a friend.
My Mum was mine

 

[gemabee]

hun i don't even see why ur considering this.
ofcourse he shouldn't be there.
don't tell him when u go into labour.
simple.
xx

 

[pinkneon]

hun i don't even see why ur considering this.
ofcourse he shouldn't be there.
don't tell him when u go into labour.
simple.
xx

He's just one of those people who you don't say no to ...

 

[scottishgal89]

Neither is my ex. You just have to stand up to these people and not let them walk all over you.
Their loss.
What are they going to do?!

 

[gemabee]

hun i don't even see why ur considering this.
ofcourse he shouldn't be there.
don't tell him when u go into labour.
simple.
xx

He's just one of those people who you don't say no to ...

well then he definately shouldn't be there.
jus don't tell him when u go into labour... there's not much he can do then.
xx

 

[scottishgal89]

I'd just stand up to him and tell him that no he wont be there as it's the biggest thing you'll ever go threw and you need support and someone who wont let you down.

Thats what I told mine