FOB being abusive - feel abit shaky :(

[stephanie20]

As I have already said a load of times before on here me and FOB split up after 2 months of me being pregnant because he hit me, he was violent and controlling (didn't like me talking to anyone else) stole my money, put my name on everything and then scarpered.

He came to the first scan and told me to have an abortion, came to the second and didn't even buy a scan picture and ran off as soon as the scan was over, didn't hear from him for months and then his new girlfriend messaged me on facebook asking how i was and when i was due and said that he'd ring me in a few days.

He finally rang my mum this morning but just to give her abuse, he said if i didn't put him on the birth certificate it "would mean war", he'd make my life a living hell and other things

I have no intention of putting him on the birth certificate and I'm seeing a solictor next tuesday to talk about this. I know I have asked again and again on here and I am sorry for the repitition but I am really scared he is going to get put on the birth certificate and he will get some access, I don't want him in my life, the year with him I'd just rather forget. I want to get on with my life but he won't let me

I'm sure hes doing this all just to spite me too as he has never expressed an interest in the baby, I think he just wants to be able to control me again like he used to. Its like he never liked me having a blackberry and after we split up my sister got me a contract with a blackberry torch (I can't get any credit because of all his debt) and he saw me with it at the first scan. My mum said when he rang up he asked her about it, how and why I have it, it seems like to me he just wants to control me again.

I just don't know what to do, it feels like I'll have all this for the rest of my life now :'(

 

[Mammy2Joojx]

unfortunately, you may have to deal with it for quite awhile since you're having his child were the police ever involved when he was violent? X

 

[dustbunny]

Bullies always have the biggest voice and little else. If you don't want him on the certificate then don't put him on there... if he is that fussed about being involved then he'll sort it out himself. Don't feel bullied into anything just because you had sex with him and got pregnant, he has been an unsupportive, mentally abusive person and you wouldn't have anything to do with his normally if it wasn't for the baby. I would call his bluff.

 

[sophxx]

sorry things are tough. dont put him on the birth certifcate but unfortunatley if he takes you to court he can have his name put on but id wait to see if he does. keep all abudive messagesof him can you add a recorder to your phone to record them as evidence? id ask him not to contact you again if he does you will report him for haressment block all contact of anyone on facebook ect and tell him if he wants contact to either go through court or change his attitude x