FOB finally met his little boy

[Dezireey]

Well today was either just a flash in the pan or the start of something more productive. I finally lost my cool with FOB this week and said 'right that's it, either we come to some sort of arrangement or I'm just going through CSA to get support off you, I dont see why you should just walk away from your responsibility and keep me off your back with all your depression, brain injury problems etc, etc' He responded by telling me he loved me (only ever said that rarely before) but because his life is a mess and he has no money, bad job and health problems he just cant see the wood for the trees and cant cope with things and a relationship. I said 'whatever, just tell me what you can pay / afford' he says 'I cant afford anything at this moment in time, why dont we meet up?' So we organise to meet and I couldnt get a babysitter for LO so took him with me. When I arrived in the car FOB's face was like thunder when I told him LO was in the car with me. I said' no problem, I will just leave goodbye' he says 'no, no,its okay'. Proceeds to try to talk to me around his car and doesnt even want to look at LO. I just say 'cant just leave him in car, we'll have to sit on the bench' He gives in and says 'okay, okay, no problem' He then proceeds to stare for nearly five long minutes at our son and begins to interact with him and smile at him and play with him, thankfully LO just smiles and giggles at him the whole time which I think had an impact on him.He then goes on to say things like 'he will be taught how to fish and go camping, he'll like this music yada yada'.

I'm just thinking okay, progress, small but good. He could have walked off but he stayed with us both for two hours talking about things and I came away thinking, well at least he's met him, at least he can see this is real, this boy is a reality. If nothing comes of it, so be it but its a bit of a start in making him see a bit of sense about the fact he is a father.

 

[lemontree12]

wow, i think mayb seeing him will make him realise he is more real. lets hope he wants to be a positive role in your little boys life. keep us updated, hope its a happy ending for your son xxx

 

[Dezireey]

The only positive thing was that I gave him the opportunity to leave, also said I would leave but he said 'no it's okay' and when I got LO out of the car and sat him on my lap he could have just ignored him, said a few words and left but he stayed so at least that's something. I'm not holding out that it'll come to anything much as FOB's life is not good at the moment but I will let you know if he sees him again and what happens. I just hope he's not thinking I duped him into seeing him, I genuinely didn't have a babysitter and told him I'd leave if he couldn't cope with it, so.

 

[whatwillbe]

I hope finally seeing his son gets him thinking and he starts to play a proper role in his sons life x