FOB came for his first offical unsupervised visitation

[jaytee146]

I cried all last night.. sitting at my desk crying...

He picked up lo from my mother's home and is keeping her until I take lunch today. I will then pick lo up and drop her off at the sitter.

Idk why I feel like he won't keep her safe or run off with my baby... A part of me was very relieved when he said he didn't want her because i felt that I could keep her to myself... I didn't have to worry with holiday's and day's like today. All of a sudden after the dna results he wanted to become more involved... I 've spoken with lawyers who've told me that even though lo isn't a year he still has to have access to her so they can develop a bond.

I've called and not recieved an answer. I just wanted to hear her voice...

This morning he arrived and said... Now you know how I felt when you brought her over for the first time and left after staying two hours and I begged you to leave her. She'll be safe though....

 

[Ceejay8]

What a harsh thing for him to say! I'm sure she'll be safe sweetie. Let us know how it goes! x

 

[dustbunny]

What a horrible thing to say to you and to not answer the phone to you, shows how "mature" he really is, what a major dick. Your LO will one day be grown up and realise what an idiot he was to you, he may get away with it now but one day Karma will kick him up the arse!

 

[teal]

That was an awful thing for him to say xx

 

[BrokenfoREVer]

What an awful thing to say. Your LO will be okay though & you'll soon have her back in your arms

 

[jaytee146]

FOB Called later that afternoon and informed me he had been with our lo to the Emergency Room where he discovered he had a staff infection....

He hinted around to taking her to all his family.. while I wasn't around of course. and that he asked a relative to watch her.. I did tell him I was upset for him not calling me sooner, for having our baby in the emergency room for all those hours. and lastly for asking a stranger... regardless of their biological relationship with lo to watch her. I told him that unless you are gonna have and spend time with lo.. I'll watch her.

I did hear him say it was extremely difficult and that he wasn't to watch her when she gets a little older and starts walking.. I thought now you see how difficult it is!

 

[Ceejay123]

Haha! Sounds funny. I'm surprised he didn't just call you and ask you to have her while he went to the emergency room though! That's the first thought that should have come into his mind! x

 

[lyonesse]

You're so composed! I would've been fuming about the emergency room situation and probably would've had a go at him. That could have affected your LO (especially if another patient got your LO sick) and that's the sort of thing he should be sharing at the time, not hours later. Kudos for handling it so well!

 

[jaytee146]

I try to take VERY VERY DEEP BREATHS BEFORE I SPEAK!